People date for different reasons.
I get it.
It’d be wrong to assume that everyone dates for love.
So, yes, some people date for the sole purpose of having frequent romps.
If this is why you’re in a relationship, you can’t stop reading here. No hard feelings.
But if you want a relationship where you want to love and be loved in return, respected, and treated like the queen that you are, then you’ll want to be sure that you’re on the same page with the person you’re dating, and that he’s not using you to have a good time without your knowledge.
So, how do you know if a guy is just using you to catch fun and not really into you? How do you know if you’re just his booty call?
Here’s how to know:
#1 You do the do every time you see
Every single time you see, you can’t keep your hands off each other. Or, he can’t keep his hands off you.
If you guys don’t do the do, the date doesn’t make sense.
#2 You do the do wherever you meet
No matter where you guys are (inside the car, at a party, in the office, at home, a friend’s house etc), he wants you to do it, even when you don’t want to.
#3 He adds nothing to your life
One of the goals of being in a relationship is to have someone to encourage and support you to achieve your life goals.
If he’s doing nothing in your life except taking you to cloud nine, he might just be using you to catch fun.
He doesn’t care about your life goals, your dreams and aspirations. He doesn’t even care about your challenges.
#4 He boasts always of his ability to take you to cloud nine
He’s always boasting of his bedroom skills thereby making you look forward to seeing him for some action.
#5 Your meeting place
You’re always meeting where you can always do the do; his place, your place, cars in the dark etc…
#6 Meeting time
He always wants you to meet up late in the night when you’re too tired to have any meaningful discussion or when you’re likely to end up where you can both have some fun.
#7 Your communication
Your phone talks, chats, and messages are always about how you can’t wait to eat up each other when next you see.
Or, you keep reminiscing about the fun times you had together.
Let me stop beating about the bush. All you do is sexting!
#8 What he misses about you
The only thing he misses about you and being with you is the romps.
#9 His availability
He’s never available when you need him, except for some action of course.
He’s never willing to do anything for you or go an extra mile to please you or make you happy except he’ll get some action in return.
#10 His mood
He’s not always happy when you turn him down.
This is how you know a guy who is really into you or just into the action.
That’s why women are advised not to give in to sex until he’s put a ring on that finger.
If you give in to a man because you’re afraid he’ll leave, then, you’re in a wrong boat.
A man should be with you because he’s into you, not because of your coochie.
#11 Respect for your body
He’s doesn’t respect your body.
A man who loves you should respect it when you say NO.
He shouldn’t push it.
If he loves you, he’ll respect your body.
#12 His plans
Not only does he not share his plans with you, but he also doesn’t include you in them, except of course it has to do with getting some action.
#13 Requests for nudes
He might request for your nudes or even suggest you record a video of your ‘actions’.
And if you refuse, there’ll be trouble in paradise.
#14 He’s not interested in you
If someone loves you, they’ll be interested in you and in knowing you more.
But someone who’s with you just to catch fun will not care about who you are or want to know you more.
#15 Your feelings
If you feel you deserve more, then you do.
Because women are so blessed with the gift of intuition, we can always tell if we are being loved or used except for women who allow themselves to be blinded by emotions.
If you think you deserve more, then settle for more.
Don’t allow yourself to be treated like a piece of rag.
Know what you want and don’t settle for less.