You know, there are times when life humbles you, and instead of saying “I messed up,” you say “It’s like I’m cursed”?
Yeah… that’s not a curse, babe.
That’s cause and effect.
Sometimes it’s not the devil that’s attacking you.
It’s that you refused to listen when wisdom was whispering.
You have to stop blaming bad luck for what’s really just a chain of bad choices.
12 Things You’re Calling Bad Luck That Are Actually Bad Decisions
1. “All my relationships end the same way.”
Sweetheart, that’s not bad luck, and I’ll tell you why.
You keep dating the same kind of man in a different body.
The red flags were waving like a parade, but you said, “He’s different.”
No, he’s not.
He’s just wearing a different perfume.
If you keep picking emotionally unavailable men, lazy men, broke men you want to fix, or walking red flags with muscles, your heartbreak is not destiny.
It’s decision-making.
The common denominator in all your relationships is you.
So maybe it’s time to stop praying for a good man, and start asking why you’re attracted to the wrong ones.
2. “Money just doesn’t stay in my hands.”
You mean the money you spend before it even enters your account? 😭
That’s not bad luck, that’s bad money management.
You can’t be shouting “God, enlarge my coast” when your bank account looks like a Bermuda Triangle.
You earn, you spend on vibes, you don’t save, you don’t invest, you don’t track your spending, and then when the rent is due, you start binding spiritual locusts.
The locust is you, my love. 🦗
Sometimes your financial problem isn’t a spiritual attack; It’s no discipline and no plan.
Because no matter how much you earn, poverty will catch up with poor habits.
3. “People keep using me.”
No, babe, you keep volunteering.
It’s not bad luck with people; it’s weak boundaries.
You say yes to everything.
You let people guilt-trip you.
You lend money you can’t afford to lose.
You help everyone except yourself, and then you cry that nobody helps you back.
You’re not unlucky; you’re over-giving to prove you’re a good person.
And that’s not kindness, that’s emotional people-pleasing in the name of generosity.
Learn to say no without a presentation slide explaining why.
If you keep rescuing everyone, don’t be surprised when you drown first.
4. “I keep ending up in toxic workplaces.”
Hmm.
Is it the same job where you saw how your boss shouted at everyone during the interview, but you still said you can manage?
You ignored your gut because you needed the job.
And honestly, I get it, bills are billing.
But if every job leaves you anxious and burnt out, maybe it’s time to check your choices, not just your résumé.
Sometimes the toxic environment is your comfort zone.
You’re too scared to aim higher, so you keep settling for less.
Bad luck didn’t hire you.
You hired yourself into stress.
5. “I always fall out with my friends.”
You sure it’s always them?
Because sometimes the problem is you.
You gossip too much, compete too much, assume too much, or expect people to read your mind.
Friendship takes self-awareness, not luck.
You can’t plant drama and harvest peace.
If every friendship ends in chaos, maybe you’re not unlucky with friends; maybe you’re emotionally unskilled at relationships.
Do better.
6. “Everything I touch fails.”
No dear, everything you touch unprepared fails.
You jump into business because someone said “crypto is hot,” you start a YouTube channel with no plan, you launch a brand with no strategy, and when it flops, you cry “my enemies are at work.”
Enemies? 😂
No, ma’am.
It’s poor execution and impatience.
You want to make in six months what took others six years to build.
You don’t research, you don’t learn, you don’t plan, you don’t ask questions and seek counsel, you just vibe and post.
God blesses effort, not impulse.
7. “I can’t catch a break.”
Sometimes, the break won’t come because you’re standing in your own way.
You say you want new opportunities, but you won’t leave dead situations.
You say you want to grow, but you don’t want to be uncomfortable.
Life keeps trying to move you forward, but you’re holding on to what’s familiar, and then you say nothing is working.
It’s not the universe against you.
It’s you against change.
Growth is uncomfortable, but staying stuck is worse.
8. “I’m always broke because of family responsibilities.”
Let me say this with love and one long sigh ….😮💨
Some of you are playing savior when nobody asked you to.
Yes, family is important.
But it’s not your job to single-handedly sponsor everybody’s comfort while your own life is gasping for air.
That’s not loyalty, that’s self-sabotage.
You think you’re being selfless, but you’re really running from guilt.
And guilt-driven giving is how many people go broke.
You can love your people and still have boundaries.
Helping doesn’t mean destroying yourself.
Charity begins at home, and you are home.
9. “People always betray me.”
Why won’t they when you keep oversharing?
You trust people after three WhatsApp conversations and call someone your “sister” after knowing her for a month.
Then you get shocked when they show you their true colors.
That’s not betrayal, it’s premature intimacy.
Stop giving loyalty to people who haven’t earned it.
God said love your neighbor, not hand them your secrets.
10. “I keep missing opportunities.”
The opportunities you didn’t prepare for?
The ones you were too lazy to pursue because you said you’d do it later?
That’s not bad luck, that’s procrastination.
Opportunities don’t vanish — people just miss them while scrolling through TikTok.
You prayed for a new level, but you weren’t ready when it showed up.
Preparation is proof of faith.
You can’t ask God for rain and then forget to bring your bucket.
11. “Nobody supports me.”
Support follows consistency, not complaints.
People can’t keep clapping for something you abandon every two months.
You’ve started five different projects this year — new business, new page, new YouTube, new podcast, and abandoned all of them when they didn’t blow up in two weeks.
Now you’re saying, “Nobody believes in me.”
They don’t believe you because you don’t believe you.
You don’t stick to anything long enough for people to see results.
Support is not luck.
It’s earned through commitment.
12. “I’m always tired of life.”
Maybe because you’re living on autopilot.
Making no real choices, taking no responsibility, waiting for something magical to change.
News flash, darling: nobody’s coming to save you.
Your breakthrough is waiting on the other side of accountability.
You’re not cursed.
You’re just comfortable being helpless.
And life doesn’t reward comfort; it rewards clarity and courage.
Some things are spiritual warfare, yes.
But some are just “you knew better and still did nonsense.”
Every bad decision doesn’t mean bad destiny.
It just means you need to stop doing the same thing and calling it bad luck.
Life will always test you.
But if every test ends with you blaming the teacher, maybe the problem isn’t the exam; it’s your study habits.
So today, instead of saying, “Why me?”
Ask, “What did I do to invite this nonsense?”
Because the moment you stop calling bad decisions bad luck, you’ll start making better ones.
And that is when your “luck” will finally change.