Have you encountered a breakup or marriage in which the party who was left expressed shock that the relationship ended?
You’d often hear things like, “I didn’t know she felt that way.”
“One minute, we were good, and the next, he is asking us to break up.”
The thing is, it didn’t happen in that minute; it just never occurred to the partner that it was about to happen.
Nobody lets go or falls out of love in a day; it’s often gradual.
You’d be hard-pressed to meet someone who decides at the word ‘GO’ to leave a relationship.
Often, a series of hurts leads to resentment and the final decision to let go.
And if the other party is not sensitive enough, they will be shocked after the announcement.
Women, in particular, hardly let go of relationships casually; they usually pile up different issues until they reach their breaking point.
This is why everybody in a relationship or marriage must know when their partner begins to act out of character.
Granted, some might be more subtle than others.
But whatever the case, there are usually signs when a woman is slowly letting go, and I wrote this article to highlight them.
This article will help you identify these signs so you are not blindsided and can deal with issues before they reach the point of no return.
6 Signs A Woman Is Slowly Letting You Go
1. She withdraws.
A woman can be many things, but pulling away from a man she loves is not one of them.
At the risk of sounding stereotypical, women often cling to their lovers in a relationship.
I know and admit that not every woman is the same, but on average, a woman enjoys spending time with and being babied by her lover.
I saw a tweet recently from a guy who shared how his girlfriend is usually a boss lady.
She always behaves brilliantly when he overhears her assigning and strategizing with her team.
However, when they are together, this lady cannot decide what to eat or do, and she depends on him for everything else.
This is a picture of a lady in love; she naturally leans on her man, not because she can’t handle it but because she wants to be babied.
So, when a woman like this begins to pull away from her partner, it is a sign that she is about to let go.
Now, some women are independent and might not fall into this category.
Still, if she used to be like this and suddenly starts acting independently, she is mentally preparing to leave.
She is likely pulling away if she suddenly stops calling you when her car breaks down, stops reaching out to ask your opinion on matters, and stops telling you even the most ridiculous things.
Remember all those “babe, my phone charger blew up” or “babe, I was walking on the street, and this dog was staring at me strangely”?
They stop when a woman is letting go of a relationship.
It simply means she no longer sees a need for the relationship and is staying clear to prepare for the final breakup.
2. You are no longer first in her plans.
When a colleague of mine got into a relationship, we all knew about it because of how much she mentioned him.
We usually have this after-work outing on Fridays, so we planned it early in the week to accommodate everybody’s schedule.
When she got into a relationship, every time she was asked about her plans for Friday, her response was, “I’m not yet sure; I need to check with my boyfriend.”
I understand not every woman is like that.
I mean, I wasn’t – not in the office anyway, but my friends and close circle knew I spoke about him incessantly and always included him in my plans.
Basically, I am trying to say that a woman naturally includes her man in her plans – present and future – so it is not normal when that’s no longer the case.
When a woman loves you, she will consider and prioritize you.
But when she no longer prioritizes you, it is a sign that she is gradually letting go of the relationship and focusing on other areas of her life.
3. She doesn’t care what you do.
I saw this TikTok video of a lady and her man on a podcast.
The man said the lady no longer cares about seeing him with other women, whereas before, she would question him if she saw him with a female friend.
He said if he told her he was going out with the guys, all she would say now was, “Have fun.”
She never resisted him on anything he wanted to do.
So, he asked her if she no longer cared what he did, and she said she didn’t.
Some people argued that it was because they had reached a point where they were secure in their relationship.
And I get that.
But the vast majority – that I am leaning towards – said the woman was tired of caring and just didn’t anymore.
Let’s look at both schools of thought.
Yes, there comes a time in a relationship or marriage when a woman trusts her man completely and lets go of the leash.
But that doesn’t mean she stops caring what he does.
There will be times when he wants to spend time with the boys, and she will beg him to stay home because she wants to spend time with him.
But when a woman never cares what a man does, it is not a good sign.
If your woman stops bothering or is indifferent about what you do, it is a sign that she isn’t into the relationship as she should.
This is because, in an actual sense, you are hands-on and committed if you want to build a life-long relationship with someone.
But when she no longer cares about the friends you go out with, the time you come back from work, how you spend your day, and the challenges that come with your business or career, she inadvertently no longer cares about you.
4. She dodges conversations about the future.
People in relationships or marriage know that a significant aspect of their discussion is about the future.
In marriage, there is constant talk about long-term goals, including starting a family business, funding the children’s college education, buying a house, and so on.
In a relationship – even in the early days – they can plan dates and trips and discuss each other’s goals and how they fit in.
When a woman is in love and fully committed, she will be involved in the conversation and even initiate it.
But when she starts letting you go, she will avoid you and not participate in any discussion concerning the future.
I mean, she is not planning to be in the future, so why bother making plans or talking about it?
Therefore, she will never bring up those discussions and will avoid them when you bring them up.
5. She isn’t there for you.
By “being there,” I hope you get what I mean.
It isn’t that she won’t be physically present, but she won’t be mentally or emotionally with you.
Remember that she hasn’t left yet; she is still there and will be physically present.
But considering that she is letting you go, you will see that she is less emotionally connected than she used to be.
Sometimes, you might speak to her repeatedly about a topic because she keeps forgetting, which shows that she is not listening to you.
Also, you will find she is not as interested when you bring up issues that matter to you.
When people are in a relationship, they are usually each other’s biggest cheerleader and support system.
However, when she doesn’t care to get involved, she likely doesn’t see herself as a part of your life and whatever you are doing.
Of course, if it’s a one-off thing because she is probably going through something at that point, it might not matter.
But if that’s now the order of the day, chances are there is something to worry about.
6. She speaks in parables.
Again, pardon my stereotype, but many women ordinarily speak in parables, especially when they are displeased with their men or want to communicate something without being direct.
So, speaking in parables is not the issue in the real sense but what’s being said.
Is she making remarks that make it look like her life was better before you?
Is she saying things that point to the fact that she is fantasizing about what life would be like without you?
Reminiscing about your single days is not altogether bad occasionally, but something might be wrong when it’s a recurring discussion and said with such a nostalgic feeling.
Partners usually tell each other about their single days, but they talk about it in terms of discussing the past, not with a feeling of wanting to go back.
If her remarks sound like she wants to go back, chances are she is slowly letting you go.