The search for love is one of the most important journeys you can take.
It’s a chance to find someone who will be there for you in your darkest moments, and it’s a way to discover what it means to give yourself fully to another person.
But sometimes, that journey can feel like it will never end.
You might have gone on dates with people who seemed interesting initially, but things just fell apart when you got closer.
Or maybe you’ve been in relationships where nothing ever clicked—and now you’re wondering if there’s something wrong with you.
The truth is, if you’re single, it can be tempting to think that the only reason you haven’t found love yet is because you haven’t met the right person.
But there are signs that can tell you if you’ll never find love.
Here are the top 10 signs that you will never find love.
The Top 15 Signs You Will Never Find Love
1. You’re not willing to change for anyone
If you think your partner has to change for you to be happy, then it’s probably time for a reality check.
That’s not fair to either person involved, and it’s a surefire way to end up single forever — if not now, then later down the road when that other person finally decides enough is enough and walks out on you because they’ve had enough of your selfish behavior.
Some people have to grow up and be less self-centered, some have to reduce being arrogant and egoistic, some have to work on their communication skills, etc.
You should expect to change for good in a relationship, but if you think you don’t have to change, and only your partner should change or adjust to you, you might never find love.
2. You’re afraid of letting go of control
You tend to play games when it comes to relationships because you’re afraid that if things get too serious, your partner will leave you or cheat on you, or another equally terrible thing will happen that ends with heartbreak and tears.
The problem with this way of thinking is that it ultimately leads to relationships based on distrust, which is the complete opposite of love.
Love is about being honest and open with each other, and if you’re not willing to do that (no matter how risky it is), it’s pretty much impossible to find true happiness in a relationship.
Being in love is a risk.
You risk being disappointed and heartbroken.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t apply sense when dating; as a matter of fact, I have a post on how to date without getting heartbroken, which I highly recommend that you read.
However, if you don’t want to let go of control, you won’t find love because you can’t control how a partner’s behavior, intentions, and words.
3. You’re too picky
Do you have a list of must-haves for your future partner?
If your list is too long or unrealistic, it’s probably a sign that you will never find love.
After all, no one is perfect.
Everyone has flaws, and if you’re expecting to find someone who meets all of your criteria without any exceptions, then you might as well give up now because it’s just not going to happen.
Of course, it’s essential to have standards.
You should never settle for less than you deserve in a relationship.
But if your standards are too high, you might as well be alone forever because it’s just not realistic to expect to find someone who perfectly meets all of your requirements.
4. You’re still hung up on your ex
If you’re still hung up on your ex, you won’t be able to find love.
You can’t get over them, constantly talking about them, wishing they were back in your life.
You’ll always be waiting for them instead of actively trying to find someone else who could be better for you than you’ve already experienced.
If you’re constantly comparing every new person to your ex, it’s going to be hard to see the difference between what you want and what they have to offer.
Letting go is hard when you have a good reason to hold on.
But if you don’t let go of the past, it will always hold you back.
The truth is that no one can replace your ex.
You’re not interested in finding someone who is exactly like him or her.
You just want someone better than them — and that’s a lot easier to find when you’re not spending all your time thinking about the person who broke your heart.
5. You’re a commitment-phobe
You’ve been hurt in the past and don’t want to risk getting hurt again.
You’re afraid of being vulnerable, so even when the right person comes along, you push them away because of your fear of rejection.
It can be hard to let yourself fully commit to someone else when you’ve been hurt before, but if you’re not willing to take that risk, you’ll never find love.
Love is all about taking risks.
It’s about being vulnerable and being open to the possibility of getting hurt.
But it’s also about the possibility of finding happiness and being with someone who makes you feel good about yourself.
If you’re unwilling to take that risk, you’re not looking for love.
You’re just looking for someone who will never hurt you, which is unrealistic.
Even in a healthy relationship, partners will hurt each other, usually unintentionally, but they will work through it because that’s what love is about — being there for each other through the good and bad.
6. You’re too busy for love
To find love, you need to put yourself out there and make yourself available.
If you constantly find yourself too busy with other things to meet new people or date, then you’re not going to find love.
Maybe you are so focused on your career, and work is always your number one priority that you don’t have time for a relationship.
You need to make time for dating if you want it to happen.
It’s not going to just fall into your lap.
You need to be proactive, try to meet new people, and go on dates.
It’s not always easy to find time for dating when you have a lot of other commitments, but if you’re serious about finding love, you’ll make the time.
7. You can’t take criticism
Every relationship will have its ups and downs — there will be times when your partner isn’t happy with you.
If you can’t handle it when your partner points out something that bothers them about your behavior, how will you ever be able to compromise?
8. All your relationships end badly
If all of your relationships have ended badly, chances are you’re not doing something right.
This is especially true if you’re the one who ends up being dumped.
If this happens to you repeatedly, it’s time to look in the mirror and figure out what is going on.
It’s not a coincidence that all your relationships end the same way.
There’s a reason why this keeps happening, probably because of something you’re doing wrong.
9. You’re always attracted to unavailable people
You know those people who just don’t seem like they could ever be available?
They may seem perfect for you at first glance, but once you get close enough to actually date them, it becomes clear that they have issues that would make any relationship between the two of you impossible (or at least very difficult).
Maybe they’re still in love with their ex, or maybe they’re commitment-phobic.
Whatever the case, you always seem attracted to emotionally unavailable people.
This is a huge red flag that you need to pay attention to.
10. You only care about hookups
If you’re only interested in casual flings and one-night stands, you’re unlikely to find the lasting love you’re looking for.
To find true love, you need to be open to the idea of a long-term relationship.
You must be willing to compromise, communicate, and work through tough times.
Hookups might feel good, but they will not lead to anything lasting unless you and your partner are on the same page about what you’re looking for.
11. You have no idea what you want in a partner
You’re at a complete loss when it comes to what you want in a partner.
You don’t know what you’re looking for or what you like.
This can make dating extremely difficult because you don’t know what you want, even if it’s right before you.
It’s important to take some time to think about what you want in a partner, as this will help you find more success in your dating life.
12. You don’t believe in love anymore
If you’ve been hurt in the past, it can be difficult to believe in love again.
You may have sworn off love entirely, telling yourself it’s not worth the pain.
However, this mindset will only prevent you from finding the love you deserve.
You have to keep an open mind and heart, as you never know when love will find you.
13. You think being single is better than being in a relationship
If being single doesn’t phase you and you prefer it to being in a relationship, then it’s probably true that you will never find love.
This is because you’re not looking for love and are content with your single status.
There’s nothing wrong with being single, but if you’re constantly telling yourself that being in a relationship would be worse than being alone, then it’s unlikely that you’ll ever find love.
14. You have unhealthy relationship habits
If you have unhealthy relationship habits, likely, you’ll never find love.
This is because you’re not ready for a healthy, loving relationship.
Some unhealthy relationship habits include: always needing to be right, being overly critical, being jealous or possessive, being codependent, having extreme neediness, having a bad temper, having unrealistic expectations, or being a control freak.
If you can’t seem to let go of any of these habits, then it’s best to work on yourself first before trying to find love.
15. You don’t feel worthy of being loved
If you don’t feel good enough for someone else’s affection, they won’t be able to see past your insecurities and see what a great person you are.
As long as you believe they deserve better than you, then they probably do.
Well, you’ve made it this far.
If you’re struggling to find love, it may be because of one or more of the above reasons.
Work on these things and stay hopeful; love will find you.