booty call meaning and signs
love,  Relationship and Family

Booty Call: Meaning and 15 Signs That You Are One

Humans are social animals, we are made to love and to be loved. When we attain adulthood, we start to crave intimacy, usually with the opposite sex. We want soulmates or that special person we can spend the rest of our lives with. However, sometimes, because life isn’t black and white, things don’t always go as planned.

Some people are not lucky to find the special someone yet, while some are in love with someone but they don’t know if the feelings are mutual and or if motives are different.

What’s Booty Call?

Booty call is simply a meeting arranged for the purpose of having sex and also the person to whom the call is made.

A man or a lady can be a booty call. However, at the risk of making a hasty generalization, I’d say women are usually the booty calls.

Though sometimes, adults can decide to be in a sexual relationship with no strings attached, but if you are one who wants something more or something that’ll last, then being a booty call is not the best for you. Jesus didn’t die for you to be a booty call. Amen?

So, what are the signs that you are a booty call? How will you know if the feelings are mutual in a relationship and that you are not just warming his bed?

Here are 15 signs that you might be a booty call.

15 Signs That You Might Be a Booty Call

  1. He’s not interested in you but interested in your body or having sex with you.  

booty call

One of the signs that a man loves you is that he is interested in YOU. A man who makes you his booty call will not be interested in you (your desires, fears, concerns, dreams, and progress) but he’s more interested in frequent romps with you. He’s more excited to discuss ways to spice up your sexual activities than ways to grow and be more productive in other aspects of your life.

2. You rarely have any meaningful or productive conversation aside sex.

Communication is the soul of a relationship. A relationship without meaningful communication is like a car without fuel, it’ll go nowhere. Lovers in a normal relationship talk because this is how they get to know each other. If all your conversation is about sex, sex, and more sex, and how you can’t wait to eat each other up, then you might just be a booty call.

 3. Meeting place is always in his house, your house or any other place you can have sex.

While lovers can meet anywhere, it doesn’t make sense if where you meet every time is his house, your house or places where you can have sex like a hotel. People in a relationship should be able to do fun things together- go on a date, go the cinemas, visit friends together, go to fun places, take a walk etc…

 If he’s always uncomfortable about outdoor meetings but always prefers you to meet where it’ll just be you two so that you can have sex, you might just be a booty call. 

4. He’s never available when you need him except for sex.

A man who loves you will be there when you need him. Maybe not always, but most of the time. If not, what’s the point of the relationship?

A man who makes you his booty call will always give excuses why he can’t be there when you need him but if it is for sex, he’ll gladly show up.

5- Your instinct tells you he’s not serious about you, he’s probably serious about another person or you are just the side piece.

The saying, ”Trust your instincts,” usually holds true, especially for ladies.

Most of the time, you can’t give a logical explanation about what your instinct is telling you. It’s just like a hunch. But if you have trained yourself to understand your instinct, it can be a blessing to you.

So if you are not a suspicious or an insecure person, and you feel that something isn’t right, then your feelings might be correct.

6. Every meeting always ends in sex.

If you always end up in between the sheets after each meeting, no matter where and when, you might just be a booty call. Sexual attraction in a relationship is normal but self-control is a sign of maturity and even sometimes, respect.

7- He doesn’t share his plans with you or even for the relationship.

If a man loves you and is interested in you, he’ll have you in his plans. Remember the song, ”Baby, I’ve been making plans….”? Yeah, if he wants you for real, he’ll let you know where you stand in his life.

If he’s always eager to have your cookie, but no words from him about what you are to him or where you two are headed, then you are probably his booty call.

8. Your chats and messages are nothing but sexual.

If all your messages are centred around how your hormones are raging for each other, how he can’t wait to explore your body and take you to cloud nine, and no concern about how you are feeling or faring, then you might just be a booty call.

9. He boasts about nothing but his sexual skills. 

If he’s always boasting about nothing but his ability to get you sexually excited and fulfilled, then you need to watch out. How about him boast of his ability to make you happy and challenge you to be a better person or to achieve your goals? Must it always be about sex? Is that the only thing you are good for?

11. He calls you to meet up at very late hours.

If he’s always calling very late in the night to meet up in his house, your house or anywhere sex is sure to happen, then he might need you to ease some tension after the day’s stress.

12. He is not committed to you.

He might be committed to having sex with you and not committed to you. They are two different things. If he’s not committed to you, there are sacrifices he won’t make for you. But he can make some sacrifices that will earn him a taste of your cookie.

13. He’s always on your neck for sex.

I’ve had some ladies complain to me about how the men they’re dating are so demanding when it comes to sex. They are not comfortable with the fact that the men are so passionate about having sex with them but not passionate about other aspects of their lives. That might be a booty call alert.

14. He always introduces you to sex-related activities.

If the activities he introduces you to are always sex-related e.g sending you sex websites, asking you to check out strip clubs, wanting you to get drunk so that you can have drunk sex, persuading you to do phone sex, video sex or record a sex tape, or send him nudes, then you might just be a booty call.

15. If you want more or you feel you deserve more.

Like I stated earlier, if you want something real and lasting but you are not getting anything more than romps. If you feel you deserve better what you are getting and you are not fulfilled in the relationship, then it’s better to face the truth and take the bull by the horn.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *