• communication,  guest post,  love,  Relationships

    The Secret Ingredient to Building Lasting Relationships

    When I say relationships, I mean all kinds of it – friendships, romantic relationships, work place relationships, parent-child relationships, housemates, every kind of relationship you can ever think of. Relationships come in all shapes and sizes and inasmuch as we would love them to go on forever, sometimes they are cut short. In some cases, these relationships are cut off intentionally. In some others, sadly, they are not intentional. Friction, misunderstanding, change of plans, cheating, ego, pressure, anything can cause a relationship to unintentionally disrupt. What if I told you that there is a secret to building very lasting relationships? We may think that relationships are just meant to be…

  • cheating,  infidelity,  love,  marriage,  Relationships

    THE BANK THAT HELPS PEOPLE FORGIVE THEIR PARTNER(S) WHO CHEATED!!!

                    Perhaps one of the most discussed issues in marriage is infidelity, popularly known as ‘cheating’. People keep asking, ‘’Why do men cheat?’’ as if women are not involved in this business too. Lol. Would it be safe to say that men cheat more than women? Well, as a social scientist, I wouldn’t make such a hasty conclusion until there is a research to confirm that. So two weeks ago, I ran an opinion poll on my Facebook timeline, asking if people would forgive their partner(s) if they cheated on them. I asked the question because each time someone, usually a woman, laments on social media that her husband cheated…

  • love,  pre-wedding,  Relationships,  wedding

    THREE MAJOR REASONS WHY YOU SHOULDN’T DO A PRE-WEDDING PHOTO SHOOT

    Yeah yeah. I know you’re probably looking at me one kain, because I shared the benefits of having a pre-wedding photo shoot in my last blog post. But I understand that while some people are persuaded on the need to do a pre-wedding photo shoot, some are not. And I tell you what? It’s fine. You don’t have to do it. It’s not compulsory, especially for the three reasons below: 1.      If you don’t have the financial power, please don’t! There have been stories of couples who couldn’t pay their photographers after their wedding. Some no-nonsense photographers even demand for their pay at the wedding venue, and when the couples…

  • love,  pre-wedding,  Relationships,  weddings

    WHY PRE-WEDDING PHOTO SHOOT (PWPS)?

    Weddings are beautiful and pre-wedding photo shoot has recently become a trend in wedding features. Though this trend has been in existence from way back, but definitely not in the way it’s been done now. Back then, lovers visit a photo studio to have one or two shots with boring poses, but now, outdoor photography with creative poses have taken over. Yipeeee! There are three types of attitude people exhibit towards this trend: Positive attitude: Some people welcome the trend and see it as meaningful to a wedding. The extreme is that some are obsessed with it and think that a wedding without a pre-wedding photo shoot doesn’t make sense.…

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    SHARING OF NUDES IN A RELATIONSHIP. YAY OR NAY?

    After touring the three biggest bridal shops in the city of Ibadan, Jacqueline eventually got her perfect gown. Femi, in his unusual demeanour, patiently accompanied her to the shops. “Excuse me,” Jacqueline said as she reached for her vibrating phone. “Jacq,” the deep voice from the other end called. She moved further when she recognized the owner of the voice. Mensah! “You think you can leave me for another man and be free? You left me brokenhearted and you think I’d let you go? You must be kidding.” She walked out of the shop. “Mensah, are you out of your senses? Is it by force? I left you because i…

  • Relationships

    A MUST-READ TIPS FOR PREPARING FOR YOUR NIGERIAN WEDDING

                I wish I could have another wedding this year!             Surprised? I know, right? I just had one last month. Lol. But this is me being sincere. I know people say that marriage is more important than wedding, but that doesn’t mean one shouldn’t or cannot have a satisfying wedding ceremony. Weddings are sweet, but marriage should be, hopefully, sweeter.              So if you’re preparing for your wedding (especially as a Nigerian), you’re lucky. I’d be sharing FIVE helpful tips that you should consider in preparing for your wedding. Come with me…. BUDGETING I kinda learnt this one from hubby as he kept saying to me while we were…

  • Relationships

    WHY DO MARRIED FOLKS CHEAT?

    How do I start writing on this very sensitive topic which I am clearly passionate about. Much profound literary ink has been flowing on this theme and I wish to add mine in the following lines.      When women cheat, it’s often considered a scandal; never has cheating been as easy as it is now, when finding a willing partner to cheat with is a click or a phone tap away with the advent of technology.    Men have been dubbed natural ‘cheaters’, ‘permitted philanderers’ and the ‘potentially polygamous gender’, not same with the female gender, but what exactly drives married women to cheat? And do they stray as much…

  • Relationships

    FACEBOOK LOVE

    Glittering lips, gorgeous face and profound updates… I stumbled upon her profile via her shared post by a mutual friend… With over a hundred mutual friends, I decided to send a friend request… As If waiting for the request or her hand was on ‘auto-accept’, my request was promptly granted… ”Hi dear’ fizzled into  ”Hello hun” and ”How is my favourite person doing?” To get her number, I stylishly asked If she was on whatsapp and she answered in the affirmative… We became an inseparable item chatting all day and night as our interests clicked and preferences fused whilst we practically lived on BBM… We expend close to a year…

  • Relationships

    LOVE IN THE GAOL…. Episode 5.

    Sharon cleaned her moistened face, feeling relieved after she cried. Crying is a medium of emotional relief, not a sign of weakness or helplessness. Neither is it a women’s thing. Any culture that forbids men from crying is surely one that hastens them to an early grave.  She thought of the next step to take. She resisted the thought of calling Ann. Taking decisions on her own without the prodding of anyone is the mark of an adult. She sat on the bed to review her plans. Moving out of the house is as sure as the back of her palm. A life was on her neck to save.      …