Every married woman wants her husband to be hooked on her.
Not in a negative or obsessive manner.
I mean, don’t you want to be the one your husband’s heart longs for?
Don’t you want to be the one his heart pants for?
Before you think you need to be a Naomi Campbell or Miss Universe to make this happen, don’t.
It’s not about looks.
Haven’t you seen women who don’t necessarily meet the world’s beauty standard, but their husbands cannot get enough for them?
I’m sure you have, just as I have.
And there are some things common to these women.
This isn’t about bending over backward or losing yourself to keep someone else happy.
Not at all.
So let’s see what it’s about.
Women Who Keep Their Husbands Hooked on Them Always Do These 6 Things
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They Maintain Their Individuality
If you’re a fan of this blog, you’d have read many articles encouraging women to get a life!
Because yeah, marriage is beautiful, but it can also be scary.
One of the scariest risks women face in marriage is losing their individuality.
You start out as this vibrant, passionate, gorgeous, ambitious, goofy, multi-dimensional woman.
But somewhere between cooking dinners, folding laundry, and picking up after everyone, you can forget who you are.
You didn’t just marry your husband to be his personal assistant, cook, baby-making machine, or household manager.
Yet, it’s so easy to slip into those roles and let them consume you.
Suddenly, your world revolves around his career, his hobbies, your home, and the kids’ endless schedules.
And what about you?
Your dreams?
Your passions?
They quietly get shoved to the back burner.
Wives who keep their husbands hooked don’t let this happen.
They understand that the very things that made them unique…
Their humor, talents, goals, personality, etc., are part of why their husbands fell in love with them in the first place.
I understand it’s hard to balance everything.
Marriage is work.
Pregnancy, motherhood, parenting, building a career or business…
It’s no walk in the park.
Even though it’s hard, women who keep their husbands hooked don’t lose sight of who they are in marriage.
They make time for their interests, passions, hobbies, business, friendships….
They prioritize themselves and their families and continue to pursue personal growth.
Don’t let your identity get lost in the role of being a wife and mother.
Keep building on your individuality because that will keep your husband hooked on you.
Because when you keep growing and evolving as an individual, you bring something fresh to your relationship.
You’re not just someone’s wife; you’re YOU—a woman with depth, ambition, and a life outside of your marriage.
That’s the kind of energy that keeps a man hooked for life.
And guess what?
A husband who truly loves you wants you to maintain your individuality.
He doesn’t want a shadow or a clone of himself.
He wants the bold, fascinating woman he married.
So prioritize yourself.
It’s not selfish; it’s necessary.
2. They Make Their Husbands Laugh
They say women are supposed to laugh in a ladylike manner.
We have to be demure about it.
Well, miss me with that BS because when I’m with my husband, I laugh like a hyena.
Believe me.
We are married and not on our first date, so why do I have to act like I don’t use the loo?
Can you even imagine life without laughter?
Seriously, how dull would that be?
Think about your favorite people, your best friends.
Why do you love spending time with them?
Because they make you laugh!
Well, my friends make me laugh as much as I make them laugh.
We make each other laugh.
Marriage is no different.
Couples who laugh together stay together.
My husband and I have inside jokes that only we understand.
We can make each other laugh with just a look or gesture.
There’s nothing better than sharing a good laugh with the person you love most in this world.
It strengthens our bond and reminds us not to take life too seriously, even though life be lifing sometimes.
I’m not saying wives who keep their husbands hooked on them have no sad moments.
We all do.
But laughter is the best medicine for those tough times.
So, wives who keep their husbands hooked know how to bring the fun.
They don’t take life or themselves too seriously.
They’ll crack a joke in the middle of chaos, find humor in the little things, and laugh at their own missteps instead of letting them turn into disasters.
When their husbands are away from them, they miss them because they know that being with them means endless laughter and joy.
No man will ever want to walk away from a woman who can make him laugh until his stomach hurts.
No, not in this brutal world.
3. They Build Him Up
Men might act all tough and unshakable, but they need encouragement and affirmation just as much as we do.
Wives who keep their husbands hooked are their husbands’ biggest cheerleaders.
They know that behind every strong man is a woman who believes in him, even when he’s struggling to believe in himself.
It’s not about fake praise or stroking his ego just for the sake of it.
It’s about genuinely recognizing his efforts, gifts, strengths, and talents and letting him know that he is appreciated and valued.
Even if the whole world values your husband, your words and belief in him will mean the most to him.
When you say things like,
”You can do it.”
”I believe in you.”
”You are amazing at this.”
”I am proud of you.”
”You are born for this.”
”Your employers are so lucky to have you.”
”I’m glad I married you.”
”You are so handsome.”
”You are a good father…..”
You are filling up his tank and giving him the confidence to keep pushing forward.
How do I know this?
My husband is a preacher, and after every ministration, he asks me, ”How was it?”
And no matter how many people tell him he did a great job, my words of affirmation mean the most to him.
He values my opinion, which gives him the reassurance he needs to continue his calling.
It’s not just about compliments or flattery but genuine recognition of your husband’s abilities and potential.
When you build him up, he feels like he can conquer the world.
He starts to see himself through your eyes as someone capable, blessed, strong, and worthy.
That kind of confidence?
It’s magnetic.
It makes him want to step up and be an even better person and husband.
Validate your man, sis!
4. They Respect Their Husbands
We women often find it easier to love our husbands than to respect them.
Love comes naturally; it’s warm and affectionate and kind of describes us because we are more emotional.
But respect?
Oh well, that’s where we need help.
Notice how the Bible emphasizes that wives respect their husbands and that husbands love their wives?
There’s a reason for that.
Men need, crave, and thrive on respect.
It’s what makes them feel like men.
This doesn’t mean blindly following his every command or agreeing with everything he says.
Oh no.
Respect means acknowledging his opinions, thoughts, and decisions as valid and important.
It means trusting in his abilities and supporting him in his role as the leader of your household, even though you are partners and teammates.
It’s about how you talk to him, how you treat him, and whether you genuinely honor who he is as a man.
I rarely hear my husband say I don’t love him, but I have heard him say he feels disrespected.
This is the experience of many wives.
Loving our husbands is natural and easy, but respecting them takes effort and intention.
Women who keep their men hooked know this secret.
When you show respect, you’re setting the tone for how he treats you in return.
That is, if he’s not a toxic partner and does not take advantage of your respect.
But as a confident, strong woman, you know when to draw the line and stand up for yourself.
5. They Keep the Romance Alive
Many of us think it’s the man’s responsibility to plan romantic dates, buy the flowers, and keep the spark alive.
But romance isn’t a one-person job.
Wives who keep their husbands hooked know this, and they take the initiative to keep the magic alive in their marriage.
Romance doesn’t have to mean extravagant candlelit dinners or surprise trips to Paris (if that’s your thing, go for it! My husband and I were in Paris for a week three months ago).
Sometimes, romance is as simple as slipping a sweet note into his lunch, holding his hand during a drive, sending a flirty text in the middle of his workday, planning a cozy movie night at home….
The key is to show your husband that you still find him desirable and worth wooing.
And some women get this.
That’s why their marriages are full of sizzling passion, and their husbands love it!
6. They Are Fun
Who doesn’t love to have fun?
Life is full of responsibilities, but it doesn’t have to be all work and no play.
People have different ideas of what fun looks like.
Some love adrenaline-pumping adventures; my husband doesn’t. lol
Others prefer cozy nights playing board games, watching movies, or indulging in their favorite hobbies.
The point is, marriage should be filled with fun!
Whatever you and your husband’s idea of fun is, make time for it.
It’s a great way to create happy memories together.
My husband and I enjoy watching movies together as we munch on grilled turkey and wine.
As much as I’m an introvert, I love traveling more than my husband.
I love seeing new places, trying new restaurants, and visiting new hotels, and I bring my husband along for the ride.
Guess what?
He enjoys it!
My husband knows he can always count on me for new experiences.
While doing these six things can make a man hooked on you, you can’t make someone stay who doesn’t want to.
Yep.
I know this too well.
If you have fertile soil, the seed you plant will grow and turn into a beautiful harvest.
But if you don’t have that fertile soil, no amount of watering or nurturing will make it grow.
The same goes for relationships.
If you have a man who doesn’t love you, is not committed to you, is toxic, unfaithful, ungrateful, or abusive, no amount of effort on your part will keep him hooked on you.
In fact, it will only drain and exhaust you.
You’ll burn out!
But if you are on the same page with your husband, these six things will improve your marriage magically.