Action speaks louder than words, and no set of words has rang truer when we talk about men in love.
Contrary to the whole spiel about men being so enigmatic when it comes to love matters, it is safe to say that men usually wear their hearts on their sleeves.
Perhaps the words professing their love may be a little difficult to get out of some of them, but their actions are usually already telling a full tale about their feelings.
When a man is in love, he shows it through subtle signs and gestures that express his feelings for you.
These subtle signs and gestures are usually heartwarming and profound.
However, even when they say actions speak louder than words, women still like to say the words.
In fact, it is easy for them to get mixed signals from the subtle signs and gestures.
After all, we all view actions from different perspectives.
In this article, we will explore those things a man shows you when he is in love with you.
Come along!
When A Man Shows You These 8 Things He’s In Love With You
1. He shows you his genuine self
One major reason people think men are enigmas is that most guys find it hard to let people in.
Growing up, I had many “guys,” but few friends, and the main reason for this was that I found it difficult to share details about myself with people.
Such a level of vulnerability wasn’t for me.
So, I could be going through a really terrible phase in my life, and I would still keep a smile plastered on my face.
I would even listen to people complaining about their far lesser problems as if I had absolutely no troubles in the world.
Until I met the first lady I ever loved.
It wasn’t easy, but I started letting her in.
I just couldn’t keep her in the dark.
I wanted to be sure that it wasn’t just that enigmatic, strong man facade that she was attracted to.
Because that wasn’t me.
Deep down, I was and am still that mushy guy who cries when his favorite character dies in a novel and hates watching tragic movies in public because the tears are inevitable; they come in floods.
I let her in to see the real me.
She saw my fears, dreams, hopes, and insecurity.
She realized I wasn’t as put together as I seemed, and she stayed for a while before leaving.
Why she left is going to be a story for another day.
My point is…
Like I did, when a man falls in love with you, he shows you his genuine self.
He takes off the mask and lets you in to see the real him.
He shows the scars, his hopes, his fears, his goals, and his insecurities.
He wants you to get to know him intimately.
This is because he doesn’t want a situation where you fall in love with the idea of a person who doesn’t exist in reality.
2. He shows you respect
Respect isn’t just about bowing down and calling someone “sensei,” as we see in Japanese movies.
Respect is the cornerstone of any relationship.
Respect is just like telling someone I see you and value you.
It’s like acknowledging a person’s worth in your life.
Respect is never trying to cross boundaries in relationships.
The fact is that respect is many things, and when a man loves you, he shows you respect.
He treats you the right way, values your opinions, and respects your boundaries.
Even in a world with widespread feminism and outrage against anything perceived as inequality, many men still find ways to disrespect ladies.
A man who loves you will show you respect because he loves you.
He won’t say intentionally hurtful words to you, and neither will he disregard your opinions.
If you are with a man who does all these and you are still wondering if he loves you, you need to just remain calm and be loved by him.
The dude is literally head over heels in love with you.
3. He supports you
What’s true love if it doesn’t entail massive support of each other’s dreams?
If you are in a relationship with someone who confesses that he loves you every hour of the day but doesn’t support you, you need to stop taking his words at face value and start examining his actions closely.
When a man loves you, he will support you in your endeavors.
He encourages you to pursue your passion.
While he does this, he also makes it clear that he doesn’t want to be a spectator on the sidelines.
He wants to be fully involved in helping you achieve your dreams and passions.
He strongly believes in you and wants you to succeed.
I remember realizing the girl I liked was struggling with her academics.
It was a statistics course and quite complex, especially for those who don’t really like mathematics.
I took it upon myself to become her private tutor.
She got an excellent grade in that course, and I felt so proud of her.
When a man loves you, he shows you his supportive side.
4. He celebrates your wins
When a man loves you, he doesn’t stop at just supporting you.
He shows joy when you achieve your goals.
He celebrates your wins like they are his.
He celebrates your achievements no matter how big or small and takes pride in your accomplishments.
He doesn’t feel envious or jealous because you are the center of attention.
He is happy to celebrate by your side.
He realizes that it’s not a competition.
He is not competing against you; because of this realization, his happiness for your success is genuine.
5. He is attentive to you
Attention is one of the major things a man shows you when he loves you.
He pays attention to your needs.
Attentiveness is a blanket word that means a lot of things.
It means he listens to you actively, paying attention to every little detail you share with him.
While many people think listening is easy, it is actually not easy.
True listening always ends in understanding the person talking to you.
This is the actual aim of listening.
Most of the time, men listen just to reply.
They are not really trying to understand the person speaking.
All of these changes when a man is in love with you.
He listens to you intently as if he is trying to listen to notes that can’t be heard by human ears.
He listens to the undertones of your words.
He pays so much attention to you that he can usually decode even those things you have left unsaid.
He doesn’t just listen because that’s what he is expected to do in a conversation.
He listens to you because he wants to know you.
He wants to satisfy your needs, so he pays attention to you.
When you receive this level of attention from a guy, it is usually a sign that he is deeply in love with you.
6. He spends quality time with you
Not every time spent with someone is called “quality time.”
Quality time is a time when you receive his undivided attention.
Nothing is battling for his attention.
Not his buzzing phone, and definitely not the attractive waitress at the restaurant.
When a man loves you, he will want to spend quality time with you.
In fact, he will want to spend most of his leisure time with you.
Quality time is a period of bonding.
A period that makes you feel like you are the only two people left in the world.
If a man loves to spend quality time with you, it could just be a sign that you mean the world to him.
7. He shows affection publicly and privately
I don’t like people touching me.
I used to dislike hugs.
I didn’t like holding hands too regardless of your gender.
I could permit some females to hold my hands, but I would also tell them they were holding me for too long.
Until I got my first hug from a lady I really liked.
Choi! I wasn’t going to stop hugging her after that first time.
I would hold hands with her in public.
Hugging was no longer irritating.
Of course, it felt that way with only her.
With others, physical touch was excruciatingly painful.
Now, I am learning to tolerate people touching me.
My point is that affection is not really about grand gestures; when a man loves you, he is ready to show you affection.
He holds your hand, kisses you on the forehead, and isn’t afraid to show his love publicly or privately.
A quick disclaimer: There is a way a guy will touch you that’s plain disrespectful.
Don’t mistake that for affection.
8. He includes you in his future plans
When a man loves you, he consistently unveils plans for his future.
Plans that involve you as a significant part.
If you are with a man who doesn’t talk about the future or talks about a future that doesn’t really include you, you should know that there is no future for that relationship.
Talking about the future could be a lot of things.
It doesn’t need to be a discussion about the number of children you want to give birth to and the names to give them.
It could be something simple like planning to go on a vacation together the next year.
It shows that he has long-term plans for the relationship.
He could also involve you in making decisions about significant career moves.
All these show that he envisions a future with you by his side.
When a man loves you, he shows it through his actions.
While it is also important to hear the words, the actions are really important.
People can fake the words, but in the long run, their actions will betray them.
Love is shown through actions that reflect care, respect, and commitment.
To my esteemed men, if you love a woman, tell her.
Don’t only communicate through your actions.
In conclusion, I leave you with a line from a Nigerian song that used to be my favorite several years ago…
“If you love somebody, walk up to her and tell her you love her. It is no crime at all.”