I am sure the average man would be shocked to know that there are things he is expected to do after intimacy.
I mean, most men literally just roll over and sleep off (sometimes even snoring deeply).
Most women really find this particular habit irritating, but the truth is that most men don’t know what they are meant to do differently.
Intimacy is a beautiful, vulnerable, and deeply passionate experience.
It is that moment when two people connect on a level that transcends words.
But what happens after intimacy?
This is the big question.
Couples don’t spend their whole time making love to each other.
After intimacy is where a man’s true character shines because the moments after intimacy are just as important as intimacy itself.
A man’s character can be discerned from how he behaves after intimacy.
Here are the things real men always do after intimacy…
And if you don’t do them, you can always start doing them.
7 Things Real Men Always Do After Intimacy
A quick clarification: Intimacy in itself is more than physical, and ideally, it never ends.
In this article, the word “intimacy” is used to describe the act of lovemaking between couples.
Let’s get started!
1. They stay present
It gets even worse when they snore.
It’s like that sound is clawing at their brains, and it takes all effort not to scream in anger.
The truth is that most women want to be cuddled even after the whole bedroom gymnastics.
They want to share a quiet moment with their men after intimacy.
Real men don’t just roll over after sex, whether to sleep or to check their phones.
They stay in the moment with their woman.
They are present both physically and emotionally.
Being present shows respect and appreciation for the connection you have just shared with your partner.
I understand that many men could be really tired after their high-octane sexual performance, but try as much as possible to keep your eyes open for a few minutes after intimacy.
It will help foster an even stronger connection.
Start doing this now and see the wonders it works in your sexual life with your woman.
2. They communicate
Personally, I think sex should only occur within the confines of a marriage.
But the world doesn’t run on my opinion, and several people have sexual relationships without being married.
Growing up, I observed something sad…
Young guys would approach a lady and woo her with sweet words and promises of forever love.
When she gives in to their charm, and they start dating, sex becomes something that comes with the package for many of them.
The sad thing I noticed was that many of those guys had the tendency to stop communicating with the lady after intimacy.
They just disappear.
They stop communicating because they have gotten what they want.
Well, they are not real men.
Real men don’t validate themselves or boost their egos with how many women they can have sex with.
Real men know how to control their sexual desires.
And real men know that communication is key in a relationship.
They know that communication doesn’t stop after intimacy.
It continues.
In fact, communicating after sex is one of the things that improves a couple’s intimacy.
It strengthens their connection.
Real men usually check in with their woman after intimacy to know if they are alright or need anything.
This is not just an attempt at being polite…
You know the kind of politeness that dictates you should ask, “How are you?” when you are greeted, even if you don’t really care either way.
Well, real men communicate after intimacy, not just because it is the polite thing to do but because they care about their partners.
3. They show affection
In some relationships, the only time the man shows affection to his woman is when they want to have sex.
That’s a wrong orientation to have in a marriage.
It weakens the bond of the couple and even takes the pleasure out of intimacy.
Intimacy doesn’t have to mean the end of physical touch.
Some men would say they are not the touchy kind and that’s fine.
You don’t need to be the “touchy kind” to show affection to your partner through physical touch.
It’s not enough to say you love your partner…
Hold her, touch her, hug her, kiss her.
Just do everything that makes her feel truly loved by you.
Physical touch doesn’t start and end with making love.
Real men know this, and so they continue to show affection through gentle caresses, kisses, or simply holding hands.
These small gestures reinforce the bond and remind their woman that the connection goes beyond the physical.
Real men don’t get into relationships because they want to have sex.
Showing affection outside the bedroom is an affirmation that while sex may be a wonderful experience and a fringe benefit of the relationship, it is not the main goal of the relationship.
4. They say “thank you”
Now, don’t get me wrong…
Both parties should enjoy sex and intimacy, ideally.
So, appreciating your woman, in this case, is not like thanking someone for doing you a favor.
Real men aren’t afraid to express gratitude.
Whether it’s a simple “thank you” or a heartfelt compliment, they acknowledge the intimacy they’ve shared and the trust their partner has placed in them.
This shouldn’t also be one-sided, but that’s really not the focus today.
Expressing gratitude or complimenting your woman after intimacy is not a “simp move” like some “alpha males” may call it.
Rather, it is a way of honoring the experience and the person you are sharing it with.
So, the next time you are intimate with your partner, be sure to compliment her.
She will feel even better.
5. They clean up after themselves
Sometimes, physical intimacy can be messy.
You know, when couples get all passionate and leave clothes strewn all over the place, bedsheets scattered and perhaps drenched, and a bunch of other messy things could happen during intimacy, especially between two people who are intense about it.
After all of these, a real man won’t leave the entire cleanup to his partner.
He helps out.
Growing up, my idea of a man was someone who could clean up messes.
Someone who could say, “Don’t worry, I will take care of things.”
That hasn’t changed.
Real men know to assist in cleaning up the mess, even after intimacy.
Whether it’s grabbing a towel, tidying up, or changing the bedding, he assists without hesitation.
It may seem really small, but it is actually a thoughtful action that shows he is not self-centered.
And this is a way of knowing a man who is considerate.
6. They respect boundaries
Sometimes, when you give people an inch, they take a mile.
This is why it is important to have clearly defined boundaries as a lady.
One time, someone my friend knows escaped from being sexually assaulted by just a hair’s breadth.
She said she had been talking to the guy for quite some time, and at some point, they started sex chatting and exchanging nudes.
So, that fateful day, she went to visit the guy without knowing that he was no longer satisfied with the sex chats and wanted more.
She didn’t want more, so he tried to force her.
The guy was a scum bag…
He wasn’t wrong to want more, but he was wrong for trying to force her.
That is for certain.
Real men understand that intimacy doesn’t entitle them to anything.
They respect their partner’s boundaries, whether that means giving them space or simply letting them set the tone for what happens next.
Respect is the foundation of any healthy relationship, and it doesn’t disappear after intimacy.
In fact, it should increase after intimacy.
You are not entitled to intimacy anytime you want unless you have your partner’s consent.
Real men understand the power of consent.
7. They follow through
I mentioned this in passing earlier…
Real men don’t disappear after intimacy.
I have seen several ladies cry about guys leaving them immediately after having sex with them.
It is despicable.
And while I prefer that sex only occurs within marriage, I am not blind to the reality that many people are involved in premarital sex.
Intimacy isn’t a one-time transaction for real men—it’s part of an ongoing relationship.
They follow through by continuing to show up, communicate, and invest in the connection.
Whether it’s planning the next date, sending a sweet text the next day, or simply being there emotionally, they prove that intimacy is just one part of a deeper commitment.
They make it quite obvious that they are not just there for the physical aspect; they want something more.
Real men understand that intimacy is more than just a physical act.
It is an emotional act.
They know that what they do after intimacy speaks volumes about their character, their respect for their partner, and their commitment to the relationship.
So, gentlemen, take note: the moments after intimacy are where you truly show who you are.
Be the man who stays present, communicates, and cherishes the connection because that’s what real men do.
And to everyone reading this, remember: intimacy is a two-way street.
It’s about mutual respect, care, and appreciation.
Whether you’re the one giving or receiving these actions, never settle for less than you deserve.