Dating an older woman sounds pretty cool and nice, right?
I think so too.
But it’s not all sunshine, butterflies, and rainbows.
If you’re interested in dating older women, you should know that there are things so many people will see as the disadvantages of dating an older woman.
However, bear in mind that some of these disadvantages are not going to matter to some of you who are interested in dating older women.
And there are also some seeming disadvantages that you might see as advantages.
So, here is a comprehensive list of some of the most common disadvantages of dating older women and what you can do about them.
Enjoy the read!
6 Disadvantages Of Dating An Older Woman
1. It won’t work out if you’re immature emotionally
Older women usually don’t like drama and are also not interested in going through the rubbish they went through when they were dating in their younger years.
While they do not expect you to become an old man overnight because they are well enjoying the fun you bring to the relationship, they also expect you to act like an adult and handle certain things with maturity.
Very importantly, they need you to be mature emotionally and can communicate like an adult.
If you struggle with being an adult and being emotionally mature, you might want to save time and resources for both of you and continue to date ladies who are within your age bracket.
You won’t also be lasting long in the relationship if you’re the type of guy who thrives on drama.
Because a lot of older women understand that you’re younger than them, they’re going to tolerate some things that you do.
They’ll even probably like some of your youthful traits and exuberance that you bring to the relationship.
In all, make sure that you act like an adult, treat them with respect, avoid bringing drama to the relationship, and communicate well.
If you can achieve all of these, you might just be the ideal young man who is widely sought after by older women.
Only then can you get to enjoy all the benefits that come with dating older women.
2. Get ready to be judged by people
Some people will certainly judge you for dating an older woman.
While many people will be happy for you that you found someone who makes you happy or whom you can have fun with, some others believe that age is more than just a number.
They can either be vocal about it to your face, or they’ll just choose to gossip in the shadows and talk about your relationship behind you.
Sometimes, it can be the people who are closest to you that are making a fuss over your choice of a romantic partner, and other times, it’ll come from total strangers who shouldn’t stick their noses in your business in the first place.
This judgment from people will depend largely on how much older than you the woman you’re dating looks or how much older than you she is.
You probably won’t get a lot of reactions from people if you’re slightly close in your age or you both look close in age.
If the age difference between you and your woman isn’t wide, people usually treat it as a normal relationship.
But the murmurings start and get louder when the age difference is too wide.
What you can do about this?
Why should you care about the opinions of other people on your relationship if you’re genuinely happy and fulfilled with your partner?
You shouldn’t care about external opinions, especially those from total strangers who do not influence your life.
You need to be confident and firm in your decisions so that their opinions won’t affect you in any way.
As for the opinionated ones who know you to an extent, they should be happy that you’re happy.
And if they’re not, it’s probably from a place of jealousy or unhappiness from within them.
Your decision to date an older woman is not enough to put a family relationship or friendship into jeopardy.
3. Older women might come with more baggage
We all gather baggage as we journey through life, and some people have more baggage than others.
You have to accept that the older woman you want to date may have some baggage.
She might have been through having ex-husbands, kids, or other things that are related to relationships.
But this doesn’t make her any less wonderful.
Although some people see baggage as bad and avoid people who have them.
I like to think that baggage is a part of everyone’s life process, and it helps to define who you are presently.
She won’t be this person you’re interested in if she didn’t go through the life processes that brought her to where she is.
But does it mean that you have to accept her baggage?
If you’re interested in any woman at all, you have to be ready to accept her baggage.
But it doesn’t mean that you have to adopt her kids, become a father figure to them, or do any other stuff you don’t wanna do.
It means that you need to accept her for who she is and resist the urge to judge her for the choices she made before she met you.
4. She might be expecting too much from you
I’m not trying to dampen your spirit or talk you out of getting into a relationship with an older woman; all I’m saying is that while some older women like the idea of dating a younger man, they may want him to have the life experiences and maturity of people who are their own age grade.
They may expect too much from you in terms of financial stability, emotional maturity, or even physical prowess.
If this happens, try to communicate your needs to her in a non-confrontational way.
Explain why it is not possible for you to meet her expectations and be honest about where your headspace is
5. There might be problems if you want to have children
The body of a woman is made to have children only for a specific period of her life.
That’s the way it has been programmed from the beginning of the world.
Depending on how much older your woman is, problems might arise in the relationship if you desire to have biological children.
What you can do about this is to settle for other great options of having children, such as adoption if you want kids, but age is trying to act as a barrier.
6. You might not be compatible in the bedroom
Age gap can come with a lot of difference when it comes to sexual compatibility.
If you are a lot younger, you may not be able to meet the expectations of your partner because of inexperience and lack of knowledge.
And for the older woman, there might be a problem with her energy level.
This could be a result of various factors such as aging, health, or lifestyle.
Conclusion
Dating an older woman is not something you just wake up and jump into.
It’s a well-thought-out decision.
I think that age is just a number, and people should be allowed to thrive wherever or with whoever they find love and happiness.
But you still need to look into all the concerns listed above before you decide to go further into a relationship with an older woman.
Analyze the different elements, check if you’re compatible, and go from there.
At the end of the day, it should be a mutually beneficial relationship where both parties are happy and fulfilled.