There’s no question that being a wife is a challenging job.
But it’s also incredibly rewarding, and with the right tools, you can be a better wife than you ever thought possible.
In this blog post, we’ll discuss some of the most important things you can do to improve your wifely skills and learn how to be a better wife.
So, if you’re ready to take your marriage to the next level, read on!
How To Be a Better Wife: 16 Ways to Improve Your Wifely Skills
1. Be a happy wife
It might sound like an obvious thing to say, but when you’re in a good mood and feeling happy, it’s much easier to be a good wife.
There is no way you can be a better wife if you’re constantly in a sad and unhappy mood.
If you want to be a better wife, learn how to be a happy one first by imbibing these habits of incredibly happy women.
Being a bubbly wife will make your husband want to stick around, and this will make it much easier for you to be a better wife.
2. Be confident
Above all else, confidence goes such a long way when it comes to being successful as a wife.
You don’t need to walk around thinking that you’re perfect because nobody is ever perfect, but you should definitely carry yourself with confidence and pride.
Some of the most confident wives are also the best wives because their husbands look up to them.
If you want to become a better wife, don’t be afraid to speak your mind and voice your opinion.
Your husband is not always right, but having confidence in yourself will show him that he picked the right woman for him!
My husband often tells people that he’s happy to have a wife who calls him to order when he’s wrong.
He is confident that I wouldn’t watch him walk into a ditch.
Some women don’t share their opinions because they are afraid of sounding too bossy or interfering.
But remember, your husband needs to hear what you have to say as much as you want to say it.
Also, how you talk is more important than what you say.
3. Be understanding
To understand your husband, you have to know him.
You can’t understand someone you don’t know.
If you want to become a better wife, take the time to get to know your husband: his likes and dislikes, what he wants out of life, what makes him tick, his upbringing, his personality, his thinking pattern, etc.
Listen to him when he tells you things about himself.
Observe him and ask questions.
Only then will you be able to truly understand the needs of your husband.
4. Listen to your husband
Sometimes, your husband will want to open up and share his problems with you.
When this happens, it’s important that you listen and let him get everything off his chest.
Don’t try to solve the problem or give advice if he doesn’t ask.
All he really needs right then is a good listener who cares about what he has to say.
It’s important that you listen as well as you can, and by doing so you will show your husband how much he means to you – this will automatically make you a better wife!
Also, during arguments or when settling quarrels, listen to his side of the story.
A lot of women don’t listen to their husbands; they’re always interrupting the poor man (I’m shamefully guilty of this).
Let the man talk!
5. Be affectionate
A lot of wives are afraid to be affectionate with their husbands because they feel like it’s being “too clingy” or desperate.
But your husband wants to know that you love him, so show him.
Don’t always wait for him to enter the house – instead, surprise him by meeting him at the door and giving him a warm kiss and hug.
Hold his hand when you’re walking down the street.
I have a habit of rubbing my husband’s head.
I offer to him massage him as well.
Affection is actually very important when it comes to being a good wife, so don’t hold back when it comes to showing how much you love him!
6. Give him some space, let him relax without constantly talking to him
There are some things that make our husbands go crazy, but sometimes, they don’t tell us what it is.
So instead of constantly talking to your husband and never letting him relax for a second, allow him to have some space once in a while.
Letting your husband get away from everything even for short periods of time can help his mood, and this will make you a better wife.
7. Respect him
Being a good wife doesn’t end with you being affectionate, confident, understanding, and happy.
If you want to be a better wife, you need to respect your husband too.
A lot of us women find it easier to love our husbands than to respect them.
Respecting your husband does not mean that he is always right.
It simply means that despite your differences in opinion, you choose to remain respectful towards him.
Namecalling, raising your voice at him, talking to him like a child, and considering his complaints and opinions are downright disrespectful!
A lot of wives don’t respect their husbands, which makes them (husbands) frustrated and resentful.
When you respect your husband, he will feel safe in his relationship with you and this will make him happier overall.
In turn, this will make you a better wife!
Also, if your husband is wrong about something, correct him in love and not with heavy criticism.
8. Compliment him on his strengths and accomplishments
Showing how much you appreciate your husband is never a bad thing, in fact, it makes for a better marriage.
For example, if your husband works hard to support the family and provide everything that you need, let him know how grateful you are.
He will feel loved and wanted by hearing these things from his wife which will make him a better husband.
Don’t only complain about what he doesn’t do; instead, point out his positive traits and give him a compliment now and then.
9. Do household tasks together
It’s very important to be a good wife – but sometimes, we forget that being a good housewife is also equally significant.
Kitchens and bathrooms need constant cleaning, beds need to be made and clothes need to be washed.
Instead of making your husband do all the housework, help him out!
I know some wives complain that their husbands don’t do anything around the house, but there are also women who leave the housework to their husbands too.
Doing household tasks together will make you both feel like a team who can handle anything that life throws at you.
10. Speak well of him to others
Your husband likes that you think he is a good husband and father, but he also wants others to know as well.
Every day, your husband probably interacts with different people – family members, neighbors, colleagues at work, and friends.
It’s important to speak well of him in front of these people and let them know how grateful you are to have him.
Don’t badmouth him in front of others when he makes mistakes because no matter how much you love him, you’ll not be able to take back your words or correct the impression people have formed about him based on your words.
Resist the urge to air your husband’s dirty linen on social media.
It’s what a lot of people do these days.
Don’t do it except you have justifiable reasons to.
11. Surprise him with a thoughtful gift every now and then
Doing small things for your husband goes a long way in strengthening your marriage.
If you want to be a better wife, then try surprising him with a thoughtful gift now and then.
It could be something as simple as bringing home his favorite food from the market or buying the same shirt that he likes wearing all the time.
Little surprises can be extremely special for your husband.
Below are examples of thoughtful gifts your husband will love:
12. Don’t be a nagger
They say behind every nagging woman is a man who has failed to do something that would make her happy.
I get it but does nagging work?
I don’t think so.
No one likes to be with a nagging person.
They are like a dripping tap that never stops.
Nagging simply make your husband do things out of fear and not because he wants to.
Learn how to handle problems constructively instead of nagging about them all the time.
Speak with him in love and tell him how sometimes, his words or actions make you feel.
He will be glad to know and most probably, he’ll make an effort not to hurt your feelings in the future (if he truly loves you).
13. Be a supportive partner in his career goals
In today’s world, both husband and wife work hard to make a good living.
It’s important for you to be supportive of his career goals – even if they’re not in line with yours.
In turn, he will be more willing to do the same for you – which makes him a better husband!
14. Help and encourage him to look good
Give him your honest opinions on his looks; tell him when he looks good or bad.
Don’t criticize or nitpick at his physical appearance because this will only make him feel insecure about it.
If your husband is trying to lose weight, help him with delicious meals that are low in calories and equally yummy.
When you help your husband look good, not only will it give him more confidence but you’ll also be proud of him instead of being embarrassed by his looks.
15. Be spontaneous
Spontaneity is another important part of being a good wife.
Setting aside time to do fun activities “just because” is a great way to have some fun together while still being spontaneous.
A day at the races, going for a picnic in the park, eating brunch at a restaurant, or an ice cream on a bench outside your house are all examples of being spontaneous with your husband.
Don’t make every day the same, sometimes, try to mix things up a little bit!
Do something fun together which you both enjoy, but don’t force him into anything that he doesn’t want to do!
Also, remember that sometimes spontaneity is about the small things in life—have dinner ready for him when he gets home from work, surprise him with breakfast in bed on a Sunday morning and offer to give him a massage after a long day.
Also, keep an open mind about what turns him on s*xually and always be willing to try new things with him so that s*x doesn’t become boring or repetitive.
16. Don’t lose yourself in being a wife
In order to be a good wife, it’s important not to lose yourself in the process.
Don’t neglect your needs and desires just because you’re too busy taking care of your husband and children.
Make sure that you put yourself first sometimes!
Do something for yourself every once in a while, whether it’s going out to lunch with a friend or sitting in your pajamas and watching a film.
Take care of yourself, because if you neglect your needs and desires, nobody wins!
These are some of the ways on how to be a better wife.
You don’t need to do all these things at once; instead, choose one and gradually work towards making that a habit in your relationship.
Sometimes, all it takes is a small change to make a big difference!