How to Know if He is Only After Your Body

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Some men will date you, sleep with you, spend time with you, and have absolutely no intention of being serious about you.

And it’s cruel, especially if you want more. 

Unfortunately, these men are not looking for a relationship; they’re looking for convenient access to your body.

And the manipulative thing is that they’ll make you feel like there’s more there when there isn’t.

They’ll call you “babe”, act interested, and spend just enough time with you to keep you confused about where you stand.

But when you really look at the relationship, all roads lead to one place: sex.

That’s all he wants. 

So how do you know if he actually likes you, or if you’re just his reliable hookup?

Here’s how to tell:

1. Every Time You’re Together, It Ends in Physical Intimacy

 

 

Physical attraction is important in a relationship.

Yesterday, I cupped my husband’s face in my hands and told him, ”You’re a fine man.” 😂

A decade later, I’m still very much attracted to him, and I’m grateful to God for that because I can’t imagine being married to someone whose mere sight annoys me. 

So, I’m not saying couples shouldn’t want each other physically.

But then, if every single time you see him, it ends in genital meet and greet, that’s a problem.

That’s a problem, sis. 

Sometimes you just want to talk, hang out, and just enjoy each other’s company, but you can’t without it leading to the bedroom.

Every date ends with him trying to get you to his place or yours. 

Every time you’re together, that’s the outcome!

Even when you suggest non-sexual activities like going to a movie, trying a new restaurant, visiting a museum, or meeting his friends, he’s not interested or too busy.

But he’s always available when your body is on the table.

That should tell you everything because a man who genuinely likes you wants to spend time with you in all kinds of ways, not just naked.

So, for this brother, you’re not his girlfriend, you’re his hookup.

2. He Only Reaches Out When He Wants Something Physical

The time a man contacts you says a lot about how he feels about you, so let me ask you, when does he reach out to you?

Is it random throughout the day just to check in, ask how you’re doing, share something funny, or tell you he’s thinking about you?

Or is it always late at night with a “wyd” that means “can I/you come over?”

A man who only texts you after 10 PM with “you up?” is not your boyfriend; he’s a man who’s treating you like a booty call.

So if you notice that he disappears for days, sometimes weeks, then suddenly pops back up when he’s horny, sis, you’re not in a relationship.

You’re on his rotation.

He reaches out when he needs sexual relief, and disappears when he doesn’t.

3. He Knows Nothing Real About You And Doesn’t Care To

 

These days, I hear my husband say things like, I know my wife, I’m not surprised.”

We’ve been together long enough to know each other that much, so we don’t fight over what we used to fight over before. 

That’s what happens when a guy is into you: he wants to know you. 

So, how much does this guy know about you?

Your dreams, goals, childhood, fears, things that keep you up at night, things you’re passionate about…..

Or does he only know your body and what you like in bed?

A man who’s using you for your body has no interest in getting to know you as a person.

He doesn’t ask meaningful questions, doesn’t remember important things you tell him, doesn’t care about your career, your family, your aspirations.

When you try to talk about something serious or personal, he zones out or acts like you’re being too heavy.

But mention anything sexual, and suddenly he’s fully engaged.

That’s because he’s not interested in you. He’s interested in what you can do for him physically.

Some women date some men for months only to realize these men know nothing about them beyond their favorite positions.

Because he never asked, and when she tried to share, he wasn’t listening.

4. He Gets Upset When You Say No

This is one of the biggest tests of a man’s intentions towards you. 

When you’re not in the mood or just want to spend time together without sex, how does he react?

Does he respect your boundary and continue enjoying your company?

Or does he get upset, withdraw, make you feel guilty, pressure you, question why you’re “always saying no” even though you’ve been intimate with him regularly?

Because a man who’s only interested in your body will not handle rejection well, saying no means you’re no longer useful.

And since that’s the only reason he’s with you, rejecting it feels like rejecting him.

5. He Wants Nudes and Videos

Let me be very clear about this: if a man is pressuring you for nudes or explicit videos, run for your dear life. 

I’ve seen too many women fall into this trap.

They send intimate photos or videos because they’re afraid he’ll lose interest if they don’t.

And then when the relationship ends, and it always does with these men, he has those images and videos as leverage.

Suddenly, she’s being blackmailed or manipulated into staying or doing things she doesn’t want to do because he’s holding her content hostage.

“If you leave me, I’ll send these to your family.”

“If you don’t do what I want, I’ll post these online.”

I’ve helped women deal with this exact situation, and it’s devastating.

So hear me clearly: never send nudes or record sexual content with a man who’s not your committed partner.

And honestly, even in committed relationships/marriages, be very careful because people change, relationships end, and you don’t know what someone will do with that content when they’re hurt or angry.

If you’re dealing with a man who’s constantly asking for this and making it seem like you’re uptight or boring for refusing, he doesn’t care about you.

He’s collecting content, creating a portfolio of women he’s been with so he can get off on the power of having access to your most intimate moments.

A man who respects you will never pressure you for explicit content. Period.

6. He Doesn’t Include You in His Real Life

 

Where do you fit in his life?

Have you met his friends or family? 

Does he invite you to things that matter to him, or are you completely separate from his real life?

If you’ve been seeing him for months and you’ve never met a single person in his life, and you’re always meeting in private places, it’s because you’re not part of his life.

You’re just someone he sees when he wants a good time. 

 

If you’re reading this and recognizing your situation in multiple points, I need you to be honest with yourself.

This man is not your boyfriend. 

And I know what you’re thinking: “But we have good conversations sometimes, and he’s sweet when we’re together.”

Sis, those are just enough to keep you confused and invested.

Because if he treated you like pure trash, you’d leave. So he gives you just enough hope to keep you around while he continues using you.

Look at his actions, not his words.

A man who only wants you for sex will never suddenly decide you’re worthy of more.

He won’t wake up one day and realize he should take you seriously or magically start treating you like a girlfriend after months of treating you like a hookup.

He already knows what he wants from you, and it’s not a relationship.

So you have two choices:

Option 1: Accept that this is purely physical and nothing more. If you’re okay with that, fine, but be honest with yourself about what this is.

Option 2: Walk away and find someone who wants all of you, not just your body. Someone who sees you as a partner, not a convenient hookup.

What you can’t do is keep sleeping with him, hoping he’ll eventually take you seriously, because he won’t.

And every day you spend with him is a day you’re not available for someone who will treat you the way you deserve.

 

 

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