Society has made it seem like being single is a disease, and the cure is a man. 🙄
From family members asking, “So when are you bringing someone home?” to social media convincing you that true happiness looks like matching pajamas and couple vacations in Santorini…
It’s just so easy to feel like being in a relationship is the ultimate goal.
But there are so many things that are way better than being in a relationship, especially if that relationship is one-sided, draining, or held together by guilt and toxicity.
Sometimes, single is the new sexy.
9 Things That Are Way Better Than Being in a Relationship
1. Emotional Peace
Peace.
That thing you can’t buy, borrow, or fake.
Isn’t it magical to wake up and not have to decode text messages or wonder, “Is he mad at me?”
You’re not replaying last night’s argument in your head.
When you’re single and peaceful, you’re not tiptoeing around moods or apologizing for feelings that aren’t even your fault.
Peace is underrated because it’s quiet.
No grand gestures, no fireworks, just stillness, clarity, tranquility, and emotional safety.
And once you’ve had that, chaotic love will bore you to tears.
I’m currently watching Tyler Perry’s Sistas on Prime Video
At different points, I was so exhausted watching all the toxicity and chaos they call love.
I keep asking,” Isn’t it better to be single than go through all this chaos in the name of being in love?”
Peace is priceless.
2. Financial Freedom
Can you imagine anything more deeply satisfying than swiping your card without guilt?
No “Why are you buying another perfume?” or “Do we really need that?”
No joint budget meetings where you’re explaining why you needed to restock skincare (again).
You can invest, save, splurge, and spoil yourself without committee approval.
And the beautiful part is that you start building for yourself.
Your dreams and your independence.
Your “just because” goals.
While love is sweet, financial peace of mind is divine.
You can’t pay bills with affection, darling.
3. Deep Friendships
Friendships are so underrated.
Real friends will hype you, feed you, drag you when you’re delusional, and love you through your worst days.
You’ll laugh till you cry, talk about everything and nothing, and feel understood without the complications that romantic love sometimes brings.
The perk?
You don’t have to shave your legs.
That’s friendship heaven. 😂
4. Healing and Growth
Healing is hard when you’re constantly worried about someone else’s emotions.
Being single gives you space to sit with yourself, the real, unfiltered version.
You unpack your past, reparent your inner child, and finally confront the habits that kept you stuck.
You start growing… emotionally, mentally, spiritually, psychologically, because you want better for yourself.
Not because someone else is forcing you to.
That version of you is powerful because she’s not desperate for attention.
She knows her worth.
5. Sleep
You know how couples say “goodnight” and then argue for three more hours?
Yeah, that’s not your portion anymore.
You’ll sleep like a baby who paid all her bills and blocked unnecessary drama.
No lying awake wondering if the relationship is dying a slow death.
No fake cuddles after a fight that didn’t even end properly.
You’ll roll over, adjust your blanket, and drift off with your soul unbothered.
That’s eight hours of emotional luxury right there, baby.
6. Freedom to Flirt, Travel, and Exist Freely
Single life gives you a kind of freedom people in complicated relationships secretly envy.
You can flirt without guilt.
Travel without permission.
Make decisions without debate.
You can cut your hair, move cities, sleep in till noon, and binge-watch your shows without someone changing the channel halfway.
You’re not sharing closet space, bathroom counters, or emotional bandwidth.
You’re freeeeeeeeeeeee.
7. Self-Respect
And there’s the power that comes from choosing yourself.
When you finally stop settling for bare minimum love and walk away from half-efforts, you gain something priceless.
It is called self-respect.
There’s nothing like looking at yourself in the mirror and knowing you didn’t shrink for anyone.
You didn’t beg to be chosen.
You didn’t trade your peace for company.
You honored yourself.
That type of confidence that glows than any engagement ring.
8. Family, Purpose, and Fulfillment
I say it all the time that there’s so much more to life than being somebody’s “Mrs.”
When you’re not pouring all your energy into fixing or maintaining a relationship, you suddenly have room to nurture other parts of your life: your purpose, family, passions, hobbies, business….
You start showing up fully… as a daughter, a friend, a sister, a creative, a professional, or a child of God.
Your love becomes bigger, no longer trapped in the romantic bubble, but spread into the world through the things you create, the people you help, and the lives you touch.
That’s purpose.
That’s fulfillment right there.
9. Falling in Love With Life Again
When you stop obsessing over “Who loves me?” you rediscover “What makes me happy?”
You fall in love with your morning coffee (like me).
With sunsets you actually have time to enjoy.
With solo dates where you don’t have panic attacks over how your date will treat the waiters.
With the version of you that isn’t waiting to be loved, because she’s already doing the loving.
You’ve stopped chasing butterflies and realize that peace is better.
Being single isn’t a curse.
Being lonely in a relationship is.
Love is beautiful, yes.
But not all relationships are love; some are prisons decorated with cute captions and matching outfits.
So if you’re single, stop treating it like a waiting room for love.
It’s your season of expansion.
Your time to build peace, purpose, and power that no relationship can take away.
When you fall in love with yourself and your life, you’ll stop settling for people who don’t match your peace.
And that, my dear, is better than any relationship status update. 💅🏽