You don’t often come across articles on how to make a man respect you. Do you? But there are unlimited books and articles on how to make a man love you or love you more. This is because we’ve been fed with the stereotype that ‘men want respect, women want love’. There are even a bunch of books bearing that title. I don’t know about you, but for me, there’s no love without respect. I feel loved and honoured when I’m respected. Why do you need to know how to make him respect you? Because a man may love you and not respect you because they’ve also been made to…

Is love ever enough?  Some say love is enough, some others argue that love is not enough. I’ll say it depends on individual’s definition of love. For the purpose of this post, let’s agree that love is that deep feeling of affection and attraction you have towards someone. A lot of people assume that this should be enough. After all, if you care about someone, it’s natural that you treat them right and make them happy. But this isn’t as simple as it sounds. Many relationships and marriages crash. It happens everywhere, all around us. This isn’t always as a result of lack of love. It’s not strange to find…

I remember feeling offended by what hubby said one day. So I got moody, gave laconic replies to his words, and frowned all over the place. In my mind, I expected him to know that I was hurting, so I went on like that for hours while he carried on normally. He probably thought I wanted to be calm that day. Then I remembered teaching at Sunday school that assumption is the lowest level of knowledge and a precursor to poor communication. I put my teaching into practice and told him we needed to talk. I poured out my mind to him, he did the same, and we were able…

Conflicts are normal occurrences in every relationship/marriage. Conflicts cannot be prevented, they can only be managed. One of the ways to manage conflicts is not to say things that could hurt your partner in ways that will do an irreparable damage to your relationship. Conflicts will come and go, but words spoken during conflicts (even if you didn’t mean them) could linger for long, and even lead to the end of a relationship. I learnt this the hard way, and I shared my story here. It is usually hard to set things right after saying mean and hurtful things to each other during a fight. It is better you do…

You would think that every lady who is in a relationship would be excited to say ‘yes’ when her man pops the question. But this isn’t always the case. While men have reasons why they haven’t proposed to their women yet, women also have reasons for turning down their men’s proposals. These are the usually the top ten reasons women turn down marriage proposals: Ten Reasons Women Turn Down a Marriage Proposal 1. It’s too soon It’s not just men who love to take their time before taking a relationship to the next level. Some women don’t want to be rushed as well. Timing is different for every lady. What…

At different times, depending on the values and principles we hold dear, we may want different things from different relationships.  This is usually not an issue when we are with a man who is on the same page with us; the problem is that this is not always the case. If we want friendship with benefits or we want something casual, then it really doesn’t matter if he is playing us or not. However, if we want something serious, then it is important that we know if he is serious. So, how do you know if he is serious with you or a time-waster?   If you are second-guessing your…

Even though the number of marriages ending up in divorce is on the increase, marriage is still a desirable thing and love is one of the gifts of life. Perhaps you’re in a relationship and you can’t wait to walk down the aisle with the love of your life. While this is a beautiful thing, it’s crucial to be sure of some things. There are many questions you should ask your intending spouse to know each other well and be sure you’re headed towards the same direction. However, in my few years of dating, marriage, listening to married people, and helping people to deal with marital issues, I realize that…

Doing the same thing over and over again with the same person in the same place could get boring. This is why many conclude that physical intimacy in marriage is boring. Read>>Top ten reasons most couples no longer enjoy intimacy. Isaac Newton’s first law of motion states that, “an object will remain at rest unless acted upon by an external force. That is, objects will remain in their state of motion unless a force acts to change the motion.” You see? That means nothing will change except you enforce a change. If you want intimacy between you and your spouse to be top notch, then you’ve got to shake things…

Getting along with a man’s family is such a big deal, especially for men who come from a close-knit family. You have to feel welcomed and be a part of them. This isn’t always a walk in the park for various reasons. I am of the opinion that it is the man’s family’s decision to love or accept you. However, you can also influence their decision in some ways. Below are tips that could help you win over your man’s family: 1. Be yourself Be original. Nothing beats originality. Don’t try to be someone else to make an impression. If you are jovial, don’t stop being jovial when you are…