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4 Major Signs A Man Is Unhappy In His Marriage

4 Major Signs A Man Is Unhappy In His Marriage

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What can make a man unhappy in his marriage?

Love, I mean ”the butterflies in the belly” kind of feeling, is fleeting, and while this is true for every relationship, it is very noticeable in marriages.

For this reason, it can be hard to figure out whether your marriage is just going through a slow phase or your man is truly unhappy in your marriage.

You might even be shocked that he’s prepared to leave the marriage for his sanity.

So, we’ve listed below some evident signs a man is unhappy in his marriage and some things you can do about it as a wife if you spot these signs in your marriage.

Have a pleasant read!

4 Signs A Man Is Unhappy In His Marriage

1. He doesn’t spend quality time with you anymore

Signs a man is unhappy in his marriage


While you might not be entitled to all the time your husband has to spare, it’s still not enough to excuse to make his unavailability in your life more pleasant.

It appears you’re taking second place in his life, as he always has something else to do or somewhere else to go before attending to you.

If you manage to get him to spend some of his free time with you, you’ll notice that his mind is miles away from you.

His mind is miles away because you forced him to spend time with you, and he’s cooperating with you only to fulfill an obligation.

If it ever gets to this point in your marriage, there’s something wrong somewhere, and both of you should make out time to smoothen it out.

While it may not necessarily mean that he is unhappy in the marriage, it’s a very likely sign, especially if it has been happening for a long time.


2. Your Sexual Relationship With Him In The Marriage Is Dead

Signs A Man Is Unhappy In His Marriage


Sometimes, married life can become very hectic, and sex will be the last thing on your mind as you deal with the more serious issues of life.

However, couples who have a good relationship will make an effort to spend some good time together and enjoy themselves whenever the pressure of life eases up on them.

A married couple will try to spice up their sex life and make it more fun in a bid better to express their love and commitment towards each other, even when their sexual desires have reduced greatly.

Anyone of you can make a move for sex in your marriage.

And so, it becomes alarming when your man doesn’t ask you for sex at all.

Worse still is when he turns you down or gets angry whenever you make the first move.

It’s one of the signs a man is unhappy in his marriage.

He begins to grow distant slowly and loses interest in having sexual relations with you.


3. He Is Not Worried Anymore Whenever You Share Your Problems With Him

One of the signs a man is unhappy in his marriage is that he doesn’t feel bothered by your problems anymore.

A married couple with a healthy relationship between them is normally there for and looking out for each other.

Your husband is meant to listen to you rant about your problems and help you seek out solutions for them, just as you will do for him.

So, it’s right to raise an eyebrow if he’s not bothered when you’re talking about your problems.

It’s even worse if he’s unsympathetic and acts aloof about the situation.

If your husband still loves you, he’ll show some concern and care about what you’re going through.

But a man who is unhappy in his marriage will show no emotions, no matter how hurt you are.


4. Laughter Is A Thing Of The Past In Your Marriage

Signs A Man Is Unhappy In His Marriage


When was the last time you and your husband had a burst of hearty laughter together?

Can’t remember?

It’s been a long time since both of you laughed together.

That’s sad.

A big indication of a loving and healthy relationship is the presence of laughter.

You must not laugh at every little thing.

Nobody wants to sit around all day making jokes.

However, it’s important to be able to freely laugh together with your husband as it is a sign that both of you are comfortable with each other.

So, ask yourself some questions if you and your husband laughed together eons ago and he’s not interested either to join in your laughter.


What To Do

Here are some of the things you can do to help if your husband is unhappy in the marriage

1. Analyse the issues in your marriage

Signs A Man Is Unhappy In His Marriage


The first step towards redeeming your marriage, if your husband is unhappy, is to assess the issues plaguing your marriage.

You need a clear understanding of what you’re facing so you can make headway.

If possible, jot down the things you feel are the root causes of the problems in your marriage.

It’ll help you make realizations that would have ordinarily escaped your notice.

Even when you’re making painful discoveries, which can be that you contributed to the problems in your marriage, try not to back away from your quest.

It’s a good step in the right direction.


2. Talk with him about it

Signs A Man Is Unhappy In His Marriage


When you’ve gotten to the root of the issues, try to get your husband to talk with you.

He might be hesitant at first or even ignore you completely but don’t nag or act harshly.

Keep pressing him gently till he gives in.

Even if he doesn’t, let him know that you’re open and ready to talk whenever he is ready.

When he is finally ready to talk, let him feel heard throughout the conversation.

To achieve this, try not to make the conversation about you and your feelings.

Listen to what he has to say; there are probably a lot of things that he needs to say that you don’t know.

Talk about the issue at hand from your point of view, let him know that you don’t know all the sides of the story, and let him share his side of the story.

While he does, listen attentively and think well about the things he has to say.

Take all the time you need to process all that you heard before sharing your side of the story.


3. Renew your vows to each other

Because we tend to get too familiar with each other, relationships and marriages get into a lot of problems.

A good way to get your husband to be invested in your marriage again is by recommitting to the marriage.

Renew your vows to each other.

With everything that happened between both of you, you’re now different people and need to recommit to each other.

You can take the first step by listing the things you’re willing to do to make the marriage work and ensure that you keep to them.

If he has any love left for you, he’ll follow your steps and make your marriage work again.


4. Seek couple counseling

If you can’t get through to each other and the situation looks bleak, it’s best to ask for help from a professional.

Counseling can help you understand the root of your issues and how to tackle them effectively.

You’ll also gain insight into each other’s points of view and learn ways to better communicate with one another. 

Take time out of your busy schedule to attend counseling and make sure that you both commit to it.

That way, you’ll be able to build a strong foundation for rebuilding your marriage. 


5. Spend quality time together 

One of the best ways to reconnect with each other is to spend quality time together. 

Whether it’s a romantic dinner, a day trip, or a relaxing massage, set aside time to enjoy each other’s company.

Take a break from everyday life and let go of any stress. 

This way, you can unwind and share some intimate moments that will remind you why you fell in love with each other in the first place. 


6. Rekindle your romance

It’s easy to let the romance slip away when you’ve been married for a while. 

But it’s important to keep things spicy and rekindle the flame of your love. 

Plan date nights, send each other sweet notes, or buy gifts to show your love. 

These simple gestures can help keep the spark alive, and you’ll be reminded of why you fell in love in the first place. 



No woman is ever happy to find out that her husband is unhappy in the marriage.

In most cases, while the woman runs around trying to find ways to make her marriage work, the man sits back and does nothing to help.

If you’re facing this problem in your marriage and you love your husband, try as much as you can to not give up on your marriage, especially if he still loves you deeply.

Making a marriage work is no child’s play.

Also, it takes two to tango.

If your husband does not cooperate with you to work toward improving your marriage, he’ll only frustrate your efforts.

You need all the strength, bravery, patience, and understanding you can get.


Signs A Man Is Unhappy In His Marriage




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Saturday 23rd of March 2024

Thank you for this . I appreciate the article. I found a lot of my marital situations in the writing. Such as getting angry when you initiate intimacy, being aloof, not really caring etc. idk if my husband is cheating but he seems miserable at times. He isn’t interested in me personally but what I can do for him like be a secretary or a maid, or a dog sitter. We’ve been together since highschool , married 7 years, no kids. I hope he doesn’t feel obligated to be with me bc his family likes me. If I were to leave it would be a clean break. I asked him to go to counseling with me and he refuses. I feel like a counselor would get to the bottom of things fairly fast . He doesn’t want to talk about the marriage with me alone. I feel like he don’t want to be with me but he doesn’t want me to leave either. If the marriage is over it’ll be me who leaves. Bc he doesn’t want to seem like the bad guy. Idk but thank you for this article.

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Sunday 24th of March 2024

So sorry about your experience. It's so hard dealing with a spouse who resists every effort to make things work. I hope he changes before it's too late.


Thursday 3rd of August 2023

Serve him with divorce papers on Christmas Eve am. I did. That was the only time I knew he would be home. He was shocked to say the least. He thought for sure he was getting away with his double life. His girlfriend ended up dying from cancer and he got prostate cancer before our divorce was over. Can you spell Karma?


Monday 12th of December 2022

Such a great piece. Keep up the good work❣️.

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Monday 12th of December 2022

Thank you!