Love is a complex and powerful emotion that can take many forms and expressions.
There is this popular belief that love can be found in unexpected places.
You may wonder if this applies to married folks too.
Marriage is a sacred union between two people who have vowed to love and cherish each other for the rest of their lives.
However, it is not uncommon for a married man to develop feelings for another woman and for the feelings to be stronger than what he feels for his wife.
This article will explore the categories of women a man can love more than his wife and some possible reasons why a married man might love another woman more than his wife.
3 Categories of Women A Married Man May Love More Than His Wife
1. His female best friend
A man can have a female best friend he has known since childhood.
They may share a deep emotional bond that he does not share with his wife.
I have always believed that having a female best friend is not something married men should be involved in.
The only best friend a married man is allowed to have is his wife.
No one is saying a married man should jettison a friendship just because he is married, especially if the friendship doesn’t seem to harm his relationship with his wife.
However, all things must be done in moderation.
The bond between best friends can be pretty deep and goes even deeper if it is between the opposite sex.
Such kind of bond can be a big threat to your marital peace and joy.
Efforts should be made to put a little distance in such kind of friendship for your relationship’s sake.
Sometime last year, a female friend told me her boyfriend complained about how close she was to me.
She said she got angry and told him he was just being insecure.
However, I totally understood where the guy was coming from, and instead of continuing to be close to her, I had to put a little distance between us.
We are still very close but not so close that her boyfriend thinks of me as a threat.
A best friend may sometimes need to be the one to decide for the married friend if it is too difficult for them to make themselves.
2. His Ex
Now, this is an aberration.
It shouldn’t be because he wouldn’t have broken up if he loved her so much.
A man may still have feelings for his ex-wife or girlfriend even after getting married.
This could be because he has not fully moved on from the relationship or because he feels his current marriage is not fulfilling his emotional needs.
Whatever the reasons, married men may sometimes love their exes more than their wives, which may be the beginning of issues in the marriage.
I remember seeing a post on Instagram where a married woman cried out for help anonymously because her husband was infatuated with his ex.
She said that her husband would sometimes have long calls with his ex into the night.
The event that made her ask for advice was when the ex called her husband in the middle of the night to help her with something, and her husband left the house without returning till the following afternoon.
Sad, but this is the reality of many women.
3. His mistress
If a man is cheating on his wife, he may love the other lady more.
A man may develop feelings for another woman outside of his marriage and start an affair with her.
This could be because he feels neglected or unappreciated by his wife or because he is seeking emotional fulfillment that he is not getting from his marriage.
It could also be because he is a cheat who likes to eat his cake and have it.
Whatever the case, he can feel more strongly towards his side chick than his wife.
This may be a fleeting feeling, especially at the peak of their affair, or a norm because he has now fallen out of love with his wife.
5 Reasons A Married Man May Fall In Love With Another Woman
Why will a married man develop feelings for another woman outside his marriage?
This is a big question, and like all the other questions we will consider in this article, it is not so simple to answer.
The answers to this question differ just as men differ in behavior and actions.
However, there are some general reasons why a married man will fall in love with another woman.
1. Dissatisfaction in marriage
Dissatisfaction in marriage is one of the foremost reasons a married man might fall in love with another woman outside his marriage.
A married man might feel unhappy or unfulfilled in his relationship with his wife for various reasons, such as lack of communication, intimacy, compatibility, respect, or trust.
Because of this dissatisfaction, he might seek emotional or physical satisfaction from another woman who can offer him what he feels he is missing in his marriage.
2. Attraction and compatibility
“Wasn’t he attracted to his wife before he married her?”
You may ask this question and truly, you have a point.
However, being married to someone you are attracted to doesn’t mean you won’t see other attractive people out there.
This is why it is important to consider love as more than just a feeling because it actually is.
Love is an intentional decision to love someone, regardless of how many other attractive people you will come across in life.
Sadly, many men struggle with this decision and sometimes give in to their baser instincts.
A married man might feel attracted to another woman because of her physical appearance, personality, interests, or qualities that he admires or desires.
He might also feel a strong connection or compatibility with her as if they share the same wavelength or understand each other better than anyone else.
When he continually allows himself to foster that connection, it won’t take long before he falls head over heels in love with her.
3. Curiosity and excitement
Married couples sometimes make the mistake of allowing their relationship to fall into a routine.
When relations between husband and wife become lackluster, it may not be shocking if one or both begin to feel bored with the marriage.
A married man might be bored or restless in his marriage and crave some variety or adventure in his life.
He might be curious about what it would be like to be with another woman or enjoy the thrill and challenge of pursuing her.
4. Love and commitment
A married man might genuinely fall in love with another woman and believe that she is his true soulmate or partner.
He might feel a deep emotional bond with her and want to spend more time with her.
He might also be willing to end his marriage or sacrifice for her sake.
As shocking as this may sound, this has happened many times in the past.
Does this mean that he never loved his wife?
No, he may have loved his wife at some point but love is like a plant in the nursery.
Nurture it and it will grow.
Abandon it and it withers away.
5. Soul ties
This is another important reason why a married may love another more than his wife.
This is usually common among best friends of the opposite sex.
They could have gotten so dependent on each other that even when they are married, they are still so entangled that they can’t consider separation.
This emotional dependency on another woman other than his wife can create a very delicate problem for the marriage.
4 Signs A Married Man Loves Another Woman More Than His Wife
It is not always easy to tell if a married man is in love with another woman, as he might try to hide or deny his feelings.
However, some of the possible signs that can indicate his infatuation are:
1. He changes his behavior
A married man who loves another woman more than his wife might act differently around her or his wife.
He might become more attentive, affectionate, romantic towards her, distant, cold, or irritable towards his wife.
He might also change his appearance, habits, or preferences to impress or match her style.
2. He spends more time with her
A married man who loves another woman more than his wife might find excuses to see her more often, such as working late, going on business trips, attending social events, or joining hobbies.
He may also spend less time with his wife or family and neglect his responsibilities or commitments.
3. He communicates more with her
A married man who loves another woman more than his wife might talk to her more frequently through phone calls, texts, emails, or social media.
He might also share more personal details, feelings, or secrets with her than with his wife.
He might also avoid talking about her or lie about their relationship with his wife.
4. He shows signs of guilt or confusion
A married man who loves another woman more than his wife might feel guilty or conflicted about his feelings.
He might show signs of stress, anxiety, depression, or mood swings.
He might be having trouble sleeping, eating, or concentrating.
Conclusion
Yes, a married man can love another woman more than his wife, but this does not mean he should act on his feelings.
Love is not a justification for hurting or betraying someone who has been loyal and faithful to him.
Love is also not a guarantee for happiness or success in a new relationship.
A married man who loves another woman more than his wife should be honest with himself and his wife.
If it is a crush on another woman, he needs to consider the consequences of his actions.
He should try to seek professional help or counseling if he is unable to cope with his situation or make a decision.
At the end of the day, love is not just a feeling.
It is an intentional commitment to love your wife.
Love is a beautiful and precious thing, but it can also be complicated and messy.
Everyone has a choice to make; handle love responsibly or carelessly.
I hope you make the right choice.