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28 Deep, Emotional, & Painful Messages To a Cheating Husband

28 Deep, Emotional, & Painful Messages To a Cheating Husband

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Being cheated on by someone who vowed to cherish you, love you unconditionally, and be faithful is one of the most painful experiences a person can go through.

If you’re struggling with this heartache and need painful messages to a cheating husband, you are at the right place.

Sending painful messages to a cheating husband might not necessarily take away your pain, but it can help you to release some of the hurt, anger, and betrayal you’re feeling.

It can also be a way to communicate your feelings and needs and start the healing process, so you can begin to move on from this difficult time in your life.

Whether you are willing to forgive your husband and work on your marriage, you are done trying, or you don’t know what to do, you’ll find a message that meets your needs in the list below.


28 Painful Messages To a Cheating Husband


”I never thought I would be writing a message like this. I never thought I would be the wife who gets cheated on. But here I am. And here you are. Cheating on me. It hurts me more than you will ever know.”



”Dear Husband, I have to tell you that I’m not sure what to do. You have been cheating on me. I know this because of the evidence in my hands: emails, texts, and very incriminating messages. I don’t know how you will react to this message, but I hope it will open your eyes and make you understand what is at stake here – our marriage and our children’s future!”



”I tried to tell myself that it was just a one-time thing, that you would never do it again. But I was fooling myself. I could see the signs that you were cheating on me, but I didn’t want to believe them. Maybe it was the late nights at work or the sudden interest in working out and getting in shape. Or maybe it was the way you stopped paying attention to me and our relationship. Whatever the signs were, I chose to ignore them because I loved you and wanted to believe that you loved me too. But now I know the truth. You have been cheating on me and our marriage for months, possibly years. And it has torn me apart. I hope you are prepared for the consequences of your infidelity.”



”I don’t understand how you could do this to me after all we’ve been through together. We’ve been married for ** years and have ** beautiful children. You have been the best father and husband I could ever ask for. How could you throw all that away? I used to think that if something happened to me, you would take care of our kids and always be there for them no matter what. It hurts so much when I think about how wrong I was about that!”



”It’s your choice if you want to stick around and try to work things out or not. But if you do, I want a few things from you. I want you to be honest with me. I want you to tell me everything that happened and why it happened. I need to know if this was one time or multiple times, who else was involved, and what happened exactly. I also need some time away from you right now. I can’t be around you when I feel like this. It will just make the situation worse than it already is.”



”Dear cheating husband, I can’t begin to describe how hurt I am that you would do this to me. It’s not just that you cheated on me but that you denied it when I confronted you about it and called me crazy. You didn’t even have the decency to own up to what happened and tell me you were sorry. I was a fool for believing your lies and putting up with your cheating for so long. I wish I could go back in time and never meet you so that I wouldn’t have been hurt by someone who was supposed to love me unconditionally. I hope someday you will realize what an idiotic mistake it was to cheat on me.”

Painful Messages To a Cheating Husband


”Dear Husband, I know you don’t want to hear this, but I have to tell you. You have been cheating on me for a long time now. And I am tired of it. You have hurt me so much that I can’t even look at myself in the mirror anymore. You have made me feel worthless and ugly, and I don’t know what to do anymore. We had such a beautiful relationship once. And now, all I see is a man who doesn’t care about anything except his selfish needs and desires. I wish you could understand how much this hurts me, but maybe you don’t care enough anymore to try and understand how much it hurts me.”



”Dear cheating husband, I’m writing this letter to you because I don’t know what else to do. You’ve been cheating on me for years, and I’m tired of it. I’ve tried counseling, and I’ve tried talking to you about it. You always promise that things will change, but they never do.



I want you to know that I love you so much, and if you really care about me, stop hurting me by cheating on me. I know you think the other woman makes you feel like a man again, but she’s not making you a better husband. She’s not making your marriage better; she’s only making it worse by giving you an excuse to cheat on me every chance you get!



”When we married, I promised to love, honor, and cherish you for better or worse until death do us part. But now, my love for you has been replaced with anger and resentment over your betrayal of me and our marriage vows. But what hurts the most is not knowing who you are anymore. You’ve lied about so many things for so long that I don’t know what’s real anymore. We never talk about anything anymore except when arguing about this affair or that affair. I want my husband back, the man I married. I want to trust and believe in you again, but I don’t know if that’s even possible anymore.”



”My heart is broken into a million pieces because of what you did. I trusted you, and you betrayed me. I loved you, and you used me. I believed in you, and you let me down. You hurt me more than anyone has ever hurt me, and I don’t know if I can forgive you for that. Right now, I need some time away from you to try and figure out what to do next. Maybe with some distance, I’ll be able to see things more clearly and make a decision about what to do next.”



”I know you can’t see it now, but I think it’s important that you know I’ve forgiven you. My forgiveness doesn’t mean that I don’t still have feelings of anger and betrayal toward you, but it does mean that I will work hard at forgiving you because I want our marriage to survive. Sometimes, it feels like this relationship was over before it ever began. But we both know that isn’t true. We both know we love each other and want to spend our lives together. It will take some time before we can get there again.” 



”This is not how I expected our marriage to turn out when we married. I expected faithfulness, love, and commitment from you. But instead, I got lies, deception, and heartache. I want to leave you but can’t because I still love you. And so, I stay in this unhappy marriage because I don’t know what else to do.”



”I’m writing to you because I can’t bear to hear the words coming out of your mouth anymore. You’ve been lying to me for so long that I don’t even know what to believe anymore. The only thing I do know is that there’s no way for me to trust you again. You know, I’ve never given up on anyone before. I’ve always been there for people who needed me, but you pushed me so far away that it felt like there was nothing left to do but give up. If you’re reading this message and wondering if we’re still together, let me save you some time: we aren’t. I can’t take it anymore. I can’t take the constant lying, cheating, and deception. I deserve better than that.”



”I am very disappointed in you and the way you have conducted yourself. I will never understand how a man can be so disloyal, unfaithful, and selfish. I know that you love me, and I also know that somewhere inside of you, there is a good person who wants to be happy. But to find happiness, first, you must gain respect for yourself and others, especially women. As of now, I no longer feel any love for you. I’m so done with your cheating behavior.”



”Dear Cheating Husband, I am writing to you because I need to speak my mind. I am a woman who has been cheated on; as you may imagine, it is very painful. There are many forms of cheating, some worse than others, but it is still cheating in all aspects. You have chosen to hurt me by sleeping with another woman, which can never be undone. I lost my trust in you, and now I am trying to rebuild it. But I feel like it will never be the same again because I don’t know how far you went with her in this affair. It will take time for me to heal from this betrayal, but I know I will get there eventually. But for now, all I can do is try my best not to let this affect how I look at myself or how I feel about life.”

Painful Messages To a Cheating Husband


”You see, I have been sitting on a time bomb for the past year or so. It’s been waiting for just the right moment to explode and when it does, I think it will tear us apart forever. The bomb is called jealousy. Jealousy is one of the most painful emotions that a person can experience. It makes you see red when someone else gets what you want, even if they don’t deserve it! They might not even be doing anything wrong, but they are in your way, and that’s all that matters. I am jealous of your other women because they are getting what I want: Your attention, love, and affection! You used to give me all those things before we got married, but now I feel like I am only getting scraps from your table. And even worse than that? You don’t seem to care how much pain you are causing me! So, this is me giving you an ultimatum: It’s either them or me. I refuse to share you with anyone else. If you can’t give me your undivided attention, I am out of here.”



”Dear Husband, I am writing this message to you today because I can no longer hold my emotions in. I am hurt, angry, and confused. You are the love of my life, and I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my body. You have broken me into a million pieces, and I do not know if we can ever be put back together again. I have been trying to figure out why this happened. Why did you cheat on me? What was wrong with me? Why did you not come to me with your problems instead of running to someone else for comfort? We had everything we needed in our relationship; we were happy…in love…happy family…and now it feels like your actions have destroyed everything. It hurts because I loved you so much and thought we would always be together no matter what life threw our way. But now, when I look at you, all I see is a stranger, and it hurts more than anything that could ever happen between us. I wish things could go back to how they were before, but that is impossible now because something happened between us that cannot be undone or forgotten about easily by either one of us.”



”I can’t believe you had the nerve to tell me that you loved me when you were cheating on me with another woman all along! I feel like such a fool for believing your lies. The worst part is that I believed you were going through a midlife crisis, and things would get better once you met your needs. I gave up so much for you and our family, but it was all for nothing because you were too busy being a selfish pig.”



”I was shocked and devastated when I found out about your affair. My world came crashing down, and I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I know you love me, but you betrayed me in the worst way possible. You have no idea how much it hurts to think you were having sex with someone else while we were together. I thought we had something special, but now I’m not so sure. You hurt me badly by cheating on me and lying to me for so long. I don’t know if we can ever get past this or if our relationship is worth saving.”



”How can I ever trust anything you say? How can I ever trust myself again? And how could you do this to our children? Your betrayal has destroyed them too, and it will be years before they truly recover from what they’ve witnessed. You have broken my heart and devastated our entire family. You are a disgrace to mankind and an embarrassment to our community. You have no idea how much pain you have caused by your actions – not just to me but also to our children, their friends, and everyone who loves us.”

Painful Messages To a Cheating Husband


”I have been faithful and loyal to you since our wedding day. I have given you the best years of my life, raised your children, and supported your dreams. I have been there for you through thick and thin, good times and bad. You have never appreciated anything I have done for you. I am tired of being taken advantage of. You don’t respect me or appreciate me. You take me for granted, but I will not allow this to continue any longer! I am sick of being a doormat who puts up with everything that comes her way! I am tired of being the one who always has to “bend over backward” for everyone else’s happiness but mine! It is time for me to put myself first and make my own happiness!”



”I’ve never cheated on you, but you’ve been cheating on me. I’m hurt that you would put me in a situation where I had to find out about your affair. I’m angry because of the damage that has been done to our marriage and family. You knew I loved you and wanted nothing more than for our marriage to work. You knew how much faith I put into our vows, yet you betrayed me anyway. I feel betrayed by your actions and words, but more importantly by your silence and lack of remorse .”



”I want to forgive you, I really do. But it’s so hard when I see you and all I can think about is you with her. It hurts so much to think about what you did. I trusted you, and you broke that trust. I loved you, and you betrayed me. I don’t know if I can ever get past this, but I’m willing to try.”



”I have done everything I can to make our marriage work. I am tired of feeling like a failure. You are the one who has failed me and our family. You have broken my heart so many times that it is almost impossible for me to believe that you love me anymore. I know people have cheated on their spouses before, but this isn’t the first time it has happened in our relationship. It seems like every time we get close to making things better, something happens that causes us to fall apart again, and then we just end up going through the same cycle over and over again, with each new betrayal adding another layer of pain onto an already fragile relationship. I’m just tired.”



”I have never told anyone else that they mean more to me than you do. I have never made a move on anyone else because I know the love we share is special. I have never given another man anything but my friendship, because you are the only one who can make me feel complete. But what do I get in return? You go out and cheat on me with someone who is nothing to you. Someone who means nothing to our family. Someone who will never understand the depth of our love. How could you do this to me? To us?”

Painful Messages To a Cheating Husband


”I have been faithful and loyal to you for over *** years. You on the other hand have been cheating on me for the past *** years. I have tried to be understanding, but enough is enough! I know that you were not happy in our marriage, but neither was I! You would constantly complain about everything and then take it out on me. You never considered my feelings or needs. I always put you first, but it was never enough for you. I just wanted to let you know that I’m done trying.”



”Dear Husband, I know you’re not the man I married. You’re not the same person I fell in love with. And it’s not just because of the affair. It’s because of everything else that’s happened since. You’ve changed, but so have I. And I’m not sure we can ever return to being who we were when we married. I remember how much fun we had together when I first met you. We laughed all the time and had such a great time together. We weren’t perfect, but then again, who is? But we loved each other, and that’s what mattered most to us at that time. Now, it seems like all we do is argue and fight. We’re constantly bickering about this or that; to make it worse, you cheated on me. I don’t know how we’ll go from here.”


I hope some of these messages met your need. 


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