Have you ever seen couples who just seem to laugh a lot together?
I am sure you have.
Their relationships are usually so enviable.
You just want to have a relationship like that.
But the truth is that such relationships are not built on luck.
They are built on intentional habits.
Does this mean that their relationships are always rosy?
Of course not.
Every relationship experiences highs and lows.
However, couples who laugh together often share a bond that helps them navigate the lows of marriage, manage stress, and keep the spark alive in the face of any challenges life may throw at them.
This ability is built on positive habits.
I am sure you are eager to know what these habits are.
I am eager to share them with you as well.
Here are some habits of couples who laugh together often.
9 Habits Of Couples Who Laugh Together Often
1. They find humor in everyday moments
I have met some overly serious people in my life.
They are so serious about life that even in private, they don’t know how to unwind and be less uptight.
Many of them are often shocked at how I approach life with a smile and a readiness to find humor in everyday occurrences.
They think I am unserious, but I think they are too serious.
I know life is serious, but life can also be funny.
People who enjoy life and their relationships are those who have learned to see humor in the little things in life.
Couples who laugh together often have learned this.
They know life is not so glamorous, and so they learn to laugh about little things.
Relationship life could involve spilled coffee, failed DIY projects, and even cooking mishaps.
Couples who laugh together often know how to see humor in these little situations.
For instance, a wife cooks a very salty meal, and instead of her husband criticizing her after taking the first bite, he smiles and says, “Salt must have gotten really cheap in the market.”
The only reaction to this is going to be laughter, and the correction is still taken.
She knows why he made the statement, but instead of getting resentful, she laughs it off.
This is why couples who laugh together have successful relationships.
They know how to laugh at situations that could have otherwise led to criticism and resentment.
Instead of frustration, they choose amusement, turning blunders into inside jokes.
2. They play together
When you listen to online discussions, you sometimes get the feeling that marriage is all about providing for the family and doing household chores, such as cooking and washing the dishes.
But it’s not.
Marriage is more than all those arguments between Twitter feminists and masculinists.
Marriage is beautiful, and couples should make time out to enjoy themselves.
Couples who laugh together often know this and make a habit of playing with each other.
They don’t spend all their time thinking about responsibilities and talking about tasks to be done around the house.
They also keep their inner child alive by playing with each other.
You shouldn’t.
These couples fight to keep their inner child alive by having fun together.
Whether it’s board games, silly challenges, or impromptu dance-offs in the kitchen, playful couples keep their inner child alive.
Play games with each other.
A lively game of Scrabble can do a lot to improve the bond between couples.
Playfulness naturally leads to laughter.
So, it shouldn’t be such a surprise that playful couples laugh together more often.
Laughter and playfulness don’t make you an irresponsible adult.
It just makes you a fun one.
Here’s a balance: be serious but also be playful.
Too much playfulness and a lack of seriousness can cause issues in a relationship.
Too much seriousness and no play could also make the relationship very boring.
So, strike a balance.
Do a little of both, and watch how magical your relationship becomes.
Even the mundane moments will become memorable ones because of this habit.
3. They watch funny shows or movies together
There’s a wonderful thing we do with our friends on Instagram – sharing reels.
People totally underestimate the power of that act.
The fact that someone can watch a reel and think of sharing it with me is touching.
It shows that they think of me.
It is what keeps the bond even during times when there isn’t much to say.
Couples who laugh together often have normalized watching funny shows or movies together.
They don’t just rely on their ability to see humor in everyday activities.
They also actively laugh together by watching their favorite shows together.
When I was a kid, there was a popular stand-up comedy event in Nigeria.
It was called “Night of a Thousand Laughs”.
My dad would repurchase the DVD of the event, and we would all watch it together.
It was a great way to bond and laugh over funny jokes.
Sharing a comedy special or binge-watching a hilarious sitcom creates shared joy.
Don’t think of these things as trivial.
They are not.
Couples who laugh at the same jokes often develop a similar sense of humor, which strengthens their emotional connection.
4. They tease each other
One time, a lady complained about how her boyfriend couldn’t handle even the lightest form of teasing.
He was older than her and had a warped expectation of respect from his girlfriend, which led him to think she was being rude when she teased him.
She didn’t know what to do because she realized that she couldn’t even playfully tease her man without incurring his wrath.
The truth is that you shouldn’t be like that man in your relationship.
Don’t be the partner that is too serious to handle a little bit of teasing.
Gentle, affectionate teasing is one important way to keep your relationship lighthearted.
I know you want to have meaningful conversations with your partner, but sometimes you need to be open to playful banters.
It’s important in relationships.
Couples who laugh together often know this.
They engage in light teasing of each other from time to time.
They do this to add a bit of fun to the relationship.
I already addressed one extreme: wanting to always be serious in your relationship and not knowing how to handle light teasing.
Now, there is another extreme that should be addressed.
There are certain individuals who lack a sense of personal boundaries.
They tease their partners beyond the boundaries of what can be accepted and go into the unacceptable without even realizing what has happened.
This is a problem.
There is a huge difference between friendly teasing and insults.
Couples who laugh together often know each other’s boundaries and always ensure that their humor is not hurtful.
A well-timed inside joke or playful nickname can lift the mood.
However, teasing without any clear boundaries can lead to very destructive outcomes.
5. They don’t take themselves too seriously
I have met people who take themselves too seriously, and I can honestly say that it affects their relationships.
Relationships are about intimacy.
You can always be put together and composed with your partner.
You can maintain that façade with the world, but when you are with your partner, you need to loosen up a little bit.
Couples who laugh together often are comfortable being goofy around each other.
Whether it’s making funny faces, making ridiculous impressions, or laughing at their own clumsiness, they are just so comfortable around each other.
I know an elderly man who is a retired military man.
To the public, he presents a frowning face and an intimidating stature.
People are literally scared of him.
However, in private, he is actually a funny and goofy person with his wife and those who are really close to him.
Sometimes, he would fall asleep with his phone in his hand and wouldn’t wake up until the phone fell out of his hand.
Then, he would wake up, look at his wife’s smiling face, and start laughing.
It may seem so silly, but this is one of the things that fosters intimacy in relationships.
This is the kind of vulnerability that builds trust and intimacy in marriage.
6. They use laughter to defuse tension
Even the happiest couples in the world have arguments.
It is just a normal occurrence in relationships.
The truth is that what separates happy marriages from unhappy ones is how they handle disagreements.
A couple recently moved into the flat next door, and just in the space of one week, they have had really violent arguments twice.
Today alone, they had loud fights three times.
I was shocked!
Three times?!
When it is not food?!
Some people don’t even eat three square meals anymore.
Anyway, couples who laugh together often know that unresolved conflicts can destroy a happy relationship.
They know how to lighten the mood when things get heated.
A well-placed joke, when appropriate, can break the tension and remind them that their love is greater than whatever disagreement they are having.
7. They create their own inside jokes
The best laughs often come from shared experiences.
My experiences in life and relationships have taught me this.
Happy couples who laugh together often have a habit of creating inside jokes from past experiences.
Whether it’s a funny vacation mishap or a weird habit one of them has, inside jokes can be created from these experiences.
Growing up, our family had several inside jokes.
Like one time, everyone thought a rat was eating the sliced bread in the house at night.
You would just wake up in the morning and find that the slices of bread had reduced by more than one slice.
Little did we know that the “rat” was my mother.
She used to snack a little on the bread loaf at night when everyone was asleep.
She wasn’t hiding to do it; she just got hungry at night and grabbed a few bites.
However, because we were all bread lovers with our eyes on the loaf, it always puzzled us to see it reduced by morning.
When we found out, it became an inside joke.
It’s still funny enough to crack up my parents now, more than twenty years later.
This is just an example.
There were several others.
So, create inside jokes with your partner.
It won’t make you less serious.
All it would achieve is strengthening the bond between you and your partner.
And that is a very good thing for you.
8. They have fun dates
Now, don’t get me wrong.
I love dinner dates, and yes, they can be so romantic and glamorous.
But sometimes, they can become routine.
Couples who laugh together often know this, and hence, they have a habit of prioritizing fun dates.
They seek out fun activities to enjoy together.
They do karaoke nights together with their kids and a few friends.
They may also try escape rooms or virtual reality games.
Those virtual reality games can be really fun.
Then, there’s my personal favorite- Paintballing!
I love it.
Apart from the action, this is one fun date to have.
There is always something to laugh at when you paintball with your partner.
So, just do it.
Have some fun together.
Try a new activity, and even if you fail at it, laugh hilariously with each other.
9. They appreciate each other’s laugh
I have seen many ladies say they have unusual laughter, and it’s surprising because I’m not aware of any exact rules about how laughter is supposed to sound.
One time, a friend even stopped laughing loudly because she said her boyfriend didn’t like her laughter.
So, she started suppressing her laughter to please him.
One important habit of couples who laugh together often is that they appreciate each other’s sense of humor.
They love the sound of their partner’s laughter and want to hear it often.
Couples who laugh together often don’t just enjoy good humor.
They also cherish and value the joy it brings to their relationship.
Ultimately, laughter keeps love alive.
Life is too short for you to be serious all the time.
Loosen up.
Couples who laugh together create a positive and joyful atmosphere for their relationship to thrive.
So, go ahead, be goofy, share a joke, and let laughter be a constant part of your love life.