Before I got married, each of the two times I had a breakup, I struggled to tell my friends and family about it.  If you are not like me, you might wonder why that is. The reason is that I felt I had failed each time, and keeping it a secret – until I couldn’t …

Every time my friend talks to me about the crises that rocked her marriage some years ago, I listen for two reasons. The first is that I want to be a good friend. Part of that is listening to your friends talk about the things they consider important. The second reason is the lessons I …

I have never liked it when people played the blame game. Apart from being immature, it often shows a reluctance to take responsibility for our actions. Marriage is meant to be a beautiful union between two people in love, but sometimes I have seen this union twisted into something horrible by things like the “blame …

Have you ever wondered why some men, instead of celebrating their wives’ brilliance or strength, seem to shrink in her presence or lash out unexpectedly? It’s always super puzzling to me. I love to see people win, even people I don’t know. So when my friend or partner is winning, my joy is over the …

Almost every woman wants to make their husbands happy. There are a few really weird women who seem to derive joy from their husbands’ unhappiness. That’s sincerely messed up, but we will consider these select “few” some other time. Now, regardless of our noble intentions, we usually can’t keep our partners happy all the time. …

Ideally, when you get into a relationship or marriage, you and your partner will stay committed to each other and live happily ever after.  Unfortunately, life does not work like in the movies, and in many relationships, infidelity is the norm.  So, it is not out of place that couples sometimes live in insecurity about …

Every time you see a happy couple, just know that it took a lot for them to get to where they are. And I’m talking about couples who are genuinely happy together, not pretending or forcing it. It may look effortless, but it isn’t; a lot of effort is required, one of which is having …