There are a few things that cannot be hidden.
A pregnant woman, a woman who is loved in her marriage, and a woman who is not feeling loved in her marriage.
Of course, there are more things than this, but I believe you get the idea now.
When a woman is loved, you see it in her countenance even before she opens her mouth; she glows.
Similarly, some contrary signs are exhibited when a woman feels unloved.
In fact, in some cases, she might not even know she is exhibiting them.
They are just default responses to the way she feels.
Let’s take a look at those signs an unloved woman exhibits.
7 Signs A Woman Is Not Feeling Loved In Her Marriage
1. She Becomes Emotionally Distant
I remember having a crush on someone I thought felt the same way about me.
Most women probably relate to nursing their crush secretly until it passes because they don’t want to be disgraced.
However, I was free with him and opened my heart more to him because I assumed he felt the same way, and it was only a matter of time before he asked me out.
Well, he didn’t; instead, he told me about another lady he liked.
Guess what I did when I heard that?
I withdrew and pulled away because I felt unwanted.
I understand it was my fault for jumping to conclusions, but I wouldn’t have been that close to him if I knew the feeling wasn’t mutual.
So, when I found out, I withdrew.
What am I saying in essence?
When a woman is feeling unloved in her marriage, her default reaction is to pull away because she feels unappreciated and unwanted.
In fact, she might begin to feel insecure and feel like a burden when she tries to get close to her husband.
So, she may become more emotionally distant to save them both the trouble.
She will likely no longer share her thoughts and feelings like she used to.
Like I said, it’s not always intentional; it’s just a default reaction to not feeling safe enough to open up emotionally.
The distance is her way of protecting herself from feeling even more let down.
2. She Stops Communicating Her Needs
When a woman feels unloved, one of the first things she stops is voicing what she wants or needs.
She would ask herself, “Why bother?”
“Why ask if it’s never going to happen?”
So, she stops mentioning what’s important to her because she doesn’t see the point.
After all, the only man who will care about what she has to say is the one who loves her.
If he doesn’t, there’s no point wasting her breath.
She will stop talking about her dreams and asking for help with her usual everyday activities.
This isn’t because she no longer has those needs; she’s just stopped expecting them to be met because they were never met before.
If you notice your woman has stopped asking for anything or sharing her dreams, it might be worth asking yourself if she’s been feeling unloved.
3. She Withdraws From Physical Intimacy
I’m sure you have probably heard that women relate to sex more emotionally than men.
Even though I don’t wholly agree with this notion, let’s not bicker over it for now.
At least, I agree that when you love someone, sex with them is more than just a physical thing.
So, it is not surprising that pulling back from physical intimacy can be a natural response for a woman feeling unloved.
Because of her feelings for her husband, intimacy requires feeling safe, cherished, and connected.
When that feeling isn’t there, it doesn’t feel the same.
Away from the bed, she could also become less interested in affection, hugs, or cuddling.
For some women, while they might still participate if their husband initiates it, he will notice that their heart is no longer in it as it used to be.
4. She Prioritizes Other Relationships Over Her Marriage
This point is quite tricky.
Let me tell you why.
A while back, I saw a post where women were accused of neglecting their husbands when children came.
Some people might disagree, but I understand what the person is saying.
That’s why this situation is tricky.
Sometimes, when a woman neglects her husband or doesn’t pay him as much attention when the children come, it’s not so much because she doesn’t feel loved.
After all, she is busy and overwhelmed.
However, at other times, especially when she turned to relationships other than that of her children, it is a testament to something more.
If she prioritizes her relationships with friends, family, work, and so on over her marriage, she is seeking solace from those relationships.
She is simply filling that emotional gap that her partner may not be meeting.
And yes, sometimes, women turn to their children when they don’t feel loved by their husbands.
The children become the source of their joy, and they use them to meet the emotional needs their husbands do not meet.
5. She Shows Little Enthusiasm For Shared Activities
Shared activities are usually the fun part of a relationship.
I know I love it when my boyfriend and I read a book or watch movies together.
It’s not even so much the activity but spending time together, enjoying something we both enjoy.
So, when a woman is feeling unloved, she might lose interest in doing things as a couple.
I enjoy these activities with him because I love him and know he feels the same way.
If he didn’t, they won’t hit as much again.
The excitement will fade because it’s hard to enjoy activities when you feel unappreciated.
So, if your wife is not as enthusiastic about spending time together, it’s often a sign that something deeper is bothering her.
See it as a signal that she wants more from your marriage to make it enjoyable again.
6. She Becomes Less Interested In Resolving Conflicts
You know how we only really argue and try to fix things with people we care about?
When a woman feels unloved in her marriage, she may stop caring enough to resolve conflicts.
This usually happens when she has checked out and has grown indifferent.
Nobody stresses themselves arguing over someone when they no longer care about them.
Also, nobody cares to argue when they feel like nothing has changed.
She might just let things slide or not engage when there’s a disagreement, which can be confusing.
Ideally, a woman will want to talk things through with her husband.
But if she seems distant or unbothered, it usually means she’s feeling emotionally exhausted and has lost hope that talking things out will improve anything.
7. She Begins To Focus Intensely On Personal Goals And Interests
A particular man sent a rant on one of these anonymous things that was trending on Twitter a while back.
According to him, he and his wife decided she would become a housewife going into marriage.
But years into it, she suddenly changed – she started a business, started making money, and stopped caring about him.
Many women commented that a woman doesn’t just switch up like that.
Something must have happened for the woman who agreed to be a housewife and even did it for a few years to change.
They asserted that something must have happened that made her feel unsafe with the arrangement.
Seeing that the court of public opinion was against him, he sent another message, admitting to having stepped out just once.
I’m saying “just once” because that was how he trivialized it to justify himself, not because I agree with him.
I’m sure you get the point by now.
A woman who feels loved in her marriage will feel safe enough to let things go and allow her husband to handle things.
But when she no longer feels safe – which comes with not feeling loved – she will focus on herself, and that includes her career or business, new hobbies, relationships, and life goals.
On the one hand, she is pouring herself into other parts of her life to fill a void and create her own source of validation.
On the other hand, it is a way to create a safety net in case the man finally leaves – which she might think he will – or becomes completely unbearable.
This way, she won’t be totally blindsided and caught off-guard; she will have something to bank on.
Of course, a wife focusing on her personal goals is great and even welcome.
But when she feels more invested in her own world than in the marriage, it might mean she’s trying to find fulfillment outside of an emotionally lacking marriage.