When a man becomes a husband, he stops being just a regular man and goes beyond just a lover.
Another part of him comes to light.
My husband is not the same guy he was when we were dating; of course, he’s the same person, but there are new sides to him that have emerged since we started the journey called marriage.
I’ve seen it happen time and time again, whether intentionally or subconsciously: the man morphs from his usual basic self into something that aligns with his new reality – somebody’s hubby (By the way, am I the only one who dislikes the term “hubby?” lol).
Today, we’re discussing ten types of husbands you’ll meet in every marriage.
Of course, every husband is different, and you can’t fit them all into the same boxes, but some behaviors are almost general.
You’ll likely meet these interesting kinds of husbands in most usual marriages.
10 Types of Husbands You’ll Meet in Every Marriage
1. The planner and provider
This is usually the most obvious part of every husband – Mr “I’ve got it covered.”
He’s doing everything he can to ensure that his family is comfortable and happy and remains that way.
This guy is focused on financial stability and meeting the family’s material needs.
Kind of reminds me of my dad; growing up, I observed that all he ever thought about was if we had enough food at home, if our tuition fees were paid, and if he had paid the rent.
He never wanted to see us suffer.
I mean, he didn’t buy us the fanciest of outfits or the most fashionable shoes and bags, but he made sure that we were well-fed and never lacked our basic needs.
This is the hardworking and goal-driven side of husbands.
They’re responsible, dependable, and protective, but you may not be able to bank on them when it comes to emotional or relational needs.
They may not be great in that area because they’re overly focused on work or finances.
This husband is a great guy with big dreams for his family, but his wife might joke that he’s married to his job, and his real spouse is his laptop.
He believes that his family’s happiness is tied to his hard work, and while his intentions are beautiful, they may not be seen as that when he misses special moments at home because he has to attend to work.
2. The sweet guy
This is the husband who wears his heart on his sleeve.
He’s romantic, supportive, and kind to his wife, treating her like his baby.
I’ve not seen anyone model this better than my husband.
That man is the sweetest!
He leaves little notes on our mirror, texts me cheesy love quotes, and surprises me with flowers “just because.”
My husband doesn’t mind calling me cheesy pet names like “My Angel,” and I don’t mind at all either.
But the interesting thing about him is that as sweet as he is, he’s sometimes shy when it comes to PDA.
Surprising?
I know, right?
You’d think a man like that should be open to making out in public, but that’s not exactly his thing.
Just goes to show how there can be many sides to one husband, but I digress, we’ll talk about the shy husband in other points, let us finish talking about the sweetness.
Husbands like this prioritize affection, love, and intimacy in their marriage.
They’re perfect gentlemen, a partner, and teammate all in one.
You’ll find them sharing responsibilities and encouraging their wives’ growth.
These men’s behaviors are all shades of green flags: balanced, emotionally intelligent, and collaborative.
The challenge with this husband is that he sometimes over-prioritizes his wife’s needs and neglects his own.
And while it’s sweet, it can sometimes be too much, the wife can feel love-bombed and be gasping for air sometimes, she just wants to breathe a little!
But the truth is that the world could use more of this kind of husband, men who treat their wives like queens.
3. The social butterfly
If you’re married to this guy, your weekends are never boring.
He’s always organizing parties, dragging you to barbecues, or catching up with old friends.
If he’s not organizing the hangout, he knows someone who is and is more than ready to be there.
He’s Mr. Jaiye Jaiye (life of the party), attending all the owambes (lavish parties) every weekend, and sure knows how to enjoy life.
You’re constantly going to see this man’s phone buzzing with calls and messages; everyone just seems to love him.
While his extroversion can be fun, especially if the wife can match the energy, it can also feel overwhelming when you’re craving a quiet night in.
I know women who are introverts and get tired of this side of their husbands because it’s too much sometimes.
The wife wants to stay home and sleep, but her husband blasts music and invites friends over.
There’s nothing fun about that.
But on the bright side, you’ll never have to worry about making new friends because he’s already befriended half the neighborhood.
4. The shy guy
He’s madly in love with you, but that doesn’t mean he should be kissing you in front of people.
I mean, there’s nothing wrong with kissing your spouse in public places where that is allowed, but for this husband, it’s not his thing.
He loves his wife very much and will show it in all ways possible, just not by playful slapping her butt in front of her friends, even if that’s what she wants.
It may sound funny to say a man is shy, but the reality is that some are, and there’s nothing wrong with that as long as his heart is in the right place.
5. The grumpy old man
This husband stresses his wife out.
He complains about everything, from the noisy neighbors to the government to how you squeeze toothpaste from the middle of the tube.
You’d think he was 70, not 35!
Although this can be annoying, he’s intrinsically not a bad person; he just has his days.
And despite his grumbles, he’s fiercely loyal and will go to great lengths to protect his family.
Just don’t expect him to join you in singing karaoke or trying new workout styles because he’s too busy arguing with customer service about a bill that’s $2 higher than last month.
6. The quiet guy
This is a husband who believes that actions speak louder than words.
With him, conversations feel like a chore.
My friend’s husband literally dozes off when her gists become too much.
He just can’t be engaged in talking for that long.
He’s not always like this, but on some days, he is.
You can ask him how his day went, and he’ll reply with a boring, “Fine.”
But don’t mistake his quietness for indifference or lack of love.
When the chips are down, this husband will show up, no questions asked.
He may not say “I love you” every day or every minute, but he’ll drive across town to fix your flat tire at midnight.
What more could you ask for?
He’s just easygoing and non-confrontational; he loves his peace and doesn’t fancy chaos.
Sometimes, this behavior causes an issue in his marriage because his wife feels neglected or thinks he lacks initiative.
She can become frustrated and angry if they don’t communicate well.
7. The “My Wife is My World” guy
This husband is a walking love letter.
He can’t say 10 sentences without adding “My wife” to it.
His social media posts are full of pictures of him and his wife, and he never misses an opportunity to sing her praises in public.
He’ll introduce her at parties with, “This is my queen,” hopefully, he means it.
It can sometimes feel overwhelming for the wife, but it’s also deeply reassuring.
You may think he’s doing too much until he stops, and you begin to crave it.
This guy remembers your coffee order, texts you to check on your day, and still gets butterflies when he sees you across the room.
His life revolves around his wife, and it’s beautiful to see.
8. The fixer
Most men love to fix things, and I’m pretty sure their women don’t mind most times.
This husband believes he can solve every problem, whether it’s a broken shelf, your work stress, or global warming.
While his practical mindset can be helpful, it’s also frustrating sometimes, especially when you only want him to say, “I understand, babe. That must have been tough.”
This guy is also a clueless helper sometimes.
He wants to help with some things, but bless his heart; he always seems to get it wrong.
He folds the laundry, but your white shirt turns pink.
He makes breakfast in bed, but the toast is burnt, and the eggs look like something from an experiment.
And it’s not intentional or weaponized incompetence; some things are just not his strengths.
I’ll never forget when my dad tried to fix our broken shelf once, and by the time he was done, we had two problems on the ground: the shelf was still broken, and he was hurting back.
Still, the efforts are nice, and he’s proof that love doesn’t always need perfection.
Sometimes you have to be satisfied with the intention.
9. The common sense guy
This is one side of my husband I love so much yet dislike so much at the same time.
He’s logical to the L!
I’m spontaneous and love doing some things on the go just as I feel them, but my husband is my brake pad.
He scrutinizes things and thinks them through before proceeding to make a decision.
Many husbands share this trait; they’re more logical than emotional.
They don’t believe in throwing caution in the wind and just doing stuff; nope, they must vet it first.
I won’t even lie; that is a great trait that helps prevent making some bad decisions sometimes.
But like I always tell my husband, “You can’t be too careful in life. Sometimes, you have to do what you feel like and not think too much about it.
10. The baby
In every man, there’s a baby, that soft, affectionate side that wants to be held and loved.
Outside, he might put on the “hard guy” face and look indomitable, but when he’s with his wife, he wants to rest his head on her lap.
I’ve personally observed that this side of husbands is more evident when they’re sick.
Men can be the biggest babies when sick, and it’s so cute to see sometimes.
It just goes on to show that, at the end of the day, we’re all only human and desire affection and care.
The thing about these men is that no husband fits neatly into one or all of these categories.
Husbands come in all flavors, and if you’ve been married long enough (or observed others), you’ll notice certain patterns repeat themselves.
Each of them has good and bad sides.
What’s important is that they are managed and complemented well for a healthier marriage.