“A day and forever.”
That was the tagline for a wedding I attended recently, and I absolutely loved it.
The wedding was scheduled to take place that day, and they had forever to live out a beautiful love story that any author would love to capture on paper.
Almost every couple wishes for something similar on their wedding day.
To have a marriage with a partner who still remains passionately attracted to you after many years is counted as a blessing because the reality in most marriages is exactly the opposite.
With several stories of partners feeling less attracted to each other and especially those horror stories about cheating partners, it feels like it’s just wishful thinking to hope for a man who remains attracted to you forever.
But, it is not.
Some men remain deeply attracted to their wives for decades.
Of course, this doesn’t happen by accident or by just wishing it into existence.
Their wives have learned to nurture that spark in intentional ways.
If you have ever wondered what makes a man remain attracted to his wife forever – even when they are old and wrinkled – here’s an inside scoop.
Men Who Remain Attracted To Their Wives Forever Have Wives Who Do These 9 Things
1. They prioritize emotional connection
Life can get so busy, especially when you are married and you also have kids to take care of.
The truth is that it is not easy being a woman.
Women have too many things to do and yet are usually not as appreciated as they should be.
If you are a man reading this, think of all the times you should have appreciated your wife and start doing it.
Anyway, life can get really busy but a woman who remains attractive to her husband forever is the kind of woman that prioritizes emotional connection.
It’s not just enough to fall in love, get married, and have kids.
Couples need to build and nurture a strong emotional connection.
Women who keep their husbands hooked (in a good way) forever prioritize building emotional intimacy with their husbands.
I know many women talk to their partners but sometimes listening is also important.
These women don’t just talk, they also know how to listen attentively.
I had an ex who used to call me anytime she needed to vent.
She could call me several times on a particularly stressful day.
And yeah, while I loved listening to her, sometimes I had things going on with me, and she didn’t even know, because she usually didn’t give me the chance to speak.
Learning to listen to your man is very important.
It is very attractive when a wife listens attentively to her man, shares her thoughts and opinions calmly without drama, and shows unwavering support.
This sort of behavior strengthens the bond between couples and is also a sign of the strong emotional connection between them.
Men are drawn to wives who act like this because they feel like home to them.
2. They are spontaneous
Oh yeah, I know.
No one looks at their grandmas and pictures an exciting woman.
However, I know certain old couples who are among the most adventurous people I know.
They have some of the most thrilling stories of past adventures and are still spontaneous.
The secret to keeping a man interested in you is being unpredictable sometimes.
A spontaneous and occasionally unpredictable wife is a wife who can keep her husband attracted to her forever.
Note that I am speaking about being unpredictable in a positive way.
Some wives have unpredictable tempers and can do anything when they are angry.
That’s not the type of unpredictability I am talking about.
You know how marriage can sometimes become routine and boring?
Well, marriage to a spontaneous wife hardly ever gets boring because she knows how to switch things up from time to time.
Whether it’s silly inside jokes or surprise date nights, they infuse their marriage with joy and a little bit of spontaneity.
Spontaneity nurtures attraction.
It has this way of turning otherwise ordinary moments into really magical ones.
3. They communicate openly
One time, I had this relationship with a lady who felt communicating openly was an abomination for her.
She didn’t say this but she acted like this.
She loved to communicate with mood swings, parables, and signs.
Sometimes, I was sensitive enough to catch her meaning, but at other times, I was too tired to even bother.
We may talk about “forever,” but the reality is that life is too short to spend so much time puzzling over something your partner could have expressed clearly.
Women whose husbands remain attracted to them forever know the power of heartfelt discussions.
So, instead of communicating in parables or harboring resentment and other bottled-up emotions, they choose to communicate.
They tell their husbands when something is wrong.
They don’t just expect him to read their minds and instinctively know when something is wrong.
They communicate when they are offended to ensure their husbands know the impact of their actions and never repeat them again.
But they don’t just communicate when they are hurt or sad.
They express appreciation, love, and desires without hesitation.
A woman who appreciates her husband and expresses her desires clearly?
She is a treasure that should be preserved.
Any man who is lucky to have such a wife would treat her as such.
4. They value growing together
I have seen guys rejected for the most ridiculous reasons ever but I still can’t get over my friend being rejected because he didn’t have a car.
It was so sad.
Cars or worldly possessions should never be the standard for choosing a man to marry.
I understand that in recent times, many ladies desire the security of being with a man who is already made, but the truth is that wealth is fickle.
It could be all gone in a few years (of course, I am not referring to Elon Musk and Bill Gates’ type of wealth).
What I always say to my single female friends is that their first priority should be choosing to be with a man they love and who loves them back.
Also, they should take a critical look at his behaviors because the truth is that a man may love you and still be a walking red flag.
Don’t stay there, trying to change him.
You may just find yourself stuck especially if he isn’t amenable to changing.
As for financial security, ensure that he is a man who is hard-working and ambitious.
Things may not be so prosperous in the beginning but if you stay and grow with him, things will surely get better.
Wives whose husbands remain attracted to are women who don’t pursue perfection.
They value the journey of growth together.
They want to grow together with their husbands and that’s what makes them even more attractive.
They don’t put their husbands under unnecessary pressure to succeed.
They know life is a steadily progressive journey and encourage their husbands to consistently develop themselves.
They don’t nag their husbands or try to compare them with other people.
Comparing your husband to another man is one of the worst mistakes you can make as a woman because you may have just given him the green light to compare you with other women as well.
If you want to remain attractive to your husband forever, you need to embrace growing with him and avoid the temptation to nag him.
Nagging has never motivated any man.
It is very irritating.
5. They appreciate their husbands
When someone does something for you, it is only natural to say “thank you,” even if the person is a stranger.
This is why it feels so strange when partners can’t appreciate each other.
It’s too simple to be what messes up a lot of relationships.
But it does.
And it is really sad.
I am a man and I know that I love to be appreciated.
A little appreciation goes a long way in securing a man’s attraction.
Women who can hook their husbands’ attention forever are women who regularly appreciate and affirm their husbands.
They give them words of affirmation.
Not just for their big achievements but for even the little things.
The everyday efforts of their husbands are appreciated and this motivates their husbands to do more.
A kind word, a loving glance, or a heartfelt compliment always does a lot to sustain attraction.
When he dresses up, tell your husband how handsome he looks.
When he does things around the house, appreciate him.
He may just be doing his duty but even paid workers work better in working environments where bosses appreciate their work.
Cultivate the habit of appreciating your husband today.
6. They know when to give space
When I am attracted to someone, I want to spend a lot of time with them.
But that doesn’t mean I want to spend all my time with them.
This is the mistake some people make in relationships.
Because they love their husbands, they want to spend all their time with their husbands.
It’s cool to want to do this but you must realize when you are becoming too clingy.
Don’t stifle that man so much that he would rather stay at work than come home to you.
Wives who retain their husbands’ attraction forever know when to give their husbands space.
They love to spend time with their husbands but they also know when to give them space to focus on other things.
One of the most important reasons why wives should maintain a life of their own is to ensure that they have things to do when they give their husbands space.
These women don’t abandon their individuality for the sake of their marriage.
These women have hobbies, interests, and goals that excite them, and they share that excitement with their partners.
A wife who thrives in her own world is endlessly intriguing and attractive.
The additional fact that such a woman won’t be overly clingy makes her even more attractive to her husband.
Most men love to have some time to hang out with the guys.
And if they don’t hang out with the guys, they want it to be their choice.
Let him have that choice sometimes.
7. They are authentic
Authenticity is becoming a rare trait to find.
You look everywhere and you’d notice that most people seem to have lost their personalities.
They now try to go along with the crowd so much.
Most men are attracted to wives who are authentic.
A wife who is comfortable in her own skin is such a precious gem.
These wives have embraced their true selves.
They are at peace with who they are – the quirks, flaws, and passions that make them unique.
Of course, they work on their flaws but they don’t feel inferior because of them.
And that genuine vibe they carry everywhere?
It’s captivating.
No pretense.
No trying to be someone else.
And this quality is incredibly attractive to many husbands.
8. They take care of themselves
As much as a woman’s true beauty comes from within, we can’t talk about being attractive without talking about the physical aspect.
The truth is that we can’t stop ourselves from aging.
We can only delay it through self-care.
This is why women whose husbands remain attracted to them forever don’t play with self-care.
They realize that it is not selfish to take care of themselves.
It’s an essential part of life.
By involving in physical exercises, skincare, or just a simple quiet moment of reflection, these women boost their well-being and radiate vitality.
They take care of themselves and because of this, their husbands can’t help but take care of them too.
The truth is that you alone can set the standards for how others treat you and the best way to do this is by taking care of yourself.
After all, if you don’t take care of yourself, who will?
9. They never stop dating their husbands
Marriage is not the finish line.
It’s the beginning of a lifelong romantic journey.
The sad thing is that most couples treat marriage like it is that finish line.
Wives who keep their husbands captivated don’t stop dating them.
They plan adventures, dress up for each other, and continue courting as if they’re still trying to win his heart.
Being married is not the end of being fully invested in your relationship.
Flirt with your husband or other women will help you do it.
Tell your husband how attractive he is just the way you used to tell him when you were dating each other.
Ultimately, women who retain their husbands’ attraction are those who don’t get complacent in the relationship.
They know that marriage is the start of something beautiful and to make it work, they must keep giving every day.
When a wife brings her best self to the relationship—confident, joyful, and full of love—her husband won’t just notice.
He will spend a lifetime falling for her, over and over again.
While these habits keep a man’s attention, the truth is that lasting attraction is a two-way street.
It takes effort from both partners to keep the attraction alive!