Love & Relationships

13 Mistakes B*tches Don’t Make With a New Guy (from Sherry Argov’s Why Men Marry Bitches)

So, I’ve been binge reading Sherry Argov’s Why Men Marry B*tches, and even though I don’t agree with everything in the book, it’s been a worthy read.

I’m preparing a post on Relationship Quotes from Sherry Argov’s Why Men Marry Bitches, but I decided to put this short one up before I’m done with it.

In relationship principle 20, Sherry says, “As soon as a woman hands a man a more serious commitment on a silver platter, he’ll be reluctant to take it.”

mistakes not to make with a new guy

She opines that there are things women do innocently at the inception of a relationship to ”move things along” and try to make a man commit, but these things scare men off.




Thus, based on the feedback she got from her interview with men, women should note these ‘donts’ when dealing with a new guy:

 

1. Don’t introduce him as your “boyfriend”
right away. This suggests to a man that
you are setting up for the long haul, and
you want to preserve the impression you
are still undecided.

 

2. No lover’s gazes. To you it’s romantic. But
to him, he’s being eyed up like prey no
different than the way a lion looks at a gazelle.

 

3. Don’t leave your toothbrush or a hair dryer at
his place.

 




4. With voice messages, shorter is better.
And don’t profess your love from the
mountaintop.

When you leave a message, say
your name and your number as though it’s
the first (and last) time you could be
calling. This translates: unobtainable.

 

5. Don’t give him framed pictures of you for
his home and office. And no shots fired
through the ex-girlfriend’s photos, either.

 

6. Don’t mention his family or bring him over
to meet yours until he gets serious with
you. It never fails. Your great-grandma will
call him by every ex-boyfriend’s name

 

7. Don’t drop the “L-bomb” within the first
couple of months. You don’t love him, you
don’t love the sex. You like the sport coat.
Good enough.

 




8. Don’t use new age words like we, us,
ours, destiny, soul mate, or anything with
a “togetherness” feeling. Don’t use catch
phrases like it was meant to be or the
universe brought you to me. If he hasn’t
made up his mind yet, sappy words will
scare the daylights out of him. Let him be
the first to use those words with you.

 

9. Don’t tel him about your therapy sessions,
antidepressant drugs, or childhood issues.

I wrote something similar in my blog post 5 Things Not to Tell Your Boyfriend Yet.

 

10. Don’t try to be Mary Poppins or give him
the “I’m trustworthy” speech. Don’t tell him
you love charity work, orphans, and old
people. Don’t say, “I would never lie in a
relationship.” If you do, he’l know you’ve
just told your first lie.

 

11. Don’t try to rearrange his furniture to make
your visits more tolerable. He’l think you
are moving in. Don’t try to feng shui his
place. Leave it the way you found it:




 

12. Don’t buy wifelike items such as towels or
sheets. If you buy a gift, get something
less intimate.

 

13. If he introduces you as his girlfriend, don’t
gleeful y do a victory dance, like you just
won the mother lode. Give him a saucy
look and say, “Is that so?”

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