Right now, there is a pandemic we should be worried about.
It is the worrying trend of some ladies preferring to be side chicks to married men or even attempting to replace their wives instead of dating fellow single men.
Just the other day, I came across a podcast that was extolling the merits of being a side chick to a married man.
The lady on the podcast even said, “Married women should be happy that we are helping them relieve their husbands’ stress.”
Another one said, “How can you marry such a sexy hunk of a man and expect to enjoy him alone?”
Dear married women, the reasoning of many young ladies out there can be so frightening, and really, I understand if you feel like you need to keep a closer eye on your husband.
However, I must inform you that your husband is not a kid, and you really can’t control what he does.
But the good news is you have control over what you do.
This is why I always tell you that it is the duty of couples to nurture their relationship and protect it from destruction by never allowing overfamiliarity and routine to find a place in their marriages.
The fact is that another woman somewhere may be attracted to your husband.
If you’ve ever felt a twinge of suspicion about another woman’s interest in your husband, you’re not alone.
You can’t control the woman’s interest, but you can keep the spark alive in your relationship so she doesn’t stand a chance.
Here are the signs that a woman is interested in your husband and how to handle the situation gracefully.
Let’s get started!
8 Signs A Woman Is Interested In Your Husband
1. She’s always around
One of the major signs that a woman is interested in your husband is her constant presence around him.
It’s normal for you to hang around someone you are interested in.
Most of the time, the reason she hangs around is because she is hoping he notices her.
It may also mean she is bidding her time and waiting for the right moment to talk to him.
This is especially true if they haven’t exactly started talking to each other.
She just hangs around the periphery of his life, waiting for an opportunity to come in.
However, if she is someone he knows already, she doesn’t just hang around in the background.
You may notice that she inserts herself into conversations with him and attempts to monopolize his attention at social gatherings.
Whenever she meets your husband anywhere, she always looks for a way to involve him in a long conversation that doesn’t involve you.
It may not be intentional, but if this occurs several times, it may be a sign that she is interested in your husband.
However, this doesn’t mean you should start scanning the crowd around your husband at a party or meeting like a secret service agent on protective detail.
Enjoy the company of your husband, have fun and when the time is ripe, she will swoop in from the background.
2. She compliments him excessively
One time, a female friend told me that she feels that no woman should ever feel the need to call her husband “handsome.”
I understood where she was coming from.
I personally don’t see anything wrong with complimenting another woman’s husband, but you need to ensure that your compliments are not excessive and overly personal.
Instead of gushing, “You are so handsome!” you can say, “You are looking good in this outfit,” and end it there.
I am saying this because excessive compliments, especially when they are personal, may signify another woman’s interest in your husband.
So, she meets y’all at an event and swoops in to gush at your husband’s handsomeness while barely paying any attention to you.
Then, she proceeds to engage him in a long conversation, laughing all the time, even at his funny jokes, and tells him he is so funny.
These are the actions of a woman who is interested in your husband.
The fact is, if any woman is always praising your husband’s looks, charm, or personality, it might be more than just friendly admiration.
She may be lauding the attributes that she finds attractive in him.
3. She doesn’t have anything good to say about you
This can be a really sad sign, especially if the woman is someone you know or even a friend.
One time, I was reading a thread on Twitter of women sharing the worst betrayals they have ever experienced.
A couple of them stood out for me because they involved close friends making a play for their husbands.
I was shocked.
One of them said that her friend had her husband’s account and would occasionally contact him.
She didn’t think anything of it because it all seemed pretty innocent.
Until one day, her husband looked at her and said, “The people you call your friends may be your actual enemies.”
She didn’t understand, and that was when he shared audio recordings of her friend calling him to talk about her negatively.
Her plan was to send her out of her matrimonial home and take her place later.
All these kinds of maneuvering are things I expect to see in politics, not among friends.
Sadly, some friends are not your friends.
And they will do anything to destroy you or steal your happiness.
Whether the woman is your friend or acquaintance, the fact remains that when a woman is interested in your husband, she will speak about you negatively to your husband and others.
This is usually an attempt to create a rift between you and your husband.
So, when you realize that another woman is badmouthing you to your husband, you should realize that she is interested in him and knows she can’t compete any other way.
4. She makes you look incompetent in front of your husband
Once, a lady told a story about how she cooked for her boyfriend.
Because his female friend came to visit, they also invited her to join them in the meal.
This “friend” of his just kept on speaking about how there was too much pepper in the food.
She kept at it until the lady’s boyfriend finally spoke up and said he loved peppery food.
Some people were inclined to think she was just being rude but didn’t have any design on the man but I beg to differ.
Her rudeness would have been excusable if she was a teenager.
How can an adult be so senselessly rude?
While she may have just been rude, the chances are she was interested in the guy and felt that bringing up his girlfriend’s “incompetence” would give her a better chance with him.
The fact remains that a woman who is interested in your husband may attempt to make you look foolish or less competent in front of your husband.
She may employ subtle digs at your personality, share embarrassing stories, or highlight your mistakes, like the example I shared earlier.
When this happens, you should see it for what it is: an attempt to make your husband compare you with her.
Don’t be fooled into thinking the subtle digs and embarrassing stories are just for fun.
Most times, they are not.
5. She’s overly interested in his life
As a guy who is friends with married women, there is a level of interest that I can display that will begin to look inappropriate.
I personally ensure that I don’t ask my married female friends too many questions so I don’t look or sound intrusive.
Our discussions are generally friendly, and while we may discuss serious issues from time to time, they are not as frequent as they used to be.
That’s because I know my place in their lives and am satisfied with it.
When a woman is interested in your husband, you may notice that she communicates with him too frequently.
I mean, why are you calling or texting a married man every day?
I understand the need to communicate with friends, but don’t overdo it.
Personally, I strictly warn people against the urge to communicate with me every day.
Your husband may be either politely enduring the constant communication or enjoying it, but such level of communication is inappropriate.
It is a sign that she is interested in your husband.
6. She touches him inappropriately
The physical touch is a very powerful indicator of interest.
If you notice that a woman loves talking to your husband, it may be a sign that she has an interest in him.
But if you see her touching his arm or thigh in a seemingly innocent manner when talking to him, it is a sign that she is interested in him.
It is usually a way of establishing a physical connection with him.
The crazy part of this is her reaction when she sees that you have noticed the way she touches him.
Most of the time, they withdraw their hands fast, so fast that the movement looks very unnatural.
Don’t get me wrong, you don’t have to fly off your handle anytime a woman touches your husband.
However, if the touch lingers, there is definitely something there.
7. She confides in him
The great Micheal Bolton sang, “We all need somebody to lean on” in his song “Lean On Me.”
He is right.
We all need someone we can talk to.
We need someone to support us.
However, what is inappropriate is a woman always trying to confide in a married man.
That man is married, for heaven’s sake, and he has a new confidant.
He may have been her confidant in the past, but that has changed.
Instead of accepting this and maintaining a friendship with him, she still insists on the previous level of intimacy.
She calls him at all times of the day to tell him things.
Do you know how you can call your husband in the middle of the night just to tell him something happened to you?
She does it to your husband.
That’s a big sign that she is interested in your husband.
8. She dresses to impress him
Dressing to slay…
That’s a term I usually associate with females, even though I hear some guys say it too.
I have never dressed with the impression of being attractive to the opposite sex.
Of course, I want to look good, but not because of women.
If you notice that a woman always seems dressed to the nines when she knows she will meet your husband, it is a sign that she may be harboring interest in your husband.
Everyone wants to look good (at least, most people do), but consistently putting in extra effort when she knows she will be around him is a testament to her interest in him.
If you notice a lady being overdressed in a room of casually attired people, dressing in “hot” skimpy gowns while intentionally monopolizing your husband’s attention all the time, it is a sign that she’s trying to catch your husband’s attention.
Now that you have noticed the signs, some of them can be so annoying that you may want to grab the woman and tear out her hair.
Please don’t do it.
You will end up making her look like a martyr, and you will be the villain.
Instead, the best thing to do is to share your observations with your husband.
Tell him why you have come to the conclusion that the woman is interested in him.
The funny thing is that sometimes, the men already know what she’s doing.
So, listen to what he has to say.
He may say that he has also noticed her behavior, while some other men may just laugh it off and say you shouldn’t be worried about it.
Well, while I won’t advise you to be worried, don’t relax and get too comfortable in your relationship.
There’s more to do.
Spend quality time with your husband, give him thoughtful gifts, initiate dates, and enjoy intimacy with him both emotionally and physically.
You are not doing these out of fear.
You are doing these because you know you need to nurture the bond in your marriage.
Set your priorities straight.
If necessary, talk to your husband about setting boundaries with this woman.
Your husband should be willing to respect your feelings and take steps to ensure your comfort.
Recognizing these signs could be difficult sometimes because you don’t want to jump to conclusions about your husband.
Well, I understand the need not to jump to conclusions.
However, if you feel something is off, it’s worth paying attention to.
Don’t forget that you can’t control the woman’s actions or your husband’s, but you can control yours.
Take this time to treat your husband nicely, and never stop doing so.
The fact is that you shouldn’t need to feel threatened before keeping the spark alive in your marriage.