There really are men who don’t love their wives.
Yes, they exist.
Some of the things you see in the movies also happen in real life, and some men not loving their wives is one of the things that play out in real life.
No, they didn’t fall out of love during their marriage.
They just never loved their wives from the onset.
Surprisingly, these men will never admit to anyone that they don’t love their wives.
They may even be living in self-denial, but it is what it is.
So, why did they marry these women in the first place?
7 Types Of Men Who Don’t Love Their Wives
1. Men Who Marry Out Of Convenience
One of the types of men who don’t love their wives is men who marry out of convenience.
That is, men who have to marry their wives for economic, political, or social connections.
There’s also the case of betrothal, where the man and woman have been promised to each other for marriage since they were children.
Again, it can be a way of upholding their family tradition.
Perhaps marrying into a particular family, tribe, or place is what’s obtainable where they come from.
In all the possible cases listed above, these men will view marriage as a thing of convenience.
While some men will have love on their list of what to look for in life partners, I’m not sure that the same applies to this category of men.
They may indeed fall in love with some woman along the line, but she may not tick their boxes and meet their marriage expectations.
It’s safe to say that falling in love can be a two-edged sword for these men.
Except they’re willing and ready to revolt against their family or long-standing traditions and follow their hearts, they have no other choice than to marry any woman who they consider ‘up to standard’ when it comes to marriage.
2. Men Who Marry Due To Their Ages
Another set of men who don’t love their wives are those who get married because of their age.
Certain factors can prevent this type of man from getting married or even thinking about it when their age mates are getting hitched and starting up families.
Perhaps they were financially incapacitated for the longest time, working hard to make ends meet and eventually becoming financially stable before thinking of settling down.
They could have spent their younger years building their career and climbing the social ladder.
In this case, they may consciously decide not to get married until they reach a certain level in their careers or society for reasons best known to them.
The fear of marrying the wrong woman can also prevent a man from getting married on time.
As the saying goes, “Once bitten, twice shy.”
Perhaps he had a terrible heartbreak experience in the past, which he hasn’t fully recovered from.
Being scared of falling into the wrong hands again will make him shy away from women for the longest time.
Another reason a man will get married late is the death of his soulmate or lover.
While we all agree that death is always painful to heal from, some deaths shatter people beyond repair.
Maybe he was lucky to have found his soulmate or perfect partner, and unfortunately, she died.
He’ll avoid anything related to relationships and marriages because he believes that he has already lost his chance at them.
And even when he decides to be with other women, he’ll be looking for her in them, which will always end any relationship he gets into, even before it starts.
By the time he realizes himself, the time has flown by, and he’s still not married.
In all the scenarios mentioned above, age is no longer on their side when they decide that they’re ready to get married, so they ‘settle’ for the next available woman willing to marry them.
3. Men Who Marry To Bear Children
Men who marry to bear children are among those who don’t love their wives.
They do not need to be within a specific age bracket to want to get married solely for childbearing purposes.
In this part of the world where I live, I have seen some young men who are the only sons of their families get married when they are under 25 years old.
They didn’t settle down because they found love or were financially stable.
In this part of the world, it’s the norm for only sons to get married early to have children who will carry on their lineage when they’re no more.
The older ones who realize that age is no longer on their side also get married, not for love or companionship but mainly to have children who will continue their lineage.
4. Men Who See Wives As Fixers And Carers
Some people (women inclusive) believe that women are carers and fixers.
You can imagine the mentality of men who come from places with such beliefs and are unwilling to unlearn and relearn.
They believe that women are expected to live and breathe to clean up after them and fix their lives.
That’s why most men in this group chat live anyhow, because there’s a woman somewhere who will tidy up their mess.
For every misbehavior and shortcoming of such men, you hear them and their loved ones talking about getting them a wife.
Is he financially irresponsible?
Get him a wife.
Does he chase everything in skirts?
Get him a wife.
He’s very lazy and dirty?
Get him a wife.
Sometimes, the remedy for even a son who is mentally unstable is to get him a wife.
Lol.
It’s not folklore.
It’s real.
Eventually, they expect these women to stick around and take care of them in old age.
For this group of men, love was never a part of their marriage contract.
They only see their wives as glorified househelp.
5. Gold Diggers
It’s amusing how the term ‘gold digger’ is often used by men to describe women who are after them only for their wealth.
In this situation, the reverse is the case.
Just as there are women who are gold diggers, men who are gold diggers also exist.
These men are there to reap bountifully from where they did not sow, and if it means that they have to get married to the woman to achieve their goal, then so be it.
They get married solely for what they stand to gain from the woman or marriage, such as inheritance, wealth, or power, and not necessarily because they love her.
6. Men Who View Wives As The Keys To Good Fortune
Like in point 4 above, some men see wives as the keys to unlocking their good fortune.
Such men believe that women are carriers of luck, so getting married will bring them lots of good luck.
They firmly believe that when they treat the woman well, and she’s happy with them, luck will shine on them, and they’ll begin to prosper and amass a good fortune.
What happens when they get married and things don’t turn out as expected?
Let’s not get into that and begin to imagine what the woman will go through in such an arrangement.
There’s no doubt about this type of man’s intentions from the onset, and saying that love was part of the marriage arrangement will be a blatant lie.
7. Men Who Marry Because Of Pregnancy
While this blog doesn’t support premarital sex, it’ll still be wrong not to address the elephant in the room.
The truth remains that one of the types of men who don’t love their wives is men who have to marry their women because of pregnancy.
Some people (read as men) enter romantic relationships solely to have fun with the available partner.
They plan to frolic with different women until they’re ready to settle down, before they start looking for their Mrs. Right.
What will happen if, in the process of having fun, they impregnate a woman out of wedlock?
In most cases that I’ve seen, they ended up getting married to pregnant women to avoid what society would say.
Such men never loved their wives in the first place.
They are only married to them as a consequence of their actions.
So, if you’re wondering what types of men do not love their wives, these seven types of men should give you a good idea.