When you think of an affair, you think short, quick, and not sustainable.
I can relate.
Affairs are usually just flings that lack foundation and a backbone.
But is that always the case?
The answer is a resounding no.
You’d think the fact that one of the participants is married should be more reason why it ends soon, but that is not always true.
Sometimes, a married woman can be in an affair for years and be true to it, if that makes any sense.
She becomes more loyal to the affair than her marriage.
It’s an unusual finding, so what could be the binding force?
9 Reasons Married Women Stay Loyal To Affair Partners
1. The absence of morals
People who lack morals also lack limits.
There is simply nothing they can not do if you give them time and the chance to.
A married woman might meet a man she likes, get involved, and decide to stick with him.
The fact that she could even think about the illicit affair alone shows her questionable character.
However, for her to initiate and sustain it further shows that she has no moral compass.
I’m not trying to be judgy, but it’s the truth.
Some women have no qualms about stepping outside their marriage and cheating on their spouse.
2. They’re “dick-matized”
Sex.
Sex is a significant thing in the life of every healthy adult human being.
It’s one of the blessings people enjoy in marriage – although it’s done by people who aren’t married and even strangers now.
One of the needs that marriage is meant to meet is the need for sexual satisfaction.
If this need is not met for a woman by her husband and she happens to get it met somewhere else, she may not want to leave that place.
Surprisingly, she might be getting it good from her husband, too.
But because of the lack of morals that we just spoke about, she chooses to get it somewhere else too.
The one she gets from her affair partner how becomes intoxicating, and like an addiction, she keeps going back for more.
3. Dissatisfaction with their marriage
Sexual dissatisfaction is not the only dissatisfaction that can exist in a marriage.
Dissatisfaction can come in different forms and areas.
When a woman is unhappy with her marriage, she might try to do things that take her mind off it.
Perhaps she has tried to fix the issues in her marriage to no avail, so she decided to find an outlet.
If the affair she gets into becomes like an escape for her, she might remain loyal to it.
After all, we all want to be happy in life, and if her affair makes her happy, then why would she want to stop?
4. Their husbands aren’t aware
The simple reason some women stay stuck to their affair partner is because their real partner is not aware.
Some affairs only end when they are discovered by the main partners.
So, as long as the husband remains in the dark about it, all is well with the world, and the woman will continue.
This is why many people doubt the genuineness of the repentance of their partners after they catch them cheating.
They believe that the cheater is only sorry because they were caught.
If they weren’t caught, they may have continued.
It’s natural to continue doing something that brings you pleasure and happiness as long as there are no consequences.
What does the Bible say about stolen waters?
It says they are sweet and that bread eaten in secret is pleasant.
5. They’re emotionally invested
It’s no news that most women are more emotional than men.
It’s in their wiring.
Some men can sleep with a woman many times and still see it as nothing more than a fling.
But that’s not the case with most women.
Many women step out of their marriages and get entangled emotionally.
It is not only a sex thing for them; it’s now deeper.
Perhaps because of how the man treats them, or maybe he was their first love before they married someone else.
Or just the circumstances in which they met and the memories they’ve created together.
This can make these women “faithful” to their affair partner, sometimes even more than their husband.
Sounds weird?
I know.
6. They’re more at peace there
“Stay where you find peace.”
Even if it’s in the arms of a forbidden partner?
Well, I don’t know.
Some women stay dedicated to their extramarital partner because they believe that it’s more peaceful there.
Their marriage could be plagued by all sorts of stress and pain, and they’re just tired.
But here comes Mr. Perfect, with love in his eyes and comfort in his arms.
They fall into those arms and never want to leave.
If the man outside of the marriage is giving them rest more than the man in it, they may not see the wisdom in cutting their commitment to him.
Why leave peace for chaos?
7. Retaliation
Some women have a strong thirst for vengeance.
They believe in “If you go low, I go lower.”
They’re not afraid of getting into the mud to prove a point to their husbands.
If their man cheats on them, they cheat back.
Simple.
This is why some women have and sustain affairs: to show their cheating husband that he’s not the only one with the cheating superpower.
They can cheat back and even more?
They can continue with the affair for long.
Dirty way to fight, isn’t it?
But they don’t mind.
8. They’re being blackmailed
This doesn’t happen every day or in every situation, but it does happen.
Some women are in dangerous situations where the person they had an affair with is blackmailing them to stay.
They may have genuinely repented and want to stop the affair, but the man is threatening them with money, exposing their nudes or private moments to the internet or their husband, or even worse, hurting them.
In such situations, the woman would usually succumb and stay loyal to the relationship because of fear.
Still, it’s forced loyalty, which, in the real sense, isn’t loyalty at all.
Women in situations like this need to understand that blackmailers never stop, so the earlier they set themselves free, the better.
9. Money
What did they say was the root of all evil again?
The love of money!
A lot of evil has happened and is still happening because of money.
The only reason some women remain constant with such lovers is money.
If the man is rich and knows how to spend it on them, they may not be going anywhere anytime soon.
Especially if their husband isn’t as rich or has no money.
They will stay committed to the money; sorry, I meant to their rich affair partner.
Crazy reason to be with someone but a valid one.
I mean, if people can have affairs in the first place and see no wrong in it, they might as well benefit financially from it.
Staying loyal to a relationship – whatever form it is – is not simple; it requires intentionality and commitment.
So, if a woman seems glued to her side guy, best believe that something is gluing her there, and I have shared the most common ones above.