According to developmental Psychologist, Eric Erikson, teen years is a time of identity formation and desire for intimacy.
So, it’s not out of place for you as a teen girl to desire to love and be loved by someone.
Success in handling this stage of life leads to healthy identity formation and good relationships while failure could lead to identity crisis, heartbreaks, inferiority complex, and depression.
It’s imperative for you as a teenage girl to be armed with relevant information that will help you to stay on top of your game when it comes to dating/relationship.
Because wrong decisions in this stage of life could spell doom for your future and also, ladies are usually at the receiving end of sour relationships .
Even though my teenage years weren’t perfect, I’m glad I scaled through without many scars.
That’s why I’ll be sharing 11 best dating/relationship tips for teenage girls.
11 Best Dating/Relationship Tips for Teenage Girls
1. The best love you can have is self-love
Love yourself, everything else starts from there.
Self-love influences everything you do, most especially your dating choices.
The degree to which you love yourself is the extent to which you let certain things happen to you.
You can never love yourself too much. If you love and value yourself, you won’t make poor dating choices. You won’t be with someone who treats you lesser than you treat yourself. You’ll set the pace for how you’ll be treated in a relationship.
Don’t go looking for someone to love you when you don’t even love yourself. You’ll suffer for it.
No matter how much a guy loves you, it can never take the place of self-love.
In fact, if a guy says he’s no longer in love with you, it doesn’t change the way you treat yourself because you know his decision has nothing to do with you.
What’s the secret?
Girl, you gotta love the sh*t out of yourself.
2. Build a healthy self-esteem(this influences your dating choices)
Self-esteem is an entire judgment of your own worth.
Just like self-love, a healthy self-esteem means you won’t allow yourself to be treated poorly.
When you have a healthy self-esteem, you’ll never feel unworthy of someone’s love. You’ll know that you deserve to be loved, and that no guy is doing you a favour for loving you.
3. Develop relationships with other teens(male and female)
While a romantic relationship is fun, it’s not the only relationship you’ll need in life.
So, spend time to build meaningful friendships and relationships with other teens, male and female.
Some of these relationships can later blossom into lasting friendships later in life.
4. Have a mentor/role model in relationship and career
Experience is the best teacher, but the tuition fee could be high.
You don’t have time to figure everything out for yourself and by yourself. It is wiser, cheaper and faster to have a (worthy) mentor or someone whose life you prefer to model yours after.
Learn from their mistakes, look for cues and read their books (if they’ve written any).
It’s advisable to have mentors in different aspects of life: career, relationship, marriage, finance, spiritual etc.
If there’s a couple you know that have a good marriage, you can make them your mentor and let them guide you in your dating choices.
It’s not uncommon for teenagers to think they’re independent and don’t need any guide from anyone.
But a wiser teenager knows better.
5. Be selective with your friends. They influence your dating choices and life in general
Show me your friends and I’ll tell you where you are headed.
No matter how smart you are, your association affects your life in various ways.
Make friends with people who respect you and vice versa.
If your friends don’t know your worth, best believe it would be difficult to convince you of it either.
Also, wise friends can influence the quality of your relationship. They can either talk you into or out of a bad relationship, and you’re likely to listen to them because as a teenager, your friends’ opinions matter.
6. Don’t develop an unhealthy crush that will crush you
According to popular opinion, “crushes” are what make the teen years memorable.
A crush is not the whole world, it’s just a part of life. Frankly, your crush reflects who you are as a person, your sense of judgment and your values.
Don’t crush in such a way that it interferes with your life. Before you go confessing your feelings, bear in mind that unrequited feelings is disastrous.
Self-love will help you not to waste your feelings on someone who does not love you.
7. Get a life, develop yourself, discover your passion
There should be other things that make your life interesting.
What do you like? What are your gifts and abilities?
You have your whole life ahead of you, and you will never have these teen years again.
Make the best of them, there’s so much to discover about yourself, other people and the world.
8. Don’t have s*x to please anyone
It is very important to not allow yourself be pressured into getting it on with anyone, especially to feel among or to please a guy.
Respect your body and your soul.
You have dreams to achieve and you can’t afford to let anything get in the way of your dreams, not unwanted pregnancies, not baby mama dramas, not sexually transmitted infections.
9. Love and accept your body
You are beautiful, just the way you are. Be your own definition of beautiful.
Don’t try to fit into the society’s definition of beauty because you won’t always meet up with the society’s standards.
Accept your flaws. Nobody can shame you with the flaws you already accepted.
10. Don’t let love make you do foolish things. Be selfish. You come first
I watched the story of a beautiful and brilliant seventeen year old girl on Investigation Discovery Channel who accompanied her boyfriend to burglarize a shop. They were apprehended at the crime scene and sentenced to some years in prison.
Twenty years later, they were still in the prison (different prisons). because there was loss of life.
Imagine how she foolishly wasted her life because of some stupid love?
Don’t take your heart on your journey without your brain. This is why you should have mentors to guide you aright.
11. Have a relationship with your Creator
No, having a relationship with God isn’t old fashioned. It’s actually one of the things that helped me through my teenage years until now.
It’s one of the best decisions you can ever make for yourself.
Here are my 11 best dating/relationship tips for teen girls. I wish you all the best!
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