Some men think you should wake up every morning grateful that they chose you.
Of course, some don’t say it directly, but their behaviors scream it.
Before you know it, you’ll start to believe it.
If you recognize most of these in your husband, he thinks he’s better than you.
7 Signs Your Husband Thinks You’re Lucky To Have Him
1. He Constantly Reminds You Of What He Does For You
I don’t understand why your husband should be reminding you of what he does for you.
Isn’t marriage two people doing things for each other?
But he acts like everything he does is a favor you should be grateful for.
“I work hard to provide for this family.”
“I fixed your car.”
“I paid the bills.”
“I took the kids so you could rest.”
Yes, and?
That’s what husbands do.
But he doesn’t see it that way.
He sees it as him going above and beyond for you.
And he makes sure you know it, constantly.
Like you’re a charity case and you should be on your knees thanking God every day that he’s so good to you.
Meanwhile, what about everything you do?
The cooking, cleaning, managing the household, raising the kids, working, and supporting him emotionally?
Oh, that’s just expected.
That’s just what wives do.
I hope you know this is different from you not being grateful to him.
2. He Dismisses Your Complaints Because “Other Women Would Be Happy”
If you’ve been hearing “Do you know how many women would be happy to have a man like me?” you’re married to a man who thinks you’re lucky to have him.
Because that’s what men say when they think you’re ungrateful for the privilege of being married to them.
You bring up something he’s doing that hurts you, and instead of listening and caring about how you feel, he dismisses you with “Do you know how many women would love to be in your position?”
As if the existence of women with lower standards means you should lower yours too.
That’s manipulation because he shuts down your needs by making you feel like you’re asking for too much.
And it works because you start second-guessing yourself, thinking you are being ungrateful.
3. He Treats You Like You’re Replaceable Because He Thinks You Are
We see how men who think their wives are irreplaceable treat them.
They cherish them.
They act like they know they have something precious that they don’t want to lose.
But your husband treats you as if you were to leave tomorrow, there’s a line of women waiting to take your place.
And maybe he’s even said it in arguments, “If you don’t like it, leave. Plenty of women would want to be with me.”
That’s not something you say to someone you value.
That’s something you say to someone you think is easily replaced.
Because in his mind, you need him more than he needs you, and if you leave, he’ll be just fine.
4. He Acts Superior In Front Of Other People
He carries this attitude to the public, and people can see it.
He can’t help himself.
In front of friends, family, and strangers, he positions himself as the superior one in the marriage.
He talks down to you, corrects you constantly, dismisses what you say, and speaks over you.
And it’s not subtle; people notice the way he treats you like you’re beneath him.
He tells stories that make him look like the hero, and you look incompetent.
A man who respects his wife doesn’t tear her down in front of other people; he speaks highly of her and makes her look good, not stupid.
A man who thinks you’re lucky to have him needs everyone else to think so too.
5. He Makes Unilateral Decisions Because Your Opinion Doesn’t Really Matter
Marriage is supposed to be two people making decisions together, but your husband makes decisions like he’s single.
Decisions that affect both of you, the family, and he doesn’t ask you or even tell you until after it’s done.
And when you get upset, he acts like you’re being unreasonable.
“I’m the one who makes the money.”
“I knew what was best.”
“You would have just worried about it.”
“I’m the head of this household.”
Meaning your opinion doesn’t really matter, and he’s going to do what he wants regardless of how you feel about it.
A man who thinks you’re lucky to have him doesn’t value your opinion because he doesn’t value you as an equal.
6. He Reminds You Of Your Flaws But Gets Defensive About His
When you tell him about something he’s doing that bothers you, he has 1001 excuses.
Every flaw of his comes with context and reasons you should understand and accept it.
But when it comes to your flaws, there’s no grace.
No context allowed.
Because in his mind, his flaws are things you should overlook because he’s “a good man.”
But your flaws are serious problems, character defects.
That’s the double standard of a man who thinks you’re lucky to have him.
He can criticize you all day, but you better not dare criticize him back.
Because he’s the prize and you should be grateful he tolerates your flaws. 🙄
7. He Acts Like He’s Settling For You
This is the one that hurts the most.
The way he treats you and the way he acts in the marriage all communicate one message: he settled for you.
Like he could have done better because he had options and chose you out of convenience, not desire.
So you should be grateful he married you because someone like him could have had anyone.
And you feel it every day….the sense that you’re not enough.
That’s not how marriage should feel.
Marriage should feel like you both chose each other, not only you feeling lucky and like you won.
What to do?
First, recognize this for what it is: disrespect, arrogance, and a lack of appreciation for who you are and what you bring to the marriage.
This isn’t how all marriages work, and it’s not something you should accept.
Second, stop believing his narrative.
You’re not lucky to have him; he’s lucky to have you.
Or you are both lucky to have each other.
Third, have a conversation.
Tell him how his behavior makes you feel and how his attitude affects the marriage.
You need things to change.
See how he responds.
Does he listen?
Does he care?
Does he recognize the problem and commit to doing better?
Or does he get defensive and turn it around on you and make you feel like you’re the problem?
His response will tell you everything you need to know.