Being single has many benefits, but it can also be a lonely place.
I mean, single people have a lot of perks.
They can go out whenever they want, travel around the world, and not have to worry about anyone else’s schedule.
If you’re searching for a spouse but don’t seem to be finding anyone, or if you’ve been dating someone for a while and don’t feel a spark, it can be tempting to wonder if God has something else in mind for your life—like being single forever?
Here are some signs God wants you to be single forever:
10 Signs God Wants You To Be Single Forever
1. You have no desire for marriage
This is probably the most important sign that God might want you to be single forever.
Because one of the ways God accomplishes His will in our lives is by giving us the desire for that thing.
The Bible says, “for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure.” Philippians 2:13 NKJV
So, if you don’t have a burning desire to get married, it’s likely because God does not want you to be married.
If you feel that you’re meant for something more than marriage, then that is the will of God.
But if you greatly desire marriage, then God has put in you desire to be married, and I doubt He’d want you to remain single forever.
Single for a while? Maybe.
But not forever.
2. You’re too busy with ministry work or other responsibilities
Some people are so busy serving in ministry or taking care of their families that they don’t have time for dating or marriage relationships.
If this is the case with you, then there may be more important things going on in your life right now than finding a spouse.
These responsibilities may be part of God’s plan for your life — and there’s no reason why they shouldn’t continue indefinitely.
Actually, this is one of the major reasons God might want someone to be single forever—because of a divine assignment that requires their total dedication and devotion.
The Bible talks about the challenges of a married person.
“But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband. And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction.”
I Corinthians 7:32-35 NKJV
Marriage is hard work, and even as an average married person, it’s hard to balance things.
So, if you have a ministry or assignment requiring little or no distraction, especially if you don’t want to get married, God might want you to stay single.
3. You feel like marriage is more trouble than it’s worth
Marriage is tough.
It takes work and dedication, and commitment.
But if you can’t see yourself working as hard as you do now on someone else, then marriage might not be for you.
4. You don’t want kids
There’s more to marriage than having kids, but having and parenting them together as a team is a part of getting married.
If you don’t see yourself married and having kids, there may be no point in getting married at all (unless, of course, you’re doing it for other reasons).
4 . You’d rather be single than deal with an imperfect spouse or relationship
If being single means being happy with yourself and not having to deal with anyone else’s issues or problems, then God might just want you to be single forever.
It’s better to be single than to cause problems in your partner’s life or go through a messy divorce.
Marriage is a blessing if done right, but it takes a lot of tolerance because you won’t like everything about your partner or everything they do.
5. You are happy being single
If you do not desire companionship or intimacy with anyone besides yourself and God, then this may be a sign that He wants you to remain single forever.
The Lord only wants what is best for us, and He knows what we need to thrive spiritually, emotionally, and physically.
Some people want to get married because they dread the idea of being alone or living alone forever.
But if this isn’t you, if you are not afraid of living alone or being alone in general, God might have given you the grace to stay single forever.
6. You have no serious interest in dating
If you’re going to get married, you’d have to date, right?
So, if you’re not interested or have never been interested in dating, maybe God wants you to be single.
7. You don’t get envious of your married friends
It’s natural to be envious of your friends when they have something you greatly desire to have.
I mean, when you’re single and at a friend’s wedding, you fantasize about your own day.
It doesn’t mean you’re not truly happy for your friends; it’s just that your desire to be married gets rekindled by the event.
However, if you don’t get jealous of your friends who are married or engaged and they don’t awaken a desire for companionship in you, marriage might not be for you.
8. You don’t have any interest in having sex
Sex is a gift from God, and it’s meant to be enjoyed within marriage.
If you’re single and you don’t want to have sex, that’s fine.
But if you’re married and you don’t want to have sex, there’s something wrong.
It’s different if you and your partner agree not to have kids but not to get physically intimate?
That doesn’t look good.
So, if you find yourself having no interest in sex, this could be a sign from God that He wants you to remain single.
While it’s true that some people do choose celibacy as a lifestyle choice, others simply lose their desire because they are so focused on their spiritual lives that they have no time or energy left over for sexual pursuits.
But if God wants you to be single forever, He will give you the grace for it.
The Bible says, “But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”
I Corinthians 7:8-9 NKJV
If you burn with passion, God will definitely not want you to remain single forever.
He’s not a mean God.
9. You are deeply convinced you should not get married
As a child of God, you’re led and spoken to by His Spirit.
If you are deeply convinced in your spirit that God doesn’t want you to get married ever, that could be it.
This is a very important point.
Staying single forever is a huge thing, and if you’re going to agree with it, you have to be convinced by God that it’s His will for you.
10. You’ve dated many people but never fallen in love with anyone
You’ve been on many dates, but none of them have felt like the right person for you.
You still feel like there’s something missing in your life, even though you’ve been dating for a long time.
It’s not uncommon for people to settle down with someone they don’t love because they’re afraid they’ll never find anyone else.
This can lead them down a path of unhappiness as they grow older, but if God has called you into singleness, then singleness is what He has planned for you.
If He hasn’t called you into marriage yet, then it’s probably because He has something better in store for your life than just getting married for the sake of getting married.
It’s good that God doesn’t want us to get married just because it’s what everyone else is doing.
He wants us to marry because we really want to spend our lives with someone — not because we feel obligated or pressured by the media or friends.
If you don’t desire marriage and you have a conviction in your spirit that you’re to stay single, that might be the case.
It might be hard to accept because we live in a world where we’re told over and over again that marriage is the ultimate goal.
If you don’t have a spouse, it’s assumed that something must be wrong with you, and even if you do have one, there’s always pressure to appear perfect.
Marriage is beautiful, but God never intended marriage to be the end-all, be-all of life.
In fact, He created us for so much more than just two people coming together to live happily ever after.
So, you can be single and have a fulfilled life.
However, make sure you are consistent in your relationship with God and know what He wants for you per time.
He might want you to get married later, especially if you desire companionship.
Stay with God and let Him lead you per time!