So you’ve been in a relationship with the woman of your dreams and you can’t wait to drop down on one knee to pop the question, “Will you marry me?”
While this is a good and romantic thing to do, you wanna be sure that you get the best result out of your plan, and that’s why you must know or do some things before you propose to your woman.
These are the five things you must do before proposing to a woman:
1. Be sure you wanna be with her
I know you’re thinking if it’s possible for a man to propose to a woman without being sure if he wants to be with her.
It’s very possible.
Some men will propose to a woman and still be checking out other women.
If you are not sure she’s the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, then don’t propose to her. Be clear what you want and be sure she’s the one you really want.
I understand that we can’t always be 100% sure about the right person.
Marriage is a risk we take and hope that we make the best decision.
However, you should be sure about what you want to do with a woman.
Don’t propose to her and start doubting if you’ve made the right decision.
Of course, there’ll be moments of doubts, but in the midst of your doubts, you must you must have a deep conviction that she’s who you want.
2. Be sure she’s ready
Are sure she’s ready to be married, and most importantly to you?
If she has projects or education to complete, she might be not be ready to be married.
Because women usually have reasons for turning down a marriage proposal.
You should find out if she has any of the reasons.
3. Have the marriage talk with her
If you are in a serious relationship that you wish leads to marriage, then you should somehow have the marriage talk with your woman.
This will help you to :
- know her mind
- know if you’re on the same page
- know if she’s ready for marriage
- know if she wants to marry you
- know her thoughts on marriage
You shouldn’t just dump marriage on her without having a talk with her about it.
Some women love surprises anyway. But it’s better to be sure to prevent any unpleasant surprises, so that the joke won’t be on you.
Having the marriage talk with her doesn’t ruin your surprise marriage proposal. It’s all about getting creative about it.
4. Know the kind of proposal she’d love
You should know your woman enough to know the kind of proposal she’d love.
Not everyone loves to be the cynosure of all eyes, with her man on one knee before her being cheered on by a bunch of strangers or even friends.
Not everyone loves a public proposal. She might find a private proposal, the one between the both of you, more romantic.
Shyness could make a woman run away from the venue or become too tongue-tied to respond to your question.
Save both of you from avoidable embarrassment.
Remember that the proposal is primarily for her or both of you, not for the world.
There is no award for the most ‘public’ proposal yet.
I hate to be the centre of attraction, so a public proposal is a big NO for me.
I’d rather we do our business privately.
5. Prepare your mind for any eventuality
While the four points above will secure you from unpleasant surprises, you should still prepare your mind for any answer because there are reasons a woman could turn down a marriage proposal.
Do what you have to do, and let the woman make her decision.
If she requests time to think about it, don’t nurse any bitterness against her. Give her the time she seeks.
I believe that a lady who loves you and wants to be with you will want to marry you, except for some strange reasons which you’d have to find out yourself.
Ambode Biyi
Thursday 18th of April 2019
Succinct... Straight to the point. A well articulated moves
Olubunmi Mabel
Saturday 20th of April 2019
Thank you!