The snippet above is the lyrics of one of my favorite love songs, “Love Always Comes as a Surprise” by Peter Asher.
Some people might find it a little mushy, but I absolutely love it.
Love has a funny way of sneaking up on us in the moments when we least expect it, and we all have different ways of responding to love.
Some try to run from it.
Some accept it, while a few others try to play it cool.
We all respond to it differently.
Love is so powerful that even the hardest and most stoic of men respond to its call.
I know that men have been stereotyped as being less vocal about their feelings.
I even agree that this is true for many men.
The only emotion many men are naturally equipped to express is anger.
Well, when a man starts falling in love, his words begin to reveal his state of heart, whether he realizes it or not.
So, ladies, if you have ever wondered whether that guy really loves you or just keeps you around, pay attention to the telltale phrases in this article.
They are “telltale” because they truly tell a tale about what is happening in his heart if you listen attentively.
8 Things Men Say When They Are Falling In Love
1. “I have never told anyone this before.”
Stereotyping aside, I think it is generally harder to get a male to reveal deep things about themselves to you.
Most males, yours sincerely included, were not trained to be vulnerable with people.
We were trained to believe that the strength of masculinity lies in our ability to mask pain, hurt, and weakness while presenting a façade of strength to everyone else.
So, when a man begins to get close to you and tell you important things about himself, it is a sign that he likes and feels comfortable around you.
When he uses the particular words, “I have never told anyone this before,” he is trying to convey that he thinks you are special.
You make him feel safe enough to be vulnerable around you.
This is not something that men feel all the time.
If he shares something deeply personal—a childhood memory, a hidden fear, or an embarrassing story—it is a sign he trusts you in a way he doesn’t trust others.
Emotional intimacy is the gateway to love, and if he’s opening up, he is already walking through that door.
So, don’t take this gesture for granted.
When a man opens up to you, it is a gift that should be valued.
2. “What are you doing this weekend?”
I have had my fair share of love experiences, and one thing I have realized is that when you love someone, you want to spend time with them.
That’s just the simple truth about love.
So, if a person claims to love you but doesn’t show an inclination to want to spend time with you, their words don’t match their actions.
You can conclude that they don’t love you.
When a man asks you questions about when you are free or what you will be doing during the weekend, he isn’t just asking out of curiosity.
What he is trying to say is that he wants to see as much as possible.
It is a sign that he constantly wants to spend time with you and plans for the dates.
This is not just an ordinary friend strolling down to visit you and shoot the breeze.
It is also not a friend trying to meet up with you to catch up.
No, it is more intentional than that.
Even if it is something as simple as running errands together, the amount of thought that went into doing that with you is probably a lot.
He enjoys your presence and wants to integrate his life with yours as much as possible.
So, he invests efforts into planning dates, elaborate ones; simple picnics, cinema dates, or even an invitation to watch movies with him at home.
These meetings are special for him and you would see it in his expression if you paid attention to him.
3. “You are different.”
One time, I came across a post on social media where a girl said, “Once a guy tells you that you are different from other girls, just run for your life”.
That post was misguided, and there were several other misguided people under the post agreeing with her position.
We are in a generation where uniqueness and authenticity are rare qualities.
In this generation, we promote a lot of bad behavior by trying to be woke and liberal.
The truth is that when a real man tells you that you are different, he means it as a compliment.
He is trying to say that you stand out in a way that no other person does.
He sees something special about you, and it just draws him in.
It is not just a casual compliment.
It means that he is comparing you with everyone else and you are winning.
Whether it’s your humor, personality, perspective, or just the way you make him feel, he is completely hooked on you.
Of course, he could be telling you that you are different for a negative reason.
This is why you need to clarify what made him come to that conclusion.
But, generally, when a man says this, he means it positively.
4. “I love how you think.”
Even before I knew the meaning of “sapiosexual”, I had always been attracted to intelligence in the opposite sex.
I love to talk to people generally, even argue with them to see how critically they think.
Basically, the one thing I look out for in a potential partner is her ability to think.
She doesn’t necessarily need to agree with me on everything, but she has to be someone who can fascinate me with how she thinks and views life.
When a guy says, “I love how you think,” he is simply telling you that you fascinate him.
Any man can be physically attracted to a beautiful lady, but it takes a man who is totally invested in you to notice how your mind works.
When a man starts falling in love with you, it is marked by a distinct change in how he used to relate to you.
He starts seeking your opinions on matters more frequently.
He is genuinely engaged in your opinions, actively seeks your advice, and follows them.
It is a sign that he has fallen in love with you and respects you as well.
5. “We should visit ‘….’ someday.”
A major sign a guy is beginning to fall in love with you is that he starts making plans for the future with you.
Many ladies usually take this as just a normal attempt to make a conversation, but when a guy says this, it means he is imagining a future where you do things together.
Whether it is an event next year, a trip to his favorite city, or even just “You’d love my mom’s cooking”, he’s subconsciously picturing you in his life long-term.
And that’s a good thing, because there are too many guys out there who just want to play boyfriend and girlfriend without any form of long-term commitment.
They come with the “let’s take it one day at a time” spiel to confuse the ladies and just keep stringing them along.
When a guy falls in love, he doesn’t attempt to string his woman along.
Instead, he lets her know that he sees a future with her, subtly or directly.
6. “You are weird but I like it.”
A few years ago, I met the weirdest person I have ever met.
She had a lot of eccentric behaviors that many people could have found annoying.
“Weirdly,” I found them enchanting.
I found that her quirks were part of what made her attractive to me and that was the point I started wondering if somehow I had started to fall for her.
I told her she was weird but I liked her weirdness a lot of times because it was my way of saying “No matter what, I will always love you”.
She was also very sensitive and she caught on to my message quite quickly.
Sadly, she didn’t share the same romantic attraction to me and she communicated this to me gently so I didn’t get my hopes up.
And yes, I moved on, painfully.
So, really, it’s not just about him falling in love with you.
It’s also about what you want.
Do you also feel the same way about him?
If you don’t, that doesn’t make you a bad person, but you need to tell him as kindly as possible.
You are not required to reciprocate his feelings if you don’t feel the same way.
Anyway, where was I?
Yeah, when a man teases you playfully about your little quirks– the way you dance when no one’s watching, your obsession with a weird TV show, or how you always steal fries off his plate—it means he’s charmed by you, not just the idea of you.
He sees you for who you are– weirdness, eccentricities, and flaws– but still loves you, regardless.
7. “I just wanted to hear your voice.”
When a man falls in love with a woman, he wants to talk to her.
He wants to have nice and easy banter with her.
He also wants to have meaningful conversations with her about those things that truly matter.
A major sign a guy is in love with you is a commitment to communicating with you.
He texts you frequently and randomly just to check in.
He even calls just because he wants to hear your voice.
Many ladies take this gesture for granted, but the truth is it is quite an important expression of love.
It is a sign that he doesn’t need to have a reason to reach out to you.
He just reaches out to you because he wants to.
A man who has no compunction about communicating openly with you is a man who may just be falling in love with you.
8. “I am not usually like this.”
Love can make people do all sorts of things.
When a man falls in love with a woman, he generally tends to act differently around her.
So, when a guy says “I am not usually like this” to you all the time, it could be a sign that he is in love with you.
This is especially true if the change is a positive one.
I have seen very hardened men act tenderly around the women they love.
That change is totally powered by love.
So, if a guy is more affectionate around you than with others, it could be a sign that he is falling in love with you.
If he is more patient with you, even when you test the limits of his patience, it is a sign that he feels something special for you.
It is one thing to act that way around you; it is another for him to actually acknowledge that you are changing him.
If he does all of these, it could be a sign that he is falling in love with you.
When we truly love someone, we do special things for them.
This is no different.
The ultimate truth is that many men may not be as poetic as Shakespeare about love.
But even the most uncommunicative men have a way of communicating their love with their words.
The spontaneous things they say without even thinking can reveal this truth.
However, you need to pay attention to get the subtle message.
If he is saying these things, he is not just passing time in the relationship.
He is totally falling for you.
As powerful as these words are, they are not replacements for the words “I love you”.
Dear men, if you are falling in love with a lady, just come right out and say it.
Love shouldn’t be smothered within or expressed in riddles.
It should be expressed boldly.