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To Love and To Hold : ''She trusts people easily.''

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Abdulkadir, a Geologist is married to Bola, a civil servant working at the Foreign Service sector. Enjoy their interview :

How long have you been married? 

Bola : 17 years.

Abdulkadir : 17 years.

 How did you meet? 

Bola : Through a fellow corp member.

Abdulkadir : We met through someone.

What attracted you to him/her?

Bola : His honesty.

Abdulkadir : Her simplicity and truthfulness.

What do you appreciate about him/her? 

Bola : He’s very kind, supportive and empathetic.
Abdulkadir : She’s caring and intelligent.
What do you wish he/she improves on?

Bola : His temper.

Abdulkadir : She trusts people easily.
How does he/she complement you? 

Bola : Playing certain motherly roles some exigencies of my profession won’t allow me from time to time.

Abdulkadir : She’s an extrovert.
Who apologizes the most?

Bola : He does.

Abdulkadir : Me.

How do you settle quarrels?

Bola : We discuss.

Abdulkadir : We talk it out.

What do you think are the ingredients of a happy marriage?

Bola : Love, trust, understanding, communication.

Abdulkadir : Love, trust, and understanding.

What are the most important lessons you have learnt in marriage so far? 

Bola : Patience

Abdulkadir : To be extremely patient.
 If there was a next life, would you love to be married to him/her?

Bola : I definitely WILL!!! Lol.

Abdulkadir : Sure.


I observed some similarities between this interview and the previous one. Indicate in the comment section if you did too. Lol.

This series is aimed at portraying the beauty and dynamics of marriage despite its imperfection.

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Thursday 21st of September 2017

That's very unfair. You should talk to him about this.

olubunmi mabel

Thursday 21st of September 2017

Hmmmm. You need to talk to him about it. Saying sorry doesn't remove anything from his ego.

olubunmi mabel

Thursday 21st of September 2017

Maybe it's the men who offend most. ???


Thursday 21st of September 2017

Same here everytime whether he is wrong or right , he will keep malice till I apologise


Monday 18th of September 2017

well i am a lady ..and i find myself apologizing to my husband all the time regardless of whose fault it is..i am beginning to resent it ....