Ladies, let us talk.
The truth is that not all of us have always been “that girl,” and by that girl, I mean the one that all the men are falling over themselves for.
But every one of us most likely knows one or two girls like that.
We’ve met them and seen them in different places: at the office, hangouts, church, mosque, etc.
And while as girls, we’re not living our lives for the sole purpose of getting men’s attention, we can’t deny the fact that it does feel good to be able to draw the attention of the men we like.
Even when we do have their attention, we still have the power to make them fall harder for us.
And it’s not always by the serious things we strategically do; sometimes it’s just by some of your behaviors as a lady.
These behaviors may look simple to you, but they have the power to make a man fall deeper for you.
6 Behaviors That Instantly Make Men Fall Deeper For You
1. Respect and honour
Many young women get irritated when they hear the “Men want to be respected” lecture, and I can’t blame them because it can be annoying sometimes.
They say that everyone deserves to be respected, and I agree.
However, it seems to be emphasized for men because many men desire it more than women do.
Men love it when their women show them respect and treat them with esteem.
It just makes them happy and excited in a way that I don’t quite know how to explain.
Think of it like how being given the princess treatment by your man makes you feel like a lady.
It’s a similar feeling for men.
So, if you’re a lady who has a culture of respect and consideration, this habit can make your man fall deeper in love with you.
And by respect, I don’t mean treating him like a god and beating yourself down so that he feels good.
What I mean by respecting him is speaking to him with honor, listening to his opinions even when you don’t agree, and trusting his leadership (while still being strong and independent).
This behavior makes a man feel like a King beside you.
He doesn’t feel demeaned, criticized, or judged.
Your ability to balance receiving from him (his love, protection, provision) while still being your independent person is powerful.
You might not know it, but by prioritizing and esteeming your man, you’re embracing your femininity, and this allows him to stand strong in his masculinity.
Your presence doesn’t make him feel challenged; if anything, it makes him feel complete, and he wants to go above and beyond for you.
2. Being a confident woman with boundaries
People tell me I can be very tough, and I know they’re right, but it’s not from a place of hostility or unnecessary harshness.
It’s from knowing what I want and standing for it.
I’m confident in myself as a person, and I don’t play around with my boundaries.
My husband never gets tired of telling me that this is one of the things he admires most about me.
Being a woman who knows who she is and what she wants and is firm with her principles is gold.
It’s a healthy way to live and it’s also very attractive.
An equally confident man will appreciate this trait and love you more for it.
3. Always looking good
Men are very visual beings.
I mean, we all are, but men more.
They’re very moved by what they see.
And if what they see is their woman looking like a million bucks, it does something to them.
Your man is meant to love you no matter how you appear.
I mean, he should be attracted to you even when you’re in your element, wearing his oversized shirt and with no makeup on.
But if you make it a habit to put yourself together and look like a snack, it does help a great deal.
Women who always look good make their men fall deeper in love with them every time.
They might not be doing it to get his attention, but it does.
When you make it second nature to make your hair, get a mani and pedi, and wear cute stuff, you capture his heart even more.
4. Validating them
Some women know how to listen and lift people with their words, and this habit makes their men cherish them even more.
The thing about women like that is that they’re that way with everyone, even their female friends.
If you have a friend like that, then you know what I’m talking about.
She’s there for you, listens to you, doesn’t judge you, and makes you feel safe.
If you have this behavior, you’ll effortlessly strengthen your man’s love.
When you’re constantly letting that man know that he matters and deserves everything good, and you’re not pushing him down, criticizing him, or trying to fix him all the time, he’ll cherish you.
Many men are not always the best at expressing emotions, but when they do, they want to be heard, not psychoanalyzed.
When you can patiently listen without constantly correcting, advising, or criticizing, you make him feel safe opening up.
You make him feel emotionally secure with you, which only makes him want to be even closer to you.
5. Being able to make him laugh
Having a good sense of humor is always a plus, and it applies even in this case.
Apart from how attractive it is, laughter also brings intimacy.
If you can make your man laugh effortlessly—emphasis on effortlessly because trying too hard can be cringe-worthy sometimes—but his laughing at your dry jokes is part of the fun sometimes, though—you become someone he wants to be around all the time.
Life is stressful, but a woman who brings joy feels like home.
And it’s not always about cracking the funniest joke; sometimes it’s about doing little fun things like flirting with him like you guys just met.
This will make him connect with you more and keep the playful side of the relationship alive.
A woman who flirts, teases, and keeps the fun alive makes a man never want to stop pursuing her.
6. Mystery
Knowing how to stay mysterious as a woman is like a superpower.
It has a magical effect that works all the time.
When you don’t overshare everything all at once, instead, you let him discover you layer by layer.
You surprise him, challenge him, and keep him curious.
You’ll keep him on his toes, and he’ll adore you more.
Being a mysterious babe will make him feel like he’s always unlocking new dimensions of your personality, and this can make him obsessed with knowing more.
Most of the behaviors that make men fall harder for their women are not about how they look but about how those behaviors make the man feel or impact the relationship.
I know it sounds selfish, but it is just the truth.
I also have to point out that these behaviors come naturally and are not forced.
A man doesn’t fall in love with a woman because of how hard she tries to keep him.
He falls deeper because of how effortlessly she makes him feel seen, respected, and valued.
If you’re able to make your man feel like the best version of himself while being the best version of yourself, he’ll never want to leave.