What are the signs you are a bad wife?
In today’s society, there is so much pressure on women to be perfect.
We are supposed to have successful careers, perfectly decorated homes, spotless floors, and children who always behave perfectly in public.
Oh, and we’re also supposed to be perfect wives.
But the truth is that being a good wife isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about being honest, supportive, and loving—even when your partner drives you crazy.
However, if you’re like most women, you probably think of yourself as a good wife.
But the truth is, we all have our flaws.
And some of those flaws can hurt our marriages.
You don’t want to be a bad wife.
You’re just not sure how to stop being one.
But what does it mean to be a bad wife?
The answer is different depending on who you ask.
Some people believe that being a good wife means cooking dinner every night, while others think that it means taking care of the kids while your husband is at work all day.
Still others believe that being a good wife is about providing emotional support and keeping your marriage happy and healthy.
But no matter how you define it, there are things we can all agree with.
If you’ve been wondering if you’re a bad wife, here are twelve signs you are a bad wife—and how to fix them.
12 Signs You Are a Bad Wife (and How to Fix Them)
1. You’re always critical of your husband
Do you find yourself constantly criticizing your husband?
If so, that’s a sure sign that you’re a bad wife.
No one likes to be criticized all the time, and your husband is no exception.
Yes, men can be so annoying sometimes, but it’s unfair to criticize your husband always, forgetting his positive qualities and focusing only on his flaws.
How to fix it:
The next time you’re tempted to criticize your husband, try to catch yourself and say something positive instead.
For example, “I’m so grateful you fixed the leaky faucet” or “I love how patient you are with our kids.”
Focusing on the good will help you have a more positive relationship with your husband.
This doesn’t mean you can’t tell him about his flaws—just try to do it in a way that’s constructive and not always negative.
A good wife knows how to give constructive criticism without making her husband feel like he’s being attacked all the time.
2. You’re constantly comparing your husband to other people’s husbands, even to his face)
A good wife knows that comparison is the thief of joy—and that no one is perfect (including herself).
Comparing your husband to others will only make him feel bad about himself—and drive a wedge between you.
How to fix it:
Focus on your husband’s positive qualities instead.
Think about all the things you love about him and be grateful for what you have.
There’s a reason you chose him.
If you’re still struggling with this, remember that no one is perfect—including your husband.
And even though he might have some flaws, he’s the only husband you’ve got.
So love him for who he is, flaws and all.
If there is anything you want him to improve on, talk to him about it in a respectful way.
3. You take him for granted
Do you ever stop and think about how lucky you are to have him?
If not, chances are you’re taking him for granted—which is one of the worst things you can do in a marriage.
I’m not a perfect wife, but my husband often says I’m a good wife—to me and others.
One of the things I try not to do is take his efforts for granted.
I show appreciation when he does the dishes, takes the kids to school, does the laundry, and pays his part of the bills.
I don’t consider anything he does as “his job.”
I let him know I appreciate whatever he does.
If you are guilty of taking your man for granted, turn a new leaf by complimenting him more than you criticize him.
Give him little gifts “just because”—and see how much your marriage starts to improve.
4. You don’t listen to your husband
You think that because you’re married, you should be able to do whatever you want without consulting him first.
This includes making major purchases without discussing it with him first or even going out with friends without letting him know where you’re going in advance, so he doesn’t worry about where you are when he gets home from work.
Don’t get me wrong; you are not trying to take permission from your husband for everything you do.
But it’s important to keep him in the loop and show him that you respect his opinion—even if you don’t always agree with it.
Make a point of talking to your husband about important decisions—before you make them.
Let him know you respect and appreciate his input.
5. You don’t have sex with your husband
This is one of the biggest signs that you are a bad wife.
Men are creatures of habit, and most men expect sex to be a regular part of their relationship with their wives.
If you have been withholding physical intimacy from him for no justifiable reason than to punish him, that is not good enough.
So, if you haven’t had sex in weeks or months, have a conversation about what’s going on in your relationship — and why you aren’t having sex with him as often as he’d like.
6. You don’t respect him
Respect is essential for any relationship to work, but it’s especially important for a marriage.
If you don’t respect your husband, you will have serious problems that will get in the way of your happiness together.
If you don’t respect him, then it’s likely that he’ll feel disrespected by you as well.
This can lead to marital discord and even divorce.
If you want your marriage to last and be happy, then make sure you respect each other.
7. You’re always fighting
When you fight, you fight dirty — you say things that hurt, aren’t true, and can’t be taken back.
When you’re going through a rough patch in your marriage, it’s easy to get angry and say things out of spite or frustration.
But you need to evaluate your behavior if you’re constantly arguing with your husband over petty things.
8. You never help out around the house
It’s true that men should be helping around the house more often than they currently do (and I think most wives would agree).
However, it doesn’t mean that women should expect their husbands to do everything for them while they sit around watching TV or being on social media and not helping out around the house or taking care of their kids.
Letting your husband do all the household chores is mean.
9. You are selfish and self-centered
You want everything on your terms, when you want it, how you want it and how much of it you want.
You won’t compromise with him on anything, no matter how important that thing is to him.
10. You belittle his accomplishments or goals in life
A good wife would encourage her husband’s dreams and help him achieve them.
When you put him down, it makes him feel like he has no value.
This could cause him to lose motivation, which could lead him to give up on those dreams altogether.
11. You speak badly about your husband behind his back
If you speak badly about your husband behind his back, you’re a bad wife.
You might think that this is just a harmless way to vent about him, but it’s actually incredibly harmful.
The truth is, no matter what your husband does to annoy you, you won’t be angry forever.
So speaking badly about him because he annoyed you is not the best approach.
If you’re not happy with something, talk it out with him—that way you can fix any problems and make things better.
12. You’re too controlling
If you’re too controlling, you’re probably a bad wife.
There’s a difference between being caring and being controlling.
Being caring means you want to make sure everyone’s needs are met and everyone is happy.
Being controlling means you want everything your way—even if it makes other people unhappy.
If you find yourself constantly trying to get your husband to do what YOU want him to do instead of what HE wants himself, that’s control, not love.
And that kind of behavior is toxic in any relationship, but especially in marriage because it undermines trust and respect—which are absolutely necessary for any healthy relationship.
If you think you might be a bad wife based onthe signs above, don’t worry.
There’s still time to up your game.
Just make the necessary changes mentioned in the descriptions of the signs and see how much your marriage improves.
Trust me, you’ll be doing both yourself and your husband a great favor as you’ll become happier and have a happier husband.
