I have watched a few movies about an addicted lover, including the one Beyonce acted in, Obsessed.
Although in some of the movies, the addicted partner wasn’t in a relationship with the subject, I don’t think it removes much from fact.
Each time, I am both intrigued and terrified about being with someone who is addicted to you.
At first glance, it might seem like the best thing to happen to you that someone worships the floor you walk on.
But after a while, it begins to get exhausting, and the sad thing is that when you start pulling away, the addicted partner might start fighting back, which could even pose a threat to your life.
Have you ever heard people say, “If I can’t have you, nobody can?”
Yes, that’s the language of an addicted person.
I am not saying it is in all cases that it turns violent.
However, it is also a potentially dangerous situation that is better avoided.
That’s why it is important to know if you have an addicted husband before things spiral because, as I said, it might not be clear at first.
Initially, you might mistake it for love because, let’s be honest, who doesn’t like to be doted on?
So, let’s look at some ways to differentiate between love and addiction.
8 Signs Your Husband Is Addicted To You
1. He’s Constantly Checking In on You
Couples in love check on each other; if you don’t have that, you are not in love.
It is normal to miss each other and want to check-in.
However, they are also comfortable in their feelings that they don’t feel the need to smother each other.
That means, while they check in, they also give each other space.
However, if your phone is always buzzing with texts like “What are you up to?” or “How’s it going?” every hour, it’s a sign he’s addicted to you.
While it’s lovely to know he cares, incessant check-ins point to an obsession with staying connected.
Like I said, healthy love allows space, so when he needs constant updates about even the smallest details, it shows he’s hooked on your presence.
2. He Prioritizes You Over Everything Else
Relationship coaches always advise you to be with someone who prioritizes you and your relationship.
Now, this has its merit because you don’t want to be with someone who puts you after everything else and only remembers you when it’s convenient.
However, your husband shouldn’t shut down everything in his life because of you.
If he’s skipping gym sessions, putting off work deadlines, or ignoring hobbies to spend time with you, something might be wrong.
While being a top priority is flattering, he needs to have his own life, too.
A husband who is addicted to you might sacrifice everything – even things that bring him joy or growth – just to make sure he’s available for you.
A healthy relationship thrives when both partners have individual interests.
So, if you notice this, you are likely dealing with an addicted husband.
3. He Gets Jealous Easily
I will be the first to tell you that jealousy is necessary for a marriage or relationship; it shows that your partner knows your worth and doesn’t want to lose you.
But there is a thin line between jealousy and possessiveness; the latter is a major sign of someone being addicted to you.
If he gets jealous once in a while, especially in situations that warrant it, you might not need to raise eyebrows.
But if he always tense up when you talk to other men – even if it’s just your coworkers or friends, you might need to take a second look.
An overly jealous husband will often feel threatened by anyone else getting your attention; they want you to be as addicted to them as they are to you.
This jealousy issue is quite sensitive because many people might overlook it, and it might even flatter you.
However, you need to watch out for it if it’s incessant and unreasonable.
4. He Always Wants To Spend Time Together
Another sign that your husband is addicted to you is if he always wants to spend time with you – the operative word here is always (at all times).
As I’ve said since the start of this post, it will be adorable at first when he wants to hang out 24/7, but after a while, it will start to feel overwhelming.
A husband who’s addicted to you might struggle with giving you personal space, insisting on tagging along everywhere or planning every moment together.
While spending time together is necessary for a strong marriage, it’s also important to maintain independence.
So, when your husband insists that you both are attached to the hips to the point where it is becoming unhealthy, he is likely addicted to you.
For instance, if he can’t stand you going to work, spending time with other friends or being out of his sight, he is addicted.
5. He Seeks Constant Reassurance
An addicted husband will seek constant reassurance.
You will often hear questions like “Do you still love me?” or “Are we okay?” because he needs to be sure you are into him as he is.
While it’s natural to want validation in a relationship, it will feel draining with an addicted husband.
He will ask this constantly to reassure himself that he isn’t losing you, but it will be more when he notices you are getting exhausted with the overwhelming emotions he is displaying.
A healthy marriage requires that both parties understand their worth as individuals.
A man is likely addicted to his wife if he relies on her to feel whole.
6. He Overreacts To Minor Conflicts
Another sign that he is overly invested in your marriage is if a small disagreement feels like the end of the world to him.
Couples in healthy relationships argue and quarrel, but they always find a way to resolve it without feeling like they are ruining their marriage.
Of course, some fights might point to bigger issues – but that’s not what I am talking about here.
I’m speaking about the normal disagreement couples have because they are different and not perfect.
In a healthy relationship, none of you will think your marriage is heading for the rocks because of that.
Instead, you express yourself politely and come to a resolution.
However, an addicted husband is often insecure, so a little conflict will worry him because he will see it as a threat to your relationship.
You will often see him get extremely emotional or overly apologetic over the most trivial conflict.
It is due to fear that he will lose you because of the argument because he is hooked on you.
7. He Talks About You Constantly
It can be heartwarming to hear that your husband always talks about you in your absence to others, but it could also be indicative that you are the centre of his world and he doesn’t have anything else going for him outside of you.
Yes, your husband should talk about you, or that’s a red flag, but he should also have other things to talk about, such as work, interests, hobbies, friends, family, and everything else.
If you hear from others that all he talks about is you, then he is likely addicted to you.
8. He Makes Extreme Sacrifices For Your Happiness
Sacrifices are necessary for a healthy marriage.
Nobody can have a successful marriage without sacrifices from both partners.
However, making extreme sacrifices – to the point it is unhealthy – to accommodate you is troubling.
If it seems like your husband does all the sacrificing and doesn’t allow you to make any, that’s also unhealthy.
Couples in a healthy marriage do not always cancel plans with friends, give up personal goals, or put themself in harm’s way just to make their partner happy.
They sacrifice and compromise when necessary, but they also give room for each person to meet their own needs.
Extreme sacrifices are a sign of over-dependency on your approval.
It’s sweet to feel loved, but a healthy partnership is a give-and-take.