• boldness,  Life,  timidity

    HOW I OVERCAME TIMIDITY

    ‘’No matter how brilliant, intelligent or talented you are, if you are too timid, you will miss out on many opportunities that can better your life. The floor belongs to the bold.’’ I wrote the above on Facebook last year, and it garnered hundreds of reactions and comments from people who were struggling with timidity. I posted the same a week ago, and over five hundred people acknowledged it. Apparently, a lot of people are timid, and they hate it. As requested, I decided to share my timidity story and how I’ve been able to manage it. Timidity is simply shyness, and shyness is the fear of social interactions. Growing…

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    YOU NEED IT!

    Until December 2013, traveling was one of my cherished hobbies. I love traveling because it affords me the opportunity to view the natural world, reminding of the Creator’s power.  Also, it gives me the time to meditate. Anytime I wasn’t traveling, and I saw buses traveling, I envied the commuters. I wished I was the one traveling. Funny, right? So much for my traveling craze. However, on this fateful day, I was on my way to Ibadan, gratefully, my kid sister was traveling with me. About 30 minutes into the journey, we met with a snarl up. We learnt that an accident had happened ahead. People alighted from their vehicles…

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    WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM?

    Ever since I knew what school was, I had never been a fan of Mathematics. I didn’t have a flair for calculations. I struggled with Mathematics and Physics during my secondary school days. Further Maths was a taboo! In fact, I had a narrow escape in Maths in my O’LEVEL and Statistics in the nursing school. I thought I had divorced Statistics until I got to the university. Psychology is a social science, so, there shouldn’t be a need for Statistics, so I thought. But we were made to understand that Statistics is what makes Psychology a science. As a matter of fact, it is a compulsory course in the…

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    STAYING ATTRACTIVE

       This is a sequel to a blog article I wrote on attractiveness. If you missed it, you can read it here: How Attractive Are You?  http://www.olubunmimabel.com/2015/02/how-attractive-are-you.html    I explained the meaning of the misconstrued word, and also five qualities which can make a person attractive.  Below are four more crucial factors which facilitate attractiveness.      *PERSONALITY    Perhaps one of the statements made by my lecturer which would remain indelible in my memory is, “Your personality is more important than your capacity.”    He emphasized that during interviews, the personality of an individual makes up 60% of what an employer looks out for. It doesn’t matter if you have…

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    THE DREAMER’S SELF-CONCEPT

       To pursue your dreams, you need a healthy amount of self esteem which in turn, fuels your motivation. Motivation is the driving force that propels you to act. You can’t achieve anything without it. So, if your self esteem influences your motivation to pursue your dreams, how can you have a healthy dose of it? And how does it affect your dreams really?    Self esteem is your self-worth, the way you view yourself in comparison with no one, it is your self-pride. Self-concept is the knowledge of yourself, your self-definition. As a dreamer, if you allow your circumstances to define your self-concept, you’ll never have a healthy self-esteem.…

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    TEN STEPS TO SUCCEED AS A NIGERIAN YOUTH.

    As an involuntary youth leader and an impact General in a society of social ‘orphans’; since we lost our heads of governments who ought to be our social parents to greed, corruption and irresponsibility, I have taken it upon myself to teach my generation basic nuggets required to achieve unprecedented heights of success.    Essentially, the youth time is the time of life when one is young: the time when a young person has not yet become an adult in means and responsibility. My focus is on this set because they still have the future, the time and the raw energy to make a success of their lives!      Perhaps…

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    5 THINGS YOU SHOULDN’T SAY/DO TO A GRIEVING PERSON

        Life isn’t a bed of roses. We are sometimes interrupted by grief to remind us of life realities and the transience of human life. This could be in form of loss of a loved one, failure in exam or business, heartbreak, robbery attack, sickness etc. During this period, we try to console the affected persons but in the process, we innocently do more harm than good; thereby making the grieving persons worse especially through the things we say.    Below are the five common innocently worse things we say/do to grieving persons: “Stop Crying”     Perhaps this is the commonest words we say to a person in sorrow. Stop…