Have you ever wondered why the other woman hates the wife?
If you are the wife, and your husband has had or still has an affair, it is not unusual for you to have had one or two unpleasant encounters with the other woman (your husband’s mistress).
Maybe she was hostile or rude to you, saying terrible things or even trying to harm you.
And you wonder why she hates you so much when, in fact, you should be the one bearing grievances against her.
But why does the other woman hate the wife?
This article answers your questions.
And if you are the mistress AKA the other woman, you may want to read this article too, especially if you have feelings of hatred for the man’s wife.
You may have noticed that you have lots of ill feelings that you can not even help having towards her, and you may be wondering why.
This article will give you some of the reasons why the other woman hates the wife.
Why The Other Woman Hates The Wife
The relationship (if any exists) between the wife and the other woman, is usually a cold and unpleasant one.
While some mistresses are afraid of the wife and try to avoid her, others have nothing but full-blown hatred for the wife due to these reasons:
1. She Knows The Wife Has Security
People hate other people who have what they do not have.
Another reason the other woman hates the wife is the wife has security in terms of marriage.
On the other hand, she is nothing more than a sidepiece.
No matter how much a man loves and prioritizes the other woman, she knows his wife is a constant in his life, and he will always go home to her.
This can make the other woman loathe and hate the wife.
A man may tell the other woman how much he does not like his wife and is even looking into getting a divorce, but she knows those may be mere words, and she is more at risk of being left alone than his wife.
This single reason can make the other woman hate the wife.
2. The Wife Is Legal
Apart from the fact that the wife has the security of marriage, she may have the fortification of a legal marriage.
While some people just get married traditionally, others do so legally.
Since that is the case with the husband and wife, it is another reason for the other woman to be angry and hateful towards the wife.
In a legal marriage, the other woman knows her position is inherently less secure than the wife.
And no matter how her insecurity tries to make her assert dominance to improve her standing, it simply may not work because the wife has legal backing.
The man’s legal wife automatically enjoys the privilege of legal standing, and this is not something the mistress can get simply because she warms the man’s bed.
3. She Thinks The Wife Is Undeserving
The other woman may say to herself, “She doesn’t love or care for him as much as I do.”
The other woman can choose to vilify the wife because she thinks the wife does not deserve the man as she does.
She may justify her actions by holding on to thoughts of how the wife is not as caring for her husband as she, the other woman, is.
Or how less deserving the wife is due to her appearance, class, etc.
These thoughts can make the other woman hate the wife even more.
When you feel more deserving of a “prize,” and you have to share it with someone you consider less deserving, hatred for that person can fill your heart.
Sometimes, the other woman thinks she is more deserving of the wife’s husband than the wife.
So she hates her.
4. The Wife Is Hindering Her Happiness
The other woman can hate the wife simply because she believes that the wife is hindering her happiness by sharing the man with her.
The fact that she has to share his attention, care, love, time, and money makes her loathe the wife.
Funny right?
But it happens.
You would think that being an illegal occupant in that relationship, the other woman should be ashamed, but that isn’t always the case.
She can be entitled and hate the wife for hindering her happiness, especially on days when the man has to leave the mistress because he has an emergency at home or his wife called.
5. She Is Jealous Of The Wife
Jealousy easily spills into hatred.
The other woman can hate the wife because she is jealous of what the wife has and sees herself as inferior to the wife in many ways: looks, personality, intelligence or whatever else comes into play in these relationships.
If the man were truly happy with her as a partner, why would he still be married?
Why didn’t he leave the wife?
She knows deep down that there’s something missing between them and that’s why he keeps going back to his wife no matter how much time he spends with her.
The reality of her dysfunctional relationship makes her even more jealous because she realizes that she is just a mistress and because the man cheats on his wife with her does not mean that he loves her.
The awareness of the advantages that the wife has over her can make her hate the wife.
6. The Wife Has Access To His Family
Here is another cause for jealousy and hatred.
A man’s family (parents, siblings, and even friends) are more likely to know his wife and be familiar with her than his mistress.
Most families do not even know, nor will they welcome the man’s mistress, but their doors are always open to his wife.
The knowledge of this fact can make the other woman hate the wife.
7. The Wife Has Kids
While children do not exactly keep a marriage or make it better, the fact that their presence keeps a bond between both parents even if one is cheating cannot be denied.
A woman having children with her husband is another reason for the other woman to hate her.
The mistress possibly does not have kids with the man and she knows that even if she does, they are children born out of wedlock and will not have a proper family with their father.
Knowing this can breed hatred for the man’s wife.
8. She’s Worried About Getting Caught
The other woman is always worried about getting caught.
She’s worried about being exposed as a homewrecker.
We all know how society hates homewreckers.
They are never forgiven.
So, the other woman has to keep up appearances, and that means she has to pretend to be a normal person.
She has to act like she’s not trying to steal someone else’s husband, even though that’s exactly what she is trying to do.
She has to pretend like she doesn’t know what she’s doing when she goes out with her friends and they talk about infidelity.
She also knows that if her affair is discovered, she’ll lose her lover and suffer the wrath of his wife.
9. Guilt
Still wondering why the other woman hates the wife?
The answer is simple: guilt.
Deep down, the other woman knows what she’s done is bad and she feels guilty about it.
She has probably tried to rationalize her behavior and convince herself that what she’s doing isn’t really so terrible.
She might even try to argue that she deserves happiness too, just like the wife does.
But at the end of the day, she knows dating another woman’s husband is wrong, and that makes her feel guilty, thus, hating the wife for it.
10. She’s in Love With Her Husband
If you’ve ever been the other woman, you know that it’s not fun.
You’re probably miserable.
You know he’s married, but you keep hanging around anyway—and that’s because your feelings for him are real.
The other woman might hate the wife because she’s in love with her husband.
It’s not just about sleeping together or having an affair—it’s about being in love and being with the man you love without hiding.
The other woman has a special connection with him, but she’s not allowed to act on it because he’s married.
11. The Other Woman is a Psychopath
The other woman could also be a psychopath.
She wants to hurt you.
She wants to destroy your marriage, and she will do whatever it takes to get what she wants—even if that means destroying herself.
She can’t be reasoned with or talked out of her feelings for your husband.
She will lie, steal, cheat, and even kill for him if that’s what it takes to keep him for herself.
She won’t be able to help herself—it’s in her nature to act this way because of her personality disorder.
Final Words.
Mistresses or women who get involved with other women’s husbands must realize from the beginning that the relationship they are going into is self-defeating.
If they decide to tow that path, they must be aware that it comes with a lot of things, many times, unpleasant.
The man is not very likely to leave his wife for his mistress even if he says he will.
And even if he does leave his wife, the mistress knows what she has in him is an uncommitted man who can leave her just like she left his wife.
Oftentimes, the odds are stacked against the mistress in most cases.
Let us not forget that the wife has the advantage of longevity of the relationship, and probably friendship with the man and the sympathy of shared history and experiences.
All these are more than enough reasons for the other woman to hate the wife.
