Sometimes, life is unfair, and you can be a good woman doing everything you should, but still be stuck with a man who doesn’t appreciate you.
But on average, women who have husbands who adore them do because they have certain habits that make it easy.
The truth is that those happy marriages you admire and wish for didn’t happen because of wishful thinking.
No, they are results of people’s hard work and intentionality to pour into the marriage.
So, if you see a woman whose husband adores her, I’m willing to bet that nine out of ten times, it is because of certain things she is also doing.
In essence, as it takes two to tango, they are simply reciprocating each other’s intentionality towards the other.
I am sure you get the idea now.
So, all things being equal, if you want your husband to adore you, you should read about these habits and cultivate them in your life and marriage.
But what habits are we talking about?
I address them in this post; keep reading to learn more.
10 Habits Of Women Who Have Husbands That Adore Them
1. Speaks His Love Language
When I learnt about love languages, I thought it was a major breakthrough in explaining relationship dynamics.
Since I learned it, I have tried to incorporate it into my relationships—platonic and romantic—because I can see it works for friendships as well.
But enough about me!
The point is, seeing how big love languages can be, it is no wonder that women who have adoring husbands are those who know their husbands’ love language and speak it.
They are not selfish women who insist on their own language.
Rather, they learn to love their man in his own way.
For instance, if his love language is words of affirmation, they shower him with compliments.
And if it’s acts of service, they may regularly surprise him with his favorite meal.
When a woman takes time to learn and speak her man’s love language, he feels seen, valued, and deeply loved by her.
Trust me, when a man feels emotionally understood, he automatically adores you for it.
2. Appreciates His Efforts
Many women struggle with this because they feel they know better, especially when it comes to domestic work.
However, when a woman knows to recognize her husband’s efforts even if he’s not doing it perfectly or the way she wants it, she lights up his world.
Trust me when I say even a simple “Thank you, babe” goes a long way in making him feel good about himself.
That’s why women who have adoring husbands don’t take these things for granted.
They see the little and big things their man does and let him know he’s appreciated.
You might say they are just inflating his ego, and you’d be wrong.
They are simply honoring his heart because they understand you encourage people to do better when you appreciate them.
Plus, a man who feels like a hero in his own home will worship the ground you walk on.
It’s a win-win situation, if you ask me.
3. Shows Him Affection
Women whose husbands adore them are generous with affection.
In the first place, they initiate sex, which makes their husband feel desired.
They are not women who always wait for the man to reach out before they get intimate.
On the other hand, they show him affection in other ways – outside the bedroom.
They give him soft touches, hugs from behind and warm smiles.
They also reach for him when they sit close to each other, rest their head on his shoulders, and run their hands through his hair.
All these random soft touches communicate to your man that you’re still into him.
Men can act tough all they want, but we all know they crave affection too.
And when a woman keeps the warmth alive in the relationship, she becomes his comfort place.
4. Makes The Home Peaceful
If you put a group of men together and ask them what they want in marriage, many of them will mention peace.
Now, please understand that I’m not saying she will never get upset or have to turn into some quiet saint.
What I’m saying is that she creates a peaceful home, not a war zone.
That means she knows when to speak up and when to let things slide.
For instance, she doesn’t pick fights over socks on the floor or the shoe rack being unarranged.
Not because she is a doormat, but because she knows how to pick her battles and doesn’t bother about things that are not crucial.
She builds an atmosphere where her man isn’t afraid to come home to because he is always made to face the jury over what he does and doesn’t do.
As expected, her man will always want to come home to her because she has made the homefront peaceful and warm.
And he knows even if she raises a topic, it is because it matters, so he will engage and make an effort to change.
5. Flirts With Him
Women who are adored by their husbands know how to keep the spark alive by flirting like it’s still the early days.
They don’t just get the ring and relax; they still try their best to keep their man excited.
So, they give playful winks or a cheeky compliment.
They also don’t hesitate to pat his ass when he passes by or send him a flirty text in the middle of his workday; you know something he can look forward to when he gets home.
These things matter as they remind your man that you still see him, still want him, and still want to have fun with him.
Plus, honestly, life is already too serious, no need adding more seriousness to it.
Be fun and lively.
6. Drives Him Crazy
This is similar to the above, but not quite the same.
Women whose husbands adore them don’t just flirt, they also bring passion and a little mystery to the relationship.
I remember someone I know once saying she calls her husband to ask him if he has another wife elsewhere if he hasn’t called to check up on her in a while.
Sometimes, I tell my man he shouldn’t breathe if he hasn’t spoken to me.
Note that it is not like either of us means this seriously; it is just fun, and it makes him smile.
You know all those, “Would you still love me if I were a fly?” – yeah, that’s part of it.
Men may pretend to be frustrated by this, but trust me when I say they love it – it drives them crazy.
You need to keep your man on his toes in a good way and make your marriage exciting.
7. Brings Something To The Table
I know, I know! Women don’t like to hear this because it sometimes sounds derogatory.
I agree!
However, I feel like this is one of those things that we might not accept when a man says it, but we can accept it from other women.
So, as a woman myself, I just want to say that bringing something to the table means adding value to the marriage and your man’s life – emotionally, intellectually, financially, and spiritually.
One of the habits of a woman who is adored is that she is not solely dependent on her husband, and she pours into her man.
Understand that it is not just about contributing financially, but that she inspires him, supports his dreams, and has her own purpose too.
She’s not waiting around to be completed; she’s a whole vibe all by herself.
Men adore this kind of women who bring substance to the relationship.
It makes them proud to have her by their side.
8. Notices And Gives Him Attention
It’s easy to get caught up in kids, work, or even Netflix, but women who are adored by their men notice their men.
She catches when he wears a new cologne or a new haircut, sees when he’s tired, and listens when he talks about that annoying coworker.
She gives him undivided attention, even in the little moments where you wouldn’t expect her to.
And when a man feels like his woman really sees and hears him, he’ll go to the ends of the earth for her.
9. Plans Dates
There is a misconception that only men plan dates; that couldn’t be further from the truth.
Or at least, it shouldn’t be so.
This is why men specially adore women who don’t think this way.
This is why they love women who know that planning dates isn’t just sweet; it’s sexy.
You can plan dinner at his favorite spot or one at home after sending the kids to their grannies.
These little gestures show effort and thoughtfulness on your part, and they tell your man you enjoy spending time with him.
Plus, it brings back the energy you had when you just met.
Who doesn’t want that?
I know I do.
10. Pays Attention To Her Looks
Last but not least, she doesn’t let herself go.
This woman takes care of herself, not just for him, but because it makes her feel good.
She wears what flatters her, maintains personal hygiene, and keeps her glow.
I know it’s superficial, but still, men like it when heads turn when their woman walks into a room.
Luckily, you don’t have to be a supermodel to achieve this.
You just need to pay a little extra attention to finding a personal style that looks good and reflects you, and wear your confidence like a shield.
As I always say, confidence is attractive, so take pride in your identity.
When a man sees that you still care about how you show up, his attraction for you will never fade.