This may sound boastful, but I will just say it since it is in context.
Two of my exes have returned, wanting to get back to me after our breakup.
In both cases, I initiated the breakup, but as you’d expect, it wasn’t without reason.
One happened quite recently, leading me to write this article.
Generally, as humans, we don’t know what we have until we lose it.
In the same vein, many men don’t know they have a good woman until they lose her.
What she means to him usually doesn’t hit until he lets her go.
Having said that, let’s look at some things that happen when you let a good woman go.
9 Things That Happen When You Let A Good Woman Go
1. You Realize Her Value Too Late
Like I said earlier, sometimes you don’t realize how much someone means to you until they’re no longer around.
That’s exactly what happens when you let a good woman go.
You might feel like she will always be there, showering you with support, love, and care when she’s in your life.
Sometimes, you might even complain that she’s too clingy and want her to give you space.
But the moment she’s gone, it hits you.
Then, you start to miss the way she made everything better.
You remember her being your number-one cheerleader and the calm in your storm.
I’m not saying women should be clingy – in case you think I am – but was she clingy, or were you taking her being there for granted?
There is a difference, and you need to be sincere with yourself because once she decides she is done with the ungratefulness, she will be out before you know it.
That’s when you will truly see how valuable she was, and trust me, it’s a tough realization to face.
2. You Lose Your Emotional Stability
A good woman brings a sense of calm and stability into your life.
Remember that she’s the one who listens when you’re stressed, offers advice when you’re confused, and makes things feel more grounded.
This is largely because women are trained to be nurturing, so they know how to bring calmness to an otherwise chaotic situation.
So, after she has made your life more stable, it’s practically impossible not to realize when the balance goes out the window.
In her absence, you will be left alone to deal with your emotions, and it will feel like you’re navigating life without that balance she brings.
When you look around at the chaos around you – emotionally and physically – it will be clear how much she kept you emotionally stable.
3. You Struggle To Find Someone Like Her
Let me clarify that I’m not saying she is the only good woman; many are out there.
But finding them isn’t as easy as swiping right on a dating app or mistakenly bashing her car at the gas station.
That mostly only happens in the movies.
In the real world, her virtues are not so common.
You will see that even when you try dating other people, they won’t quite measure up.
That’s when it will dawn on you how special she was.
Even when you find someone with the kindness and loyalty she showed you, it is a lot of work getting the new person to understand you like she did.
No matter how good a couple is individually, the ability to understand each other without words or complete each other’s sentences doesn’t happen automatically.
It takes time – sometimes, even years of intimacy.
With her gone, you will have to build that all over again.
4. You Lose A Loyal Companion
Loyalty is not the easiest attribute to come by.
Again, this is not to say she is the most loyal woman around; many more women are loyal.
However, as already established, such women are not everywhere.
So when you let a good woman go, it’s not just a breakup; you lose a loyal companion.
Don’t forget that she wasn’t just your partner in romance, but also your friend.
She also had your back, no matter what, and genuinely wanted the best for you.
Losing that kind of loyalty can create a huge void in your life that is not as easy to fill.
5. Your Social Life Changes
This is likely to happen when you are with a woman who is very involved in your social circles.
Adjusting to the new status quo might take a while if she was close to your friends, family, and maybe even some work colleagues because she attended work events.
These people have probably formed a relationship with her – removed from you, so they will rightly be curious when she is no longer present.
When you keep showing up alone, people are bound to ask where she is, which can make things awkward.
Additionally, she probably brought a certain energy to those gatherings that is now missing.
You might even find yourself skipping events you used to enjoy simply because they don’t feel the same without her.
6. You Start To Reflect On Your Mistakes And Regret Your Actions
It’s inevitable.
After losing a good woman, you’ll start thinking about how you could’ve done better.
The “what ifs” are bound to follow a situation like this.
You start thinking of the things you said or didn’t say.
You start reflecting on your behavior, and that’s when you realize you could’ve done more, been more present, or treated her with the respect she deserved.
The sad thing about this is the weight of knowing what you did wrong but realizing it’s too late to fix it.
7. You Miss Her Presence
What makes relationships beautiful are not often the big things but a culmination of the small stuff.
When she is gone, you will not just miss the big things, but more the little things.
You will find that you love her laughter more than you realize.
You will often think about how she smiled at you, how she knew exactly how to cheer you up after a bad day, and how she knew what you were thinking by just looking at you.
These little things sometimes leave the strongest impression.
And in many cases, they make the absence feel more overwhelming because they were part of your everyday life, and now, you’ll never get to experience those moments again.
8. You Start To Grow
On a positive note, losing a good woman can sometimes push you to grow.
When faced with the reality of what you lost, you are forced to reflect and make changes.
The experience might make you realize that you need to communicate better or be more present in your relationships.
Yes, it’s painful, but sometimes that loss is the wake-up call you need to become a better version of yourself.
Growth often comes from the hardest experiences; losing someone you care about can be just what you need.
9. She Moves On
This is probably the hardest pill to swallow, but when you let a good woman go, she moves on.
While you’re coming to terms with what you lost, she may find happiness elsewhere.
And why wouldn’t she?
She’s a good woman; others will recognize her worth if you don’t.
It is tough to watch her build a new life without you, especially if she finds someone who treats her well.
It will constantly remind you what you let slip through your fingers, and while you’re stuck in the past, she’s thriving in her future.