If you round up women and ask them what type of women they think men find the most attractive, you will likely find physical attributes at the top of the list.
Now, let me start by saying I don’t deny it; many men are indeed physical, and sometimes, that is the first attraction.
However, I have always said men are deeper than they like us to believe, especially when they are ready to get serious.
When they are still playing around or simply looking for a casual hookup, they may be more focused on the woman who looks good physically.
However, when it comes to a woman they would like to have a serious relationship with or get married to, they look beyond the physical.
Don’t get me wrong – I am not saying they still won’t consider physical beauty; it is the unconventional that attracts them.
If you are a woman wondering about the types of women men find most attractive, you’ve come to the right place.
Follow along.
The 11 Types Of Women Men Find The Most Attractive (And Why!)
1. Kind And Compassionate Women
When I was single and searching, one quality that was at the top of my list was kindness.
I watched out for a man who was kind to everyone because I knew if he was kind to others, he would be kind to me, too.
Therefore, it is not surprising that men often want the same things.
Just as kind men are irresistibly attractive to women, so too is a man drawn to a genuinely kind woman.
Men are drawn to women who show compassion, not just to them but to everyone around them as well.
Men look out for women who speak gently to a waiter, comfort a friend, or even smile at a stranger.
Kindness makes a woman feel warm, safe, and inviting.
Men would want to be around someone like that for a long time.
2. Genuine Women
I advised a friend of mine to join LinkedIn to promote his brand, but he told me he couldn’t survive on the platform because he wasn’t as formal as the people there.
I told him not to let that deter him; he should go on the platform and be himself, and he would be surprised how people are drawn to him.
Do you know why?
Because authenticity is magnetic.
It is becoming a lost quality, so it is refreshing.
That is why a woman who is unapologetically herself—flaws, quirks, and all—stands out in a world of pretense.
Men love a woman who isn’t afraid to be real.
They enjoy a woman who can laugh at her own jokes or admit she doesn’t have everything figured out.
Men love women who don’t feel the need to force perfection.
Rather, she is herself while striving to be the best version of herself.
3. Independent Women
There is a book that often comes to mind when this topic is raised.
It is “Why Men Love B*tches” by Sherry Argov.
And the reason it does is that I had a friend who always referred to it when he wanted to make his point about how men don’t love women who act like doormats that can be walked on.
If you haven’t read the book, the writer explained that men love independent women who know what they want and are not afraid to assert it.
I also strongly believe, from experience, that contrary to the outdated belief that men want helpless damsels, most men admire a woman who has her own thing going on.
They want an independent woman who isn’t overly needy but has her passions, goals, and a life that doesn’t revolve around their relationship.
Men find the confidence and self-sufficiency she exudes incredibly appealing.
This is because a man wants to complement a woman’s life, not be the sole focus of it.
4. Successful Women
Before you think you don’t fall into this category, remember that success isn’t limited to career achievements or achieving what we would call “big things.”
No, it’s also about drive, ambition, and the ability to make things happen.
Men admire women who pursue their career, personal goals, and passions.
A woman who is thriving in her own lane is considered attractive by many of them.
5. Respectful Women
I understand that respect has been so abused that women do not like to hear about it.
However, we are not talking about the subservient respect that is expected of you as a woman but not given.
Respect, in this context, goes both ways.
It is when a woman treats a man with genuine consideration by respecting his time, choices, or efforts.
A respectful woman makes a man feel valued.
She doesn’t belittle him or play mind games.
Rather, she communicates with kindness and maturity.
This kind of woman draws men in.
6. Confident Women
Like I always say, confidence looks sexy on a woman; that’s why confident women are attractive.
That unforced assurance about who you are, where you are comfortable in your skin; yes, men love it.
They love women who know their worth, stand their ground, and carry themselves with assurance.
Remember that confidence doesn’t mean you have to be the loudest in the room.
It’s more about knowing you don’t need external validation to feel amazing.
7. Clean And Tidy Women
Cleanliness and good hygiene are non-negotiable when it comes to most men.
They are not saying you have to be overly tidy and unable to stand the tiniest mess.
No, what they want is a woman who takes care of herself, maintains a fresh appearance, and keeps her space organized.
In simple terms, they are attracted to women who are put-together.
8. Friendly And Approachable Women
A warm smile and a welcoming vibe can do wonders.
Most of my male friends emphasize that they find it easier to approach women who seem open, friendly, and engaging.
They have told me they would rather speak to a woman who exudes warmth through her conversation or body language than one who doesn’t.
According to them, they don’t want to have to work extra hard just to get past a cold exterior; they want a woman who makes people feel comfortable around her.
9. Funny Women
They are not saying you have to be Trevor Noah; what they are looking for is a great sense of humor – women who can laugh at life, make jokes, and not take everything too seriously.
They want a woman who can match their wit or just bring lightheartedness into a conversation.
10. Disciplined Women
Discipline shows in different ways.
In the first place, men respect and admire women who set goals and stick to them.
They also want a woman who is not pressured to live above her means.
Yes, she may have goals and dreams about her life, but she works hard to accomplish them.
While she is still working towards them, she is content and not covetous.
This particular trait – I was told – is even more important with the fake life that social media encourages.
They are attracted to a woman who doesn’t let that determine how she lives.
11. Feminine Women
I know, I know, but before you go for the jugular, hear me out!
I understand many women today don’t like this word because of how, like respect, it has been abused.
But don’t see feminine energy as just wearing pink or being dainty; see it as having grace, warmth, and the ability to embrace your womanhood.
Men are naturally drawn to women who exude softness, nurturing qualities, and emotional intelligence.
They are attracted to women who are feminine in the way they carry themselves and in their ability to balance strength with gentleness.