Unfortunately, the way the world is, it is not enough to see a good-looking man and call it a day.
You also need to check if he is the right type of man to date because there are some absolutely worst types of men to date.
And let me tell you, they are called that because there is no other way to sugarcoat it.
Dating them will be like throwing yourself into an abyss, and I believe you don’t want that.
I know I don’t.
That’s why I want to help the ladies identify them because sometimes we take some of these things for granted.
That said, continue reading to see those men you should avoid like a plague.
13 Absolutely Worst Types Of Men To Date
1. Insecure Men
The insecure man is at the top of the list, not because he is worse than the rest – they are all equally bad – but because his insecurity leads to other things.
If he were to be insecure and it wouldn’t affect you in any way, there probably wouldn’t be an issue.
But an insecure man can also sabotage your success because he can’t handle it.
He’ll abuse you when you are walking out of line, manipulate you to keep you stuck with him, and even cheat on you because he needs external validation.
Do you now see the danger?
However, even without all that, dating an insecure man will feel like constantly walking on eggshells because you will constantly need to stroke his ego for him to feel good about himself.
He will need constant validation, read too much into your every move, and low-key see every confident guy as a threat.
At first, it might not seem like much, but soon, his neediness will become suffocating.
That’s expected because a relationship should feel safe, not like you’re stuck trying to manage someone else’s self-esteem.
2. Men With A Temper
Run!
Don’t walk out of a relationship with a man with a temper; run!
In fact, don’t date him once you notice it at the talking stage.
A man who can’t manage his temper is a ticking time bomb; one moment, he’s fine, the next, he’s snapping over something tiny.
Sometimes, it might not even be something you can control.
Bad traffic can set him off, and God help you if you live in a big city where that is inevitable.
You will constantly be at the receiving end of his temper, and he could even turn violent.
So, no matter how “kind” or “sweet” a man is to you, if he lashes out, yells, punches walls, or throws things when he’s angry, believe him the first time.
That kind of anger is dangerous; you don’t need it around you.
Even if he has never turned it on you, it is only a matter of time.
You are not special; if you think you are, you will soon find out the hard way if you stay there.
But I don’t want you to, so I am pleading with you, run!
3. Liars
A man who lies – no matter how small – can’t be trusted.
Sure, white lies happen; he’s human, after all, but lying to deliberately deceive you on things that matter is unacceptable, especially if it happens constantly.
If a man lies about where he is, who he’s with, or anything that affects your peace of mind, he’s not worth it.
It’s exhausting trying to piece together and always second-guessing everything he says.
That’s no way to live; you need honesty to build a healthy relationship.
4. Mama’s Boys
This is quite tricky because loving your mom is cute; it is even a green flag—it is a good indication that he might treat women right.
However, when it starts crossing the boundaries of love into being completely dependent on her, there’s a problem.
If you’re dating a man who can’t make a move without calling his mother, you might be the third wheel in your own relationship.
If she controls his life, his decisions, or worse, how he treats you, you’ll always come second.
You want a man who can lead, not one still tied to his mother’s apron strings.
5. Rude And Disrespectful Men
I always say the way to know someone is by watching how they treat others, especially those they don’t have to be nice to – like waiters.
If he’s rude to waiters and talks down to people he believes are beneath him, you don’t need an angel from heaven or a vision to know you are dealing with an unpleasant person.
Again, if you think you are special, you need to stop thinking that way.
If he can’t show basic respect to others, it’s only a matter of time before that behavior is aimed at you.
So, even if he supposedly treats you with respect but disrespects everyone else, he is still not the right person to date.
One day, he will show you that’s who he is.
But if he doesn’t even respect you, you have your answer.
A man who lacks manners and doesn’t know how to treat people with kindness isn’t someone you want to build a life with.
Respect should be the bare minimum in any relationship.
Don’t settle for someone who acts like you’re lucky just to be around him.
6. Promiscuous Men
If he’s known for being a “player” and wears that title like a badge of honor, don’t fool yourself into thinking you’ll be the one to change him.
Promiscuous men often treat relationships like games and women like trophies.
Even if he says he’s ready to settle down and his actions will tell you otherwise, you shouldn’t bother with that relationship.
A man who is constantly flirting, sending DMs, or chasing everything in a skirt is not worth your time.
You deserve someone who values loyalty, not someone who avoids commitment like a plague.
7. Emotionally Unavailable Men
Dating an emotionally unavailable man is like trying to hug a ghost; he’s there physically, but not present.
He won’t open up, avoids deep conversations, and shuts down when things get real.
So, what’s the point?
Why waste time with a man who you are yourself pouring into while you get crumbs in return?
You don’t deserve a relationship where it feels like you are single.
You can’t fix him; let him go.
8. Abusive Men
This one’s non-negotiable; an abusive man should be every woman’s deal breaker.
And it doesn’t even have to be physical; emotional, verbal, financial, or even psychological abuse is intolerable.
A man who constantly belittles you, tries to control your every move, or makes you feel small is abusive.
And no, it’s not your fault; don’t let him or society tell you that, nor should you fall for his “I’m sorry” while he never changes.
If you’re in this situation, please prioritize your safety and get help.
You do not deserve to be hurt or manipulated.
9. Controlling Men
A controlling man might seem like he’s just protective or really into you, but you will soon start to feel the truth that it is not love driving him; it’s insecurity.
Controlling men are insecure, so they will try to dictate who you talk to, what you wear, and even how you think.
They disguise it as love, but it’s really about power; they want to show they are powerful because they don’t really feel like they are.
But that’s really on them; it is not up to you to help a man feel powerful if he doesn’t feel it.
A healthy relationship encourages partnership, not dictatorship.
Don’t put yourself in that prison.
10. Men Without Ambition
There’s nothing wrong with taking your time in life or still trying to find your way, but a man who has no goals, drive, or plan is a huge red flag.
If he’s content with doing the bare minimum, constantly making excuses, and waiting for success to just fall into his lap, you’ll end up carrying the weight of the relationship.
You want a partner with a vision – someone who’s striving for something, even if it’s still in progress.
Let me clarify, though, that ambition doesn’t mean being rich; it just means being willing to grow.
A man who doesn’t want to grow and take responsibility for his life is not worth your time.
11. Men With Too Much Ambition
On the flip side, a man who’s too ambitious is also just as problematic.
If he’s constantly chasing the next goal, obsessed with success, and treats you like an accessory, you’ll always come second to his grind.
While he should chase the bag, having balance is vital for someone who also wants a relationship.
If he doesn’t, then he shouldn’t be with you; but if he does, you deserve to also be a priority.
Ambition is attractive, but it is an issue when he neglects everything for it.
You shouldn’t be with someone who makes you feel like a distraction instead of a priority.
12. Men With Addictions
Addiction is a serious struggle, and while we should show empathy for people struggling with it, we don’t have to date them.
Besides, love can’t fix them; they must decide they want to be well to heal.
So, if he’s battling substance abuse, gambling, or any form of addiction and refuses to get help, you’ll find yourself in a chaotic, unpredictable relationship.
You’ll become more of a caretaker than a partner, and your emotional health will suffer.
It’s not selfish to choose your peace over his problems, especially when he’s not willing to change.
Plus, if you ask me, I don’t believe someone battling with addiction should be in a romantic relationship.
This is because relationships can be tough, and they don’t need emotional upheaval in their lives until they can do without the object of their addiction.
But that’s just me; if you don’t agree, it’s valid, but make sure you protect yourself if you are with someone who doesn’t want to change.
13. Childish Men
Unfortunately, sometimes, maturity is not by age.
Some people are grown in age but are in kindergarten emotionally.
A man like that should be avoided.
A childish man flees from responsibility, blames everyone else for his problems, and thinks commitment is a joke.
Such a man might be fun at parties, but when real life hits, like bills, conflict, and future planning, you will find that he is nowhere to be found.
Relationships require maturity, and if he’s still acting like a boy, don’t waste your time trying to raise a man.
Except, of course, you are not looking for a partner but someone to mother.
This list is not exhaustive, as there are many men who will be terrible to date.
For example, men who string you along, married men, narcissistic men, men who fear commitment or don’t communicate should also make the list.
If you meet any of these men, do yourself a favor and walk away.
Scratch that – RUN!