Compromises are inevitable in relationships. We would sometimes have to let go of some things or shift grounds in order to accommodate our partner.
However, there are certain things you should never ever sacrifice in a relationship, and sometimes, marriage.
Seven of these things are:
1. Your passion
We all have something we are passionate about.
Your passion is what gives you life and makes life interesting and worth living. It is what fills your heart with warmth and set your soul on fire.
Just think, what is life and who are you without it?
And if a relationship demands that you give up your passion, should you be in such?
Some women who could have been great actresses quit acting because their men couldn’t stand them being with other men on set.
You can never be happy in a relationship where you give up doing what you love just to keep a man or a woman.😘
2. Your dreams
Again, your hopes and aspirations for the future is what makes life fun.
What is life without dreams?
Dreams give you a picture of your future.
Perhaps you see yourself as a politician in the nearest future, but the person you’re dating doesn’t believe that women should be in the corridor of power.
Note: This is a women’s blog. That’s why my articles are usually directed towards women. However, some of my male readers are not happy that I always have words for women and not for them. 😁
So, I’ll try to incorporate some messages for the men in my posts sometimes.
No, I’m not sacrificing my blog mission for them. 🤣
Guys, this is for you >> If you’re a man and your woman doesn’t see herself in your future, you need to talk to yourself.
Maybe you want to be a clergyman, but your girlfriend says she doesn’t see herself as a clergyman’s wife, don’t sacrifice your dreams for her.
Don’t let big ass and boobs confuse you. Because sometimes, men are so blinded by looks that they make choices that spell doom for their future.
This is why you should have this discussion in your relationship. Know what each other wants, your dreams and aspirations, and be sure that you fit in.
3. Your beloved family
No matter how deep in love you are, you should never ostracize your family.
Family is/will always be family.
By family, I don’t mean people who are just related to you by blood but those who really love and care about you.
If this family raises concerns about your relationship with someone, then you should be careful.
If the person you’re dating turns your back against people that genuinely care about you, then it’s a red flag.
Even in marriage, anyone that tries to keep you from your beloved family is a potential abuser, if he/she isn’t one already.
Also, understand that your spouse won’t embody all the relationships that you’ll need in life. Your spouse cannot be your all in all. He’s not your Alpha and Omega. He’s not God. You’ll need other relationships.
So, don’t give up other essential relationships because of a romantic relationship.
4. Your independence
Some women have had to give up their financial independence to preserve their men’s ego.
Such men want them to be completely dependent on them so they can control the women.
This is not the same as women giving up their jobs in order to take of the homefront in marriage.
Even in marriage, it should be a voluntary decision, not by coercion, and an agreement should be reached on how the woman can have access to money and not completely depend on her spouse.
5. Your happiness
What makes you happy apart from your relationship?
Take these away and what have you?
If the relationship goes south, what will you be left with?
Happiness is one of humans’ highest goal; so much so that they would give and do anything to be happy.
Some even turn their backs on great wealth, give away empires, renounce royalty in pursuit of happiness.
If you’ve found the things that contribute to your happiness, hold on dearly to them, and if a relationship requires you to throw away things that make you happy, better have a rethink.
6. Your self-esteem
Your self-esteem is an entire judgement of your worth.
If you’re dating someone who constantly makes you feel less of yourself, then should give yourself a pep talk.
A relationship where you have to sacrifice your self-worth to be in will never make you happy.
7. Your identity
Your identity is what makes you, you. It’s the totality of the things that make you unique and mark you off from the rest of the world.
It would be tragic to give your sense of self away in the name of a romantic relationship.
Think about all it took to build your identity: time, experiences, people; some of which you can never have again.
Don’t be fooled, your identity is expensive, protect yourself.
While making sacrifices and compromises, you shouldn’t lose yourself totally to be in a relationship.