Every man has a dream woman.
His dream woman is the type of woman that he fantasizes about.
It’s the same thing for females, I believe.
Females also have their dream man.
Ideally, we are supposed to be married to the type of person we fantasize about.
However, the reality is usually far from ideal.
Every woman wants to feel desired, cherished, and irresistible to her husband.
They want to be the ones who hold his thoughts.
They desire to be the ones he can’t wait to come home to.
Usually, all of this happens at the beginning of most marriages.
People now call it the “honeymoon stage” as if it’s just a phase in marriages that inevitably evolves into another phase after some time.
The truth is that it doesn’t have to be so.
You can be the woman your husband fantasizes about at all times, and the good news is that you don’t even need to pretend to be someone you are not.
All you need to do is to be intentional and embrace your uniqueness while nurturing your relationship.
Now, different men have different ideas of the kind of women they fantasize about, but there are some meaningful ways in which you can become that woman for your husband.
Here’s how to be the woman of his dreams…
7 Ways To Be The Woman Your Husband Fantasizes About
1. Be spontaneous
Once, I told a friend that I could predict her moves and reactions to different scenarios.
She disagreed.
But after a few days of me showing her how predictable she actually was, she finally accepted.
“See finish” is a Nigerian slang that has several meanings.
Sometimes, it means “disrespect,” but most of the time, it implies that someone has gotten to know you so well that they can always predict you.
Marriage is a very intimate relationship that requires a high level of vulnerability from both partners.
In this situation, the probability of being predictable to your husband is really high if you are not a spontaneous person.
When your husband gets too familiar with you and he can predict your next steps all the time, he may begin to think he knows everything about you.
I love reading novels, and there’s this allure that comes with reading a new book.
You will never get that feeling when you try to read that book a second time.
Just because you share a life with your husband doesn’t mean you should become so predictable.
Some people may advise not telling your husband everything about you, but I disagree.
Husbands deserve to know everything about their wives.
You can still be a little unpredictable by being spontaneous.
Surprise him from time to time by doing something unexpected.
Something POSITIVE.
Wear something sexy, send a flirty text to him in the middle of the day, change up your look, or just dance with him to your favorite songs in the sitting room.
Arrange a date on impulse.
It doesn’t need to be something big.
Even a little effort goes a long way in keeping your husband intrigued.
2. Confidence is attractive
I have seen women share their experiences with men who treated them terribly because they were confident.
I won’t invalidate their experiences because I know there are many insecure men who are threatened by their wives’ confidence.
But I won’t agree with any form of generalization based on this.
Many men are attracted to confident women.
In fact, even though different men have different kinds of women they fantasize about, one thing is certain: these women are confident women.
Confidence is magnetic.
It is not just about how you carry yourself.
It also involves how comfortable you are in your own skin.
A confident woman is someone who has learned to embrace her strengths, imperfections, and uniqueness.
Nothing is sexier than a woman who owns her beauty, flaws, and desires.
So, walk like you truly know your value and speak with assurance because submission doesn’t mean the absence of confidence.
Express your opinions and needs confidently.
I have often been drawn to the confidence of a lady speaking in a meeting.
In fact, my dream woman is a confident woman who knows her strengths and weaknesses and, most importantly, strives to be the best version of herself.
Confidence is key to being the dynamic and captivating woman your husband adores.
3. Keep the spark alive
Intimacy is important in relationships, both in and outside the bedroom. Couples should be able to keep the spark alive.
If you want to be the woman of your man’s dreams, then you need to be intimate with him because it is only then that you will know what his fantasies are like.
It’s not just physical intimacy; emotional intimacy is very important.
Building a strong emotional connection with your husband is an important way to be the woman your husband fantasizes about.
So, be vulnerable with him and encourage him to be vulnerable with you.
Share your dreams with him and listen while he shares his with you.
When it comes to physical intimacy, don’t be rigid.
Start doing those little things that make him crave you to make the atmosphere more charged up.
Dress up to impress him.
Wear that dress that makes him so ravenous for you.
Wear that perfume that drives him wild.
Just switch things up a little bit.
Physical intimacy doesn’t have to be in your usual nightgown.
Wear something spicy!
Also, tease him occasionally.
A little anticipation before he has you will do no harm and a lot of good.
Well, being the woman your husband fantasizes about doesn’t have to always have sexual connotations.
So, try new things with your husband.
Do things together, whether it’s a weekend trip or actually seeing a movie together.
Sometimes, you could even participate in his hobbies, even the ones you don’t really like.
I have never seen a man who loves sports but doesn’t want to watch games with his wife.
It’s a secret fantasy for most men who are into sports.
So, if you are married to a man who loves sports, you may need to watch a few games with him if you truly want to satisfy his fantasies.
4. Be his partner-in-crime
Growing up, I learned something.
There are friends, and there are partners-in-crime.
Your friend can be a good friend, but a partner-in-crime is that one person who knows the worst things you have done and won’t judge you for them.
Now, don’t get me wrong.
I am not asking you to go around committing actual crimes with your husband.
Partner-in-crime here actually means being his teammate.
You are totally invested in the marriage, and it shows in how supportive you are.
Be his teammate in all aspects of life—whether tackling challenges, celebrating victories, or simply laughing over silly moments.
Couples’ goals are quite important.
So, you and your husband can bond over shared goals and interests.
By doing this, you are exhibiting the characteristics of his ultimate fantasy companion.
5. Be his safe space
Men generally fantasize about women who make them feel alive.
I have discussed with my male friends about what their ideal woman is like.
They mentioned many things, but none of them mentioned “a woman that stresses them with unnecessary drama.”
I know some ladies and girls think it is cute to be drama queens, but I sure hope that mature women don’t think so.
There is nothing cute about being a drama queen.
If you are one, you need to stop it.
Life is stressful on its own.
A husband needs to know that his wife is a safe space for him, not a source of additional stress.
So, how do you become the woman he fantasizes about?
Be the one he enjoys coming home to, not the one he has to deal with.
I have seen men get really excited when they are going home to meet their wives, and I have also seen men get really sad when they go home because there is no relief to be had at home.
You need to learn how to lighten the mood at home with your humor.
A good sense of humor is such a beautiful thing to have.
While you are laughing, it feels like the worries you have are distant memories.
You can’t laugh all the time, of course.
So, when things are serious, be his peace.
Be the one who listens to him without nagging.
Be the wife who supports her husband.
Be his greatest cheerleader, and most importantly, stay passionate about life and about him.
6. Embrace your femininity
There’s something undeniably powerful about a woman who embraces her femininity—softness with strength.
We live in a generation where many women want to deny the major things that make them feminine.
They want to act all macho and tough.
It is cool if that is really who you are.
However, for most females, it is an affectation.
It is a façade they hide behind.
Embrace your femininity.
I am not asking you to act like a damsel in distress, but the truth is that men love to feel needed in the relationship.
So, let him lead.
He doesn’t want to feel controlled, so normalize making “suggestions” to him about things.
Let him decide or feel like he is the one making the decision.
Be sensual in everyday moments.
Infuse sensuality into the way you look at him, the way you talk, and even the way you move.
Like I said initially, if this is not ‘you’, you don’t need to force it because I am about to mention the best way to be your husband’s fantasy woman.
7. Be authentically you
Above all, authenticity is important.
It is totally attractive, especially with the current trend of so many people trying to act like other people.
I know I have suggested many things you need to change to be your husband’s fantasy woman, but you don’t need to totally change yourself to implement those changes.
No matter what, stay true to yourself.
Identify your strengths and weaknesses.
Leverage your strengths while you work on your weaknesses.
Being authentic is not an excuse for being rude or having other negative behaviors.
Work on them.
Try to become a better version of yourself.
This simply makes you are still yourself, only a much more improved version.
At the end of the day, the woman he fantasizes about isn’t a distant ideal—it’s you, just the most confident, alluring, and irresistible version of yourself.
Being the woman your husband fantasizes about isn’t about changing who you are; it’s about embracing your authentic self.
When you nurture love, respect, and passion for each other, you create a beautiful, lasting connection—one that feels like the fulfillment of every fantasy for both of you.