If you are social media savvy, you should have seen those content where women ask their men funny questions.
I say funny because I think some of the questions are actually funny.
For instance, asking your husband if he would love you if you were an ant is cute and hilarious.
However, some of the questions are completely weird and could put the man on the edge.
Here he is enjoying his day, and you come up with these questions to ruin it.
The worst thing about most of these questions is that they are often unnecessary.
I’d understand asking some of them if the situation calls for it, but if it doesn’t, you are just itching to ruin your man’s day, which, quite frankly, is unfair.
But before I go too far on this, what are those questions your husband doesn’t want you to ask?
Let’s take a look at them.
10 Questions Your Husband Doesn’t Want You To Ask
1. Do You Really Love Me?
I used to have this problem when I was younger, and I felt like they didn’t love me anymore when I had a disagreement or argument with someone.
So, I remember asking my ex-boyfriend if he still loved me after an argument, and he assured me he did.
I appreciate him for tolerating that part of me, but looking back, that was too much stress to put on someone.
At the risk of sounding like I’m justifying that attitude, we could still excuse my asking if I was loved for a particular reason.
However, when you ask this question for no reason other than to stir trouble or think it’s fun, you are being unfair to your man.
Yes, your husband might tolerate it, but he would rather you didn’t ask because it makes him feel cornered, especially if he’s already showing you love through actions.
You are making him feel he is not doing enough to show you by asking.
I understand that this question stems from insecurity or a rough patch in the relationship.
However, instead of asking this directly at those times, reflect on how he expresses love differently from you.
For instance, does he run errands, fix things for you, or make time despite his busy schedule?
If yes, then he likely loves you.
Love often speaks louder in actions than words.
But if you need to be loved differently based on your love language, tell him what makes you feel loved.
2. Why Can’t You Be More Like [Someone Else]?
Often, when women compare their husbands, it is to someone else’s husband – maybe their friend.
But let’s not qualify it because it doesn’t matter who; your husband doesn’t want to be compared to anybody – your dad, brother, friend, boss, religious leader, and what have you.
Your husband is his own person; he can never be someone else; you should have settled that when you married him.
Asking him this makes him feel inadequate.
If you find it hard to understand how difficult this is, put yourself in his shoes.
Imagine if he said this to you; I bet you would feel bad.
Well, that’s exactly how he feels.
Everyone wants to feel accepted for who they are, flaws and all.
I have also made this mistake before, so I know better now.
I once compared my partner’s sense of humor to a friend’s, and it didn’t go well.
I’m happy he voiced how that made him feel instead of bottling it.
It made me seek redress, and we talked about the main issue, which was the kind of fun I missed in our relationship.
That conversation was way more productive than comparing him to someone else.
So, if you want something in your marriage, communicate it politely rather than going the comparison route.
3. Am I Too Fat?
As a chubby girl, this is something I struggle with.
I want to be certain my husband still finds me attractive and that I’m not bigger than what’s acceptable to him, so I’m often tempted to ask him this question.
I say that to say I get it, but this question often feels like a trap to men because no matter what they say, it might not satisfy you.
Once, a friend asked her husband this, and when he said, “No, you’re beautiful,” she countered with, “You’re just saying that!”
So, basically, men never win with this question, and that’s why they hate it.
If your husband has not given you any reason to think he isn’t attracted to you, you need to believe he loves you as you are.
I understand feeling insecure if your man were Mike in Why Did I Get Married?
If he isn’t, stop making him feel like he is.
If you’re seeking reassurance, focus on how you feel in your body and work together to feel healthier or more confident.
4. Do You Find [Someone Else] Attractive?
So, let’s just put this out there: your husband will likely meet more attractive women than you.
This doesn’t mean he loves you less; it simply means he has eyes and blood flowing in his veins.
Accepting that will do you a lot of good.
Moreover, you are likely to be attracted to other men as well, so it’s you expecting something of him that you will fail at.
What matters is his commitment to you and the fact that he remains faithful to you.
Having said that, asking him this question is basically courting trouble; you’d ruin his day and yours, especially if you constantly bring it up.
It may sound accusatory and make him feel like you are questioning his faithfulness.
This could especially hurt him if he is indeed faithful to you and make him feel like you don’t trust him.
5. Would You Marry Someone Else If I Died?
This question honestly grinds my teeth because why do you want to know?
In fact, why are you thinking of either of you dying?
Yes, we all know death is inevitable and something we will all deal with at some point, but why think about it when you don’t have to?
I understand you might be curious, but it can be unsettling, especially if you bring it up multiple times.
You are basically asking him to envision a life without you; I can’t think of any other mood-killer than this.
Most husbands will avoid answering because it feels like a betrayal, even hypothetically.
Instead of focusing on an “if I died” scenario, cherish the life you’re building together now.
6. Am I Pretty?
Have you ever been around people who are constantly fishing for compliments?
I don’t know about you, but I find their company exhausting.
That’s precisely what you are doing to your husband: exhausting him.
Your husband probably already thinks you’re beautiful; it’s why he chose you.
Except he is a masochist or a jerk, he married you because you are pretty to him.
Let that reassure you when you are ever in doubt.
7. Are You Ever Going To Cheat On Me?
The problem with this question is that it sounds accusatory whether you mean to accuse your partner or not.
Yes, you might be asking out of fear or insecurity, but it sounds accusatory.
Once, a friend admitted she asked this during a low point, and her husband felt deeply hurt.
According to her, getting her husband back to his usual self took a while because he felt distrusted for no reason.
If your husband has not given you reasons to doubt him, asking this is unnecessary.
If he has, only confront the issue when you have proof – not just on feelings – because, trust me, the last thing you want to be in such a situation is wrong.
8. Am I The Best Sex You’ve Ever Had?
Like asking your husband if he is attracted to someone else, this question does nothing for you.
It is a no-win situation that will only end up making your husband uncomfortable.
If he says “yes,” you might question his honesty.
If he says “no,” well, that’s even worse.
So, there is really no point.
Instead of focusing on comparisons, try asking how to make your intimacy more exciting for both of you.
For example, you can share fantasies, try new things, or simply be open about what you enjoy.
9. Do You Love Me More Than Your Mum?
This question creates a false competition between two important people in his life.
Love for a parent and spouse are different, and comparing them is unfair.
Why should one love supersede the other?
The real question is, does he treat you with love and prioritize your relationship?
If yes, that’s all that matters.
10. Are You Hiding Something From Me?
This question feels like an accusation and might put your husband on the defensive, even if he has nothing to hide.
I once asked my husband this question when I noticed him acting distant, and it turned out he was just stressed about work and didn’t want to worry me.
So, try not to overthink when your husband acts out of character; that may drive you to ask the wrong questions.
For instance, instead of accusing him, you could say, “You seem distracted; is something bothering you?”
This is a better question as it invites a conversation rather than suspicion, making him feel safer to open up.