There’s a burst of excitement and positive energy that comes with new marriages.
The couple is fond of and can do anything for each other because the relationship is still relatively new.
Fast forward to some time later when the honeymoon phase is long gone and their love for each other gets tested by different factors.
At this point, everything seems to slow down a bit, and sometimes, it feels like the marriage is losing its spark.
It takes conscious and dedicated efforts from the couple to keep the embers warm and the fire of love, dedication, and commitment burning in the marriage.
However, if one person, specifically the husband, isn’t interested in taking the relationship back to normalcy, it might be an indication that he’s tired of the marriage.
How will you know if your husband is tired of the marriage?
Outlined below are some signs that your husband may be tired of the marriage.
7 Signs Your Husband Is Tired Of The Marriage
1. He doesn’t respect you anymore
Love and respect go hand in hand.
If your husband no longer respects you, it may be a sign that he no longer loves you.
In the same vein, don’t expect the respect he has for you to remain intact.
When he loses the love he has for you and is tired of the marriage, he’ll likely do whatever he feels like doing without putting your feelings into consideration.
It’s more like he doesn’t care how you feel if he disrespects you.
2. He becomes self-centered
One of the general signs your husband is tired of the marriage is that he’ll become self-centered and start thinking about only himself more.
At the beginning of the marriage, everything was about both of you.
After all, ‘Two shall become one flesh.’
Back then, he didn’t make plans or decisions without putting you into consideration or even asking for your opinion.
Those were the days when you truly felt seen, understood, valued, and heard in your marriage.
The story is different these days.
He rarely thinks about you or brings you into the equation when making decisions or plans.
Even if he’ll let you in on what’s happening, it’ll be after everything is set up.
You no longer have a say and must simply follow his plans while also trying to fit in wherever he places you.
It’s clear that you’re now at the bottom of his priority list.
Also, as you’re making an effort to bring the relationship between you back to the fun and intimate level it was before, he finds a way to either scatter what you’re trying to achieve or water down your efforts by his actions.
The man is probably tired of the marriage.
3. He ignores you
Stop waiting around for a man to tell you plainly that he’s tired of the marriage before you see the truth that has been staring at you in the face.
Sometimes, ignoring you is one of the vivid signs your husband is tired of the marriage.
This is in sharp contrast to how he used to treat you in the early stages of the marriage.
Back then, he was always all over you and trying to make sure that everything was okay with you.
He was your shoulder to lean on during the tough days and always gave a listening ear to your rants and plans.
He encouraged you in every way he could and stood by you to help you become the best version of yourself.
Lately, it seems like that part of him has been erased completely towards you.
Nowadays, he’s no longer interested in knowing how you’re doing, what’s going on with you, and what you’ve been up to.
Even if you want to share things about yourself without him asking, he might zone out on you or excuse himself from the conversation while you’re still talking to him.
You’re disturbing him with your business that he clearly doesn’t want to be a part of.
4. He stops making an effort with your special dates
A man who is tired of his marriage will stop attaching importance to and making efforts to make his wife’s special dates truly special for her.
These special dates can include her birthday, their wedding anniversary, her work anniversary, and so on.
If it were when the going was good, her husband would go over and beyond to make her feel special and loved on her special days.
He’ll go all out to make sure that she enjoys herself to the fullest on such days.
These days, he might actually forget the date or pretend to forget to make her feel miserable and unimportant.
If she’s having a party on such days and invites him, he’ll likely cancel on her or stand her up.
He’s tired of his wife and the marriage.
5. He takes advantage of you
I once overheard one of my aunts telling my mum that she knows that her husband is tired of their marriage and is only ‘using’ her.
That piece of information was new to me as I didn’t know that couples also ‘use’ each other, so I paused what I was doing to get the full gist.
It happened that her husband always kept his distance from her, only coming around to act funny, caring, and romantic when he needed something from her.
It could be sex, financial favors, referrals, or business recommendations.
Once she meets his needs, he’ll revert to keeping his distance from her until he needs her help again.
Because they’re a couple, it might be difficult to notice when one partner is taking advantage of the other.
But if one is sensitive enough, they’ll realize what’s happening in no time.
In the case of my aunt, her husband taking advantage of her was the sign she needed to know that he was tired of their marriage.
6. He suddenly wants you to stop meddling in his affairs
In line with ignoring you, it won’t come as a surprise if your husband suddenly wants you to stop meddling in his affairs.
He stops involving you in things that concern him and expects you not to ask questions.
He’ll reason that since he no longer shows interest in yours, you should return the favor.
When you don’t take his cue and instead keep showing interest in his business, he’ll start dropping signs that you should back off and mind your business.
These signs may be subtle at first, and if you’re still acting blind or not catching onto them, he’ll have to come out to you plainly.
7. He stops supporting you
One of the signs your husband is tired of the marriage is that he stops supporting you.
It’s usually painful when a marriage takes a downward spiral because everything else is affected.
Your husband used to be supportive of you both in actions and words.
He listened to your plans, encouraged you, and even went the extra mile to make your visions and dreams a reality.
Now that he’s tired of the marriage, he automatically withdraws his support for you.
He no longer has your back and is not interested in knowing what’s going on with you.
Even when you reach out to him for help, he’ll likely leave you out in the cold and turn a blind eye.
While it’s sad, you don’t need any more proof of the fact that your husband is tired of the marriage.
This right here is a huge sign.