When I see men who are obsessed with their wives, I wonder if it’s because she’s amazing or it’s just who the man is.
Having gotten the privilege to experience it myself, I mean the delight of being loved lavishly by my husband continually, I can say a thing or two about it.
Here’s what I’ve arrived at; it’s a mixture of both.
It’s first because the man has love within him to give.
Some men don’t show lavish love to their wives, no matter how amazing she is.
So, a good part of it has to do with the man.
But it’s also about the wife.
Something she’s doing is fueling the love and making it burn.
The same applies to men who can’t stop thinking about their wives.
Have you met such men?
They’re always going on and on about their wives.
Even when she’s not physically in a room, as long as he’s there, she’s also there somehow because he’s constantly thinking about her, making her a huge part of his conversations, decisions, and life.
It’s because these men love their wives, but also because of certain things the wives do.
I’m about to share those things, so if you’d like to step up your game as a wife or are just curious, this is one post you don’t want to miss.
I’m telling it all.
Men Who Can’t Stop Thinking About Their Wives Have Wives Who Do These 10 Things
1. Takes care of them
There are many reasons our mums hold a special place in our hearts.
And one of the strongest reasons is how they nurture and look after us.
You see people who are fully grown and are possibly celebrities, CEOs, or captains of industries, but they soften when their mums call them.
You see a new side of them when they speak with or about their mum.
You have to be a special breed of selfish to forget or ignore someone who tends to your needs and shows you great care and support.
People naturally remember those who have been kind to them.
This is how these wives grab their husbands’ mumu button (get the keys to his heart).
They make it their duty to attend to that man.
Even in our generation where everyone is trying to be woke and hard even in their love lives, these wives dare to be different.
They show their husbands high levels of care, not to a point where they make themselves slaves or make the man useless, but to a healthy degree that makes their husbands feel treasured and valued.
People often emphasize how wives want to be taken care of and should be cared for by their husbands, and I’m not against that.
If anything, I’m very pro-” treat your wife like your baby sometimes.”
But people quickly forget that even the husband is human and loves some pampering too.
Wives who do it unlock new levels of love in their husbands’ hearts.
2. Invest in themselves
It’s about what these wives do for their husbands, but not all about it.
It’s also about what they do for themselves.
The secret to being irresistible is not always about your actions; it’s also about the quality of your person.
Women whose husbands can’t stop thinking about them are women who put a lot into themselves.
They don’t just let themselves go and make their lives all about their husbands.
Instead, they treat themselves like a big deal because they know they are.
These women put good efforts into being better versions of themselves.
From their looks to how they carry themselves to how they lead their lives, they ensure they make themselves assets.
Their husband can’t stop thinking about them because they’re always up to something new and improving in different areas of their lives.
If you had such a woman as a friend or sister, she’d be on your mind often too because she’s always making giant strides; if it’s not a new certification, it’s an updated and more polished appearance, or a new language that she’s learning.
She’s just never sitting back and allowing life to happen to her; she’s holding the steering wheel of her life and moving well.
Pursuing the things she is passionate about and keeping her life healthy and active.
With such a woman, you can’t always know everything she’s up to because her mind is always working to improve.
And this air of mystery is another reason her husband can’t get her off his mind.
3. Prioritize intimacy with them
If we’re being honest, we all know that men love it when their wives can throw it down in the bedroom.
It’s just a fact.
I know how my husband’s face lights up all day every time we have passionate, intimate moments together.
It’s in our wiring as humans to desire intimacy and sex.
And this is one of the ways these wives ensure they’re unforgettable.
They prioritize spending quality time with their men and put effort into enjoying their intimate moments and making it enjoyable for them too.
You’re unlikely to forget the woman with whom you had an unforgettable night.
Especially if those nights happen often.
4. Give wise counsel
This is one thing these wives have hacked.
It’s a secret key to being unforgettable.
Being a woman who can offer constructive feedback and a word or two that is helpful, especially in difficult situations, is a flex.
Such women are never taken for granted.
Unless they are with men who don’t appreciate them and don’t see the value of wisdom.
But in a normal, healthy relationship, women who know how to give helpful advice and provide insights in dicey situations are women who have their husbands constantly hooked.
5. Are soft with them
As we already established, women are not the only ones who enjoy and appreciate special treatment.
Men desire it too!
Unfortunately, many wives ignore this desire and leave their men starving of affection.
Being an affectionate wife is a sure way to make your husband keep you as a treasure in his heart.
Men who can’t stop thinking about their wives have wives who are soft and kind to them.
Women who surprise them with gifts, touches, hugs, and kisses during random moments.
They’re kind in their words and don’t nag or give harsh criticism even when they have concerns.
No normal person loves negativity, so being a woman who is soft and kind makes him look forward to being with you.
6. Support them
“My wife is my biggest motivation.”
If I were to count the number of times I’ve heard my dad say this, I’d lose count.
He never stops talking about how his wife, my mum, challenges him in a good way.
And how everything he has achieved today is because she was beside him to encourage him.
I learned that wife hack effortlessly just by watching my parents.
Many husbands have their wives constantly on their minds because of the way these women show interest in them and motivate them.
These wives are their biggest cheerleaders and support systems.
They know that having such a woman in their life is one of life’s greatest blessings.
7. Respect them
Men cherish it when their wives respect them.
It gives them such inexplicable feelings of importance and value.
I used to wonder why people say men love respect because, in my opinion, everyone does, and whether male or female, we all deserve to be respected.
But over time, I’ve come to understand what that statement means.
There is a part of men that feels of importance and esteem, especially from their significant other.
Not in a domineering and suppressing way – that is not healthy.
But in a wholesome way.
A man might not be a big deal to many people out there, but when he is with his wife, he wants to feel like a big deal.
When his cravings for acknowledgment and appreciation are met by his wife, their marriage is taken to a new level.
Wives who have their husband’s full attention are wives who shower them with appreciation and acknowledgment.
These women speak highly of their husbands in public and private.
They make him feel needed and valued.
And if the marriage is healthy, this will go both ways.
8. Understand them
A woman becomes unforgettable to her husband when she’s thoughtful and understanding.
Every husband is different.
You have to observe yours and understand his uniqueness to have a smooth sailing.
These wives take the time to study and understand their husbands.
They know what the man likes and doesn’t like and use that information to the advantage of their marriage.
You’ll find them speaking to the man about the things he’s passionate about and connecting with him emotionally.
They make their presence a place of peace and comfort for him.
So even when he leaves her physically, he’s still thinking about her because of the peace her presence brings.
She shows him that she understands and accepts him fully, there are no judgements, and he can always count on her.
If you had someone like this, would you let them off your mind?
9. Keep the spark alive
If it’s not a surprise picnic, it’s his favorite meal on a random Wednesday or a new lingerie she puts on unannounced.
Or an enchanting new scented candle that makes the whole house smell like heaven.
The adventure, spontaneity, and excitement make the wife stand out even after years of marriage.
She creates special traditions that are unique to them and their family and make them beautiful.
The house is no longer just a house; it’s a home.
A warm, welcoming, hospitable home.
10. Are fun to be around
There are no bad vibes, unnecessary mood swings, nagging, or constant harsh criticisms from her.
Wives whose husbands can’t stop thinking about them are fun to be around.
They make the atmosphere of the home sweet and light.
There is no cloud of anger, sadness, or hostility hanging over the heads of the husbands and children.
These women maintain a good sense of humor and allow their husbands to see their playful side.
They’re women their husbands look forward to spending time with after a long day.
They know how to have fun, and it’s contagious.
The best thing about these qualities they possess is that they’re not only healthy and helpful for their husbands and their homes, but they’re also wholesome traits for their personal life.
So they’re winning their husbands’ hearts while living their best lives, getting the best of both worlds.