When relationships end, sometimes, both parties genuinely want to part ways.
While other times, one of them is still in love and does not want to move on.
If your relationship has ended and you think your ex-girlfriend still isn’t over you, you may be right.
There are some signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you, and we will tell you what those signs are.
15 Signs Your Ex-Girlfriend Is Pretending To Be Over You
1. She Begins To Flaunt Another Guy
When your ex-girlfriend all of a sudden begins to flaunt another guy in your face, you can almost be 100% certain that she is pretending to be over you.
If she truly is over you and is happy with her life, she will not see any need to flaunt it in your face.
She would just live her life normally, and you may notice her eventually.
But you know she is pretending to be over you when she keeps trying and putting much effort into flaunting her “new man” so that you can see him.
2. She Tries Hard To Get You Jealous
Another way to know that your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you is that she tries to make you feel jealous.
She is not over you and wants you back, so she will try to ignite certain emotions like jealousy in you.
One way she may do this is by hanging out with the guy who posed as a threat to you when she was in a relationship still with you.
Or posting pictures with the man you wanted her to stay away from when she was your girl.
She will do all this to get you to feel possessive and want her back.
Because she is not over you.
3. She Stalks You
Stalking is one of the oldest tricks in the book.
Although you may not always know when your ex is stalking you (unless, of course, she mistakenly likes one of your old posts from five years ago): finding out that she is stalking you, when in real life, she acts like she does not care about you is a sign that she is pretending to be over you.
4. She Tries To Act Unbothered
If your ex-girlfriend is overly acting like she does not care about you and doing it so much that you can notice her, it is another sign that she is pretending to be over you.
She is trying so hard to hide her feelings by putting on a mask of nonchalance when in reality, beneath the mask, she really still desires you and wants to be with you.
A woman who is truly over you will live her life normally and feel no need to put up any show for you.
5. She Seizes Opportunities To See You
Another way to know that your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you is that although she acts like she is over you and does not want you back, she still grabs every opportunity to see you and make you see her.
She intentionally goes to places and attends events where she knows she will see you.
She always shows up, and sometimes if you pay attention, you can almost catch her scouting around with her eyes, trying to find you among the crowd.
This is because she is still into you.
She is just trying to pretend that it isn’t.
6. She Puts Extra Effort Into Looking Good
If your ex-girlfriend now puts more effort into her looks and ensures you see her, maybe she is not over you yet.
You may notice that she now wears the dress you loved on her when she was your girl and literally bathes herself with the scents of the perfumes you love.
She is trying to get your attention by attracting you.
What other reason could it be for than the fact that she is not over you yet?
7. She Makes Too Many Social Media Posts
Another way to know that your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you is that she makes too many social media posts after the breakup.
Usually, after a breakup, people take time to withdraw, heal, and be alright before they resume social media activities.
But to make you think she is over you, your ex-girlfriend may immediately begin to bombard her social media pages with posts and content that make it seem like she does not care and she is emotionally fine.
Most of the time, she is not fine.
She is just putting up a pretense.
8. She Brings Up Memories
While you may be trying to heal and get over her, your ex-girlfriend (who you expect to be moving on as well) may spring up out of nowhere, bringing up memories of times you shared together.
This may come off as a surprise to you because she had earlier acted like she was moving on and had gotten over you.
The truth is that she has not.
She was only pretending to be over you, and now, she is subtly trying to make you want her again.
9. You Still Have Some Of Her Things
Another way to know that your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you is that she keeps returning for her things.
You may have given her her properties that were in your possession, and you are sure that you no longer have any of her things in your house, but she keeps coming back.
She may be coming back for insignificant things or even things she made up to get into your house.
Once you notice this, know that she is just pretending to be over you and is really not over you yet.
It’s either that or she is trying to rob your house.
I’m just kidding.
10. She Keeps Returning Your Things
Another trick she may employ is to flip it the other way around by returning to your place often to “return” your stuff.
Just when you thought she had returned everything and would not return to your place, she shows up again to return your hair brush.
11. She Gives Mixed Signals
Mixed signals are a classic sign that your ex-girlfriend pretends to be over you.
Because she is pretending, her actions will come off as very confusing to you.
Today, she acts like she has fully moved on and has her ish together; tomorrow, she is entirely different, contacting you for one thing or another.
12. She Blames You For The Breakup
Another way to know that your ex-girlfriend is not over you, even though she says she is, is that she blames you for the failure of the relationship.
While she may tell you that she is over the relationship and even act like she is sometimes, deep down, she actually isn’t.
She still thinks about you and wishes the relationship does not end.
So she blames you for the breakup.
13. She Stays In Touch
After your relationship ended, you expected her to move on with her life while you did the same.
But for some reason, she has refused to stop reaching out to you.
At every slight chance she gets, she calls or texts you.
If you have noticed this, even if she says she is over you, there is a high chance she is not.
14. She Flirts With You
She told you she is over you and moving on with her life.
Which is fine.
But to your shock, she sometimes acts like you both are still together.
This is because even though the relationship is over, she is not over you.
15. She Is Sabotaging You
If your ex-girlfriend claims to be over you but shows up out of the blue one day and does something to sabotage you, you know for a fact that she lied.
Her deliberate effort at doing something to hurt you is proof that she has not gotten over you.
She may have tried hard to hide it but got overwhelmed with emotions and decided to unleash them negatively.
So, what do you do?
Talk to her about it.
Ask her why she’s acting the way she is even though she claims to have moved on.
This way, you can get to the bottom of the situation and take the necessary steps toward resolution.
Closure is always important for a clean break and will help you both to move on.