The success of every relationship (both romantic and platonic) depends on the efforts of both parties.
Any one-sided relationship is bound to fail.
In a romantic relationship, you might be giving your all, while the man doesn’t bother to do even the bare minimum because he doesn’t have feelings for you.
But you might be so blinded by love that you don’t even notice you’re doing all the giving and getting nothing in return.
And by the time you notice, it might be too late for you.
To avoid this, there are ways to know if a man doesn’t have feelings for you.
When you’re conscious of the signs and look out for them in your relationship, you’ll be doing yourself a favor and saving yourself from a great deal of heartbreak.
If you notice your man exhibiting any of the signs listed below, consider it a warning that things are not going well in your relationship.
7 Signs He Doesn’t Have Feelings For You
1. He Doesn’t Pay You Compliments
What man does not pay his woman compliments?
The one who doesn’t have feelings for her.
No matter how introverted, shy, unromantic, or unexpressive a man is, the one who has feelings for you will always find a way to chip in compliments for you.
Even the most unromantic men have ways of making their women blush uncontrollably when they give them compliments.
So, what’s that excuse you want to put up for the one who doesn’t do the barest minimum for you when it comes to paying compliments?
I’m not saying that he should break the vocabulary bank to let you know that he sees you, loves you, and appreciates your presence in his life.
Far from it!
A compliment can be as simple as noticing your new pair of earrings, the flowery scent of your perfume, or loving how your dress matches the color of your eyes or hair.
Even the simplest things can evoke heartwarming compliments from someone who is really into you.
If you’re not getting any from him, it’s likely because he doesn’t have feelings for you.
Any excuses you are making for him will disappear when he meets a woman he loves.
2. He Doesn’t Initiate Calls And Texts
No rule dictates that a specific gender must call or text first before the other person takes the cue.
When you’re in love, there are no rules to these things.
You move with your feelings.
You reach out to your loved one via texts or calls when you think about them or miss them.
But it’s an error if you notice the communication is one-sided, with you doing all the reaching out.
It’ll seem like you are forcing yourself on him, which shouldn’t be the case.
A man who has feelings for you will want to hear from you as much as you want to hear from him.
He’ll call you whenever he’s free and send texts to check up on you and reassure you of his love for you if he’s having a busy day.
3. He Disregards Your Feelings
One of the qualities of love is compassion, and it’s impossible for anyone who claims to love or have feelings for you not to be compassionate towards you.
When you are in love, you consider your loved one’s feelings whenever you make decisions.
Before doing those things, you’ll pause and ask yourself, “How will she/he feel about what I’m about to do?” or “Will making this decision affect him/her negatively or positively?”
If you are with a guy who doesn’t have feelings for you, you’ll notice that you’re constantly prioritizing his feelings and needs in your actions and decisions.
I’m not saying you should completely disregard your feelings, but when you love someone, their happiness and well-being become a top priority for you.
Do you feel like he’s not returning the energy?
He wakes up and does things without considering how you’ll feel about his actions.
Even when you complain, he waves it off as mere complaints or an overreaction.
If you want to press further on the issue, he’ll say you’re nagging him.
It’s sad, really.
He constantly disregards your feelings because he doesn’t have feelings for you.
4. He Doesn’t Seek or Value Your Opinion
Seeking or valuing your opinion is another yardstick for measuring whether he has feelings for you or not.
No matter how powerful, uptight, or unapproachable someone is, there’s always that one person in their corner whom they listen to and who, most of the time, factors in their opinions during decision-making.
Most of the time, it’s their romantic partners.
I’m saying this because some women have come to accept their partners not seeking or valuing their opinions as the norm.
I want to point out that such ideology is wrong on all levels.
Their excuse is that he’s powerful enough to make decisions on his own without consulting them.
You should not be among such women.
They see men as strong, independent, and not needing other people.
They forget that men are humans, too, with blood running through their veins.
They’re not infallible, and most times, they need external support.
What better support system do they need than their partners?
A man who has feelings for you will want to run his affairs, especially major ones, by you.
Even if you have little or no knowledge about the subject matter, he’ll still want to know what you think, no matter how useless your contribution might be to him.
So, if your man doesn’t seek your opinions at all, and even when you air your opinion without being asked, and he shoves it aside, it’s one of the signs he doesn’t have feelings for you.
5. He Doesn’t Buy You Gifts
Since time immemorial, gifts have always been one of the ways to a woman’s heart.
And you still need more gifts to keep her heart open towards you.
Men know this fact and do not joke with gifting the women in their lives.
They don’t wait until they have all the money in the world to get their women gifts.
They get these gifts according to their current financial capabilities.
And their women are always appreciative of such gifts.
As the saying goes, “It’s the thought that counts.”
So, if your man has stopped gifting you or has never gotten you gifts, you need to do a double-take.
Maybe you even get him gifts regularly, but from him, it’s cricket.
You already know it’s not because he’s too broke not to afford the simplest gift for you.
Maybe he doesn’t think you’re worth getting a gift for because he doesn’t have feelings for you.
However, you must know that gifts are not the only measure of love.
He might shower you with gifts with an ulterior motive in mind.
Likewise, he might not get you gifts, but he still makes up for it in other ways.
It takes wisdom to see through his real intentions towards you.
6. He Doesn’t Look Out for You
One of the major things a woman needs from her man is protection.
She wants a man who will have her back, look out for her, and protect her.
Naturally, men are protectors, and this has nothing to do with whether you are a loved one or not.
A man’s protective instinct kicks in whenever he sees a vulnerable person who needs help or protection.
How much more the woman he loves.
He’ll do anything for her, and that’s where ‘knight in shining armor’ comes in handy.
Dare I say that the essence of having a man is mainly lost if he can’t look out for her and protect her physically and emotionally?
Once you start feeling alone, vulnerable, and unprotected, even when your man is right there by your side, you should know that something is wrong in your relationship.
He’s definitely losing his feelings for you, and he couldn’t care less about whether or not you are safe and protected.
7. He No Longer Likes Being Around You
When you love someone, you want to be around them, even if you love your space.
So, if your man has suddenly gone from looking for every opportunity to be around you to not being interested in being around you, something has definitely shifted in the feelings department.
You’ll notice he’s always bored around you and can’t wait to leave whenever you’re together.
He can’t seem to get enough of his gadgets — playing games, seeing movies, chatting with other people, taking phone calls, being on social media, etc, whenever you’re around.
He claims that these activities keep him engaged and entertained, and keep boredom at bay.
He’ll make a million and one excuses just to be away from you.
This shouldn’t be the case if he’s really into you.
A couple in love will enjoy each other’s company mutually and look forward to spending time together whenever they’re apart.
Love is a beautiful and wholesome feeling that everyone should experience.
You deserve to be loved and loved rightly.
Don’t let anyone make you settle for less because they’re not on the same frequency as you.
Once you realize you’re not receiving the love you deserve, it’s best to remove yourself from the situation.
I’m rooting for you!