Mornings are quite important.
This is not an article on productivity, but I will share a productivity hack with you.
Waking up with the right energy is important.
Every morning allows you to set the tone for the day ahead.
This is why you will discover that you are more productive when you wake up feeling more positive about life.
For single people, fewer things can affect your morning energy.
However, it is different for married people.
Partners can affect your morning energy a lot.
The truth is that behind almost every happy married man is a wife who keeps a positive outlook on life because you can’t make someone happy if you are not happy yourself.
The journey to being a wife who makes her husband happier is one of consistency.
It requires you to show up every day, doing little things to make him happy.
Over time, these little things are the things that actually count.
Here are some of the little things wives can do every morning to have happier husbands.
Wives Who Do These 7 Things Every Morning Have Happier Husbands
1. Start the day with warm greetings
I come from a really superstitious tribe in Nigeria.
We have several beliefs about omens and what they may mean.
For a long time, I believed these omens.
There was one about hitting your left foot against a stone three times in one day.
It was said to be an omen of evil things to happen that day.
Well, one day, I was leaving my house to go to school when I hit my left toe against a stone for the first time.
I thought nothing of it because I felt that the probability of hitting one specific toe against a stone three times in one day had to be very low.
That day, I hit that same against a stone twice more before it was time for the lunch break.
I was scared because of the superstitions I had already.
I started expecting terrible things to happen to me.
The only terrible that happened to me that day was my injured toe.
Boom!
I got free from superstitious beliefs.
However, my people also believe that the quality of your day can be determined by the first person you greet in the morning.
I think so, too.
While I don’t think the person may be intentionally trying to sabotage your day, if you encounter negative energy in the morning, you may struggle to get your day on track.
This is why the first thing every married couple should do is to greet each other WARMLY.
There is an emphasis on “warmly” because I am not speaking of the casual “good morning” that many people greet each other with.
Even a random stranger could do better than that.
Dear wives, start the day with a heartfelt greeting.
A warm “good morning” and a genuine smile to greet your husband in the morning can convey many messages.
It expresses love and appreciation and infects your husband with positive vibes.
This is a way to let him know that you cherish him.
Tell me, what better way to wake up than to the message that your partner cherishes you?
This is a mood booster!
The simple truth is that a happy man is an appreciated man.
2. Prepare his breakfast
Now, this doesn’t have to be a daily activity.
Many ladies and women online complain about waking up to cook for their husbands in the morning.
I understand when women who are already married complain.
It is the complaining single ladies I don’t understand.
Anyhow, the truth is that if a husband treats his wife right, I doubt she would see anything wrong in making breakfast for her husband sometimes or all the time (if you’d like to, there’s no rule against it).
When you can squeeze it into your busy schedule, take some time to prepare a meal he loves.
It doesn’t have to be extravagant.
It could be something really simple, but this gesture goes a long way toward making your husband happier.
One time in university, a couple of my female friends accused me of being partial to another female friend of ours.
They all stayed in the same house, separate flats, though.
In the past, I usually ensured that I spent equal time in everyone’s place.
I felt they were petty enough to notice even the slightest difference in attention.
I actually felt like a man with three jealous wives.
The truth was that I preferred visiting one of them because she was quite fun to be around and there was also the food!
She always prepared a meal for me when I visited, even when I told her she shouldn’t bother.
So, naturally, I gravitated towards her.
The others noticed and complained but the truth is that the way to a man’s heart may actually be through his stomach!
At least, sometimes.
Especially for men like me.
So, cook breakfast for your husband frequently.
The fact that you took the time to do something special for him can brighten his morning.
You are well on your way to having a happier husband when you do this consistently.
3. Spend some time with him
I know it could be really hard to do all these with a man who leaves the house really early for work.
It could be even more difficult if you also have to prepare for work.
But that’s the thing!
No one said it would be easy.
If you have already started implementing the first two steps, this third one shouldn’t be an issue.
Instead of making breakfast for your husband and leaving him to eat alone, you could spend some time with him.
You could share a cup of coffee or tea with him while you are at it.
Just a small bit of quality time in the morning to strengthen your bond.
You don’t even need to spend the time talking.
Sometimes, quiet companionship is better than discussions.
This could be hard for wives who have even busier schedules than their husbands.
But you could still make space for this in your schedule occasionally.
Having these moments of togetherness with your partner from time to time will help your husband feel more connected with you.
He will leave the house with thoughts of you in his head, a big smile on his face, and a light spring in his footsteps.
4. Encourage him
I spent some time with a couple and sincerely didn’t envy their lifestyle.
They wake up really early in the morning to get to work on time and return home really late.
The kids also have to go to school early.
So, the house is usually full of people hastily going about their preparations for the day.
The husband usually doesn’t even take breakfast at home.
They hardly speak to each other in the morning except to discuss bills.
“Junior’s school fee is due oo. They will start sending them back from school”.
“The soup has finished. I need money to cook another”.
These constant reminders of due household bills and steady nagging in the early morning usually chased the man out of his house even earlier than he needed to leave.
The truth is he didn’t have peace of mind at home.
Couples who have happy marriages still have to pay their bills.
They have expenses, too, but the way they handle things is much better.
As a wife who wants to make her husband happy, burdening him with news of due bills in the morning isn’t the way to do things.
You can offer him a few words of encouragement in the morning.
Tell him how much you believe in him and make him see positive things.
Compliment him and his appearance in the morning.
You can be his hype woman.
Guys may respond to compliments a little quietly, but this doesn’t mean they don’t love compliments.
Keep the compliments coming.
Gas him up every morning!
He will run on that throughout the whole day.
5. Help him organize his day
As I said earlier, some of these things can be difficult to do every day if you also work.
So, it’s understandable if you can’t do it daily.
If you do it daily, even when you know you should be on your way to work, it may begin to seem like a chore rather than something you enjoy.
In the mornings, when you are free, you could help your husband prepare for the day.
This can reduce stress and frustration.
Help him adjust the knot of his tie, lay out his clothes for him, or just help him pack his lunch.
These are wonderful ways of showing how much you care for your husband.
Of course, you don’t have to do this because you are trying to prevent your husband from “looking at other women.”
You should be doing this because seeing your husband happy makes you happy.
The truth is that your intentions for performing an action really matter.
If you are doing it to prevent him from seeing other women, one day, you will get tired of the relentless gatekeeping.
Do things for the right reasons, Queen!
6. Show some physical affection
I remember how a guy mentioned how morning sex was so fulfilling.
Everybody else there seemed to be able to relate except me…
For reasons I am proud of.
Anyhow, it got me thinking.
The guys speaking were single young men and students who had been introduced to sex quite early in life.
They basically had no duties apart from their academics, of course.
They didn’t have to wake up by 4 am to prepare for work just because they wanted to get to their 8-5 job in Lagos early.
I wondered how couples with more responsibility enjoy morning sex.
They probably don’t do it on weekdays unless at night or on schedule.
Anyway, that’s beside the point because physical affection here doesn’t always translate into sex.
A loving touch, such as a hug, a kiss, or a gentle pat on the back, can show affection and love for your husband.
Never lose your physical connection because you are “too busy.”
Be intentional about it.
Dear wives, no matter how busy your schedule can be, lovingly hugging your husband every morning before work commences is a great way to build your connection.
Kiss him goodbye when he is leaving or when you are leaving for work.
This won’t necessarily take more than a minute, and if it does, enjoy the flow.
Who am I to tell you when to stop?
7. Stay positive
A positive outlook on life is the best way to enjoy your life.
Even if things are not going really well, a positive outlook can help you weather the storm.
It also helps the people around you.
The truth is that emotions are quite infectious.
While it is easier to spread negative feelings like fear and panic, it is more profitable to spread optimism.
It is a better and much more positive attitude to have.
By being positive in the house, you are creating a much more pleasant and supportive atmosphere for your household.
The truth is that behind every happy married man is a happy wife brimming with positivity.
Ultimately, incorporating these seven actions into your morning routine will be quite effective in fostering a happier relationship with your husband.
Doing this will not only benefit your husband, but it will also help you.
You will discover that you are happier and even healthier because of how much positivity you have allowed into your life.
To the husbands reading this…
Don’t just sit around expecting your wife to make you happy.
Make her happy, too.
When your wife is happy, she will definitely treat you the right way.
So, don’t let things be one-sided.
As she encourages you in the morning, do the same for her.
Be her biggest cheerleader.
Paying the bills is great, but you can be so much more!
Don’t settle for being less, King!