You don’t often come across articles on how to make a man respect you. Do you?
But there are unlimited books and articles on how to make a man love you or love you more.
This is because we’ve been fed with the stereotype that ‘men want respect, women want love’.
There are even a bunch of books bearing that title.
I don’t know about you, but for me, there’s no love without respect. I feel loved and honoured when I’m respected.
Why do you need to know how to make him respect you?
Because a man may love you and not respect you because they’ve also been made to believe that women are to be loved and not respected.
So you have to teach him how to respect you if he’s not doing that. You determine how you want to be treated.
How can you make him respect you?
- Believe you’re to be respected
If you don’t believe you’re to be respected, then you won’t mind being disrespected.
Don’t subscribe to the school of thought that women are to be loved and not respected.
You’re to be loved and respected.
I believe in mutual love and respect in relationship and marriage.
2. Don’t be afraid to form your opinions
I hate the phrase ‘opinionated woman’ because the adjective ‘opinionated’ is rarely used for a man.
I wonder why it’s expected for a man to have strong opinions and a woman is termed ‘opinionated’ when she dares to have her own opinions.
Don’t be bullied into silence. Be reasonably opinionated. Be flexible and open-minded enough to consider other people’s opinions.
Agreeing to everything a man says because you want to appear submissive isn’t going to earn you the respect you desire.
I’m not saying you should be unnecessarily difficult, I’m saying you shouldn’t be afraid to form your (contrary) opinions. You don’t have to lose your uniqueness and individuality because you’re in love.
3. Have values that determine your standard
If you stand for nothing, you’ll fall for anything. What are your values? Does he know the things you value most and won’t compromise for anything?
Does he know where he shouldn’t cross the line with you?
A man is most likely to respect you when he understands your values. Not only that, he’ll respect your values.
If you have none, then there’s nothing to respect.
4. Don’t hesitate to air your displeasure
A lot of ladies share with me how they never complain, no matter how much a man hurts them because they want peace to reign.
You’re just going to let yourself be a doormat because you want some ‘peace’ to reign?
What kind of peace will you have when you forfeit your own peace?
When a man doesn’t know what you like and don’t like, he’ll treat you how he knows best. And his best might never be enough.
You don’t have to nag, but don’t hesitate to let him know clearly what you like and don’t like.
How can a man treat you anyhow and you’ll keep quiet? Because you’re afraid you’d lose him?
Then he was never meant for you.
A relationship/marriage where you cannot speak your mind will never make you happy.
5. Be intelligent
Men respect women who are intelligent, who can make meaningful contributions, women they can have an intelligent conversation with, women who stimulate their intellect.
While your beauty may have attracted him, your intelligence will make you fun to be with and valuable to him.
A man will respect a woman who gives valuable opinions. He’ll seek your opinions on things before making decisions because he knows they’re priceless.
Everything shouldn’t be about physical looks. Invest in your mind as well. Be an avid reader. Know a little about something. Be mentally attractive. In this age where you can find almost anything on the internet, you can’t afford to be ignorant. Take personal development seriously.
Do all these for yourself and not for a man. The respect will come by being yourself.
6. Respect yourself
Honestly, no one can respect you if you don’t respect yourself. Self-respect commands respect from others.
There are some things you won’t do if you respect yourself.
If you respect yourself, you won’t do things that would trigger disrespect from anyone, not even your man.
For instance, if you insult someone, there’s a likelihood that you’ll be insulted in return.
So don’t treat your man the way you wouldn’t like to be treated.
I know we are not perfect and we do some silly things at times. However, this should be occasional and not a way of life.
7. Get a life
If you make a man or a relationship the alpha and omega of your life, you’ll be disrespected because no man wants a liability.
Do you have anything else to live for apart from a relationship? Do you even have a passion or something else you derive joy in?
You’ll suffocate a man if all you live for is your relationship with him. You’ve gotta get a life! Have something going on for you.
Get a life, babe.
8. Be a woman a man is afraid to lose
A man will respect you if he’s afraid to lose you, and that’s if you’re the lady of his dreams, if you add value to his life in a way no other woman can.
9. Don’t compare yourself with other women
There are probably things you don’t love about yourself and there might be things you admire in other women, but constantly comparing yourself with other women in the presence of your man shows you’re insecure, and that’s not a way to earn his respect.
10. It’s up to him
Because life isn’t black and white, you can do all these things and a man will still choose to disrespect you.
It’s left for you to decide to put a stop to it or continue to be disrespected.